sharyll

I understand the desire to want to walk away from a husband. I have been there as recently as three months ago. I was serious enough that I talked to a lawyer. However, after much prayer and counseling, I am trying to make it work. I know in my situation part of the problem was me. My husband has gone and gotten some help as well and that has helped. My question for you is, is he willing to go and get some counseling? I am not a member of the church because of my husband's objections to it. I have been told I am a "dry mormon" and truly believe that. I am trying to honor my husband and be supportive. Slowly over the last three months my husband has been starting to live more of a christian life. We have a long way to go before he might accept the true gospel. I have had an overwhelming peace to stay with him and live out the lds doctrine the best I can with Heavenly Father's help. We also have a child and I feel it is best to stay even if the marriage is having great difficulties. Another idea might be if there is emotional abuse, etc. to ask for a seperation. I know that the time my husband was away did help us as well. I guess what I am trying to say is there is hope for marriage. I would agree if there is extreme emotional (name calling), intimidating, bullying, physical or sexual abuse that you need to protect you and your kids. I agree that talking to the bishop is a great idea. Thanks for listening to my ramblings and hope this helps. Sharyl

I have struggled most of my married life with having to work and wanting to stay home. I have worked part-time which has allowed me to be at home with my son as much as I possibly can. Slowly things have improved for my husband and I finacially until we had a huge set back with my husband getting in trouble with work "Navy" and due to this he lost pay probably be home the remainder of his naval career (18 months or so). We are now struggling again. We just bought a house which my husband wanted and I am struggling with that decision. Since he is the head of the family, I am letting him make this decision hoping this will be good for the family even though I worry about the financial part. Because of my worry and concerns about past maritial issues I started looking for full-time work. Well I got offered several interviews and actually did interview for one. I was offered the job today. However due to some things that happened at the interview I chose not to take the job. When I had left the interview I felt this would not be a good fit and chose to turn down the job. Well now I am wondering if I made the right choice. I think maybe I was suppose to take it. This is all based on fiancial issues. I did not like the attitude of the boss, I didn't like the amount of workload I would be expected to carry which would have met many extra hours after work as well as how clingy my son has been with me even going back to work. I felt awful leaving him for work when we have been home all summer together. Anyway, have you struggled with this and what have you done with uncertain feelings?

I want to thank you for posting and letting me know your opinions. I do not know how to put my husband's name into the temple rolls but will find out and do that. I do know that since I have not spoke of the lds issues that he has been more open about going to our church, tithing and living a christian life according to the church we believe. It is a positive step. I will continue to study, pray and maybe talk to the bishop. Basically you gave me the same advice as my friends and family who are lds. It sometimes is hard to wait but I think it is the right thing to do. I will also continue to come here and learn. Thanks so much for your support. Sharyl

I am wondering is it possible to be baptized without your husband's permission and done without him knowing? If I do get baptized it will cause huge issues in our marriage. I just cannot face those challenges and maybe my faith is not strong enough to do so. I just know I want to be baptized right now. What do you all think? I will make my own decision but just want to hear others opinions Sharyl

Hi Trev, I am not a member of the church but lived in the Everett, Lynnwood area for 8 yrs before moving with my husband in the Navy. Lynwood and Everett have their nice areas but there is also a lot of crime in those areas. It is definately big city life. I would avoid most of Everett. As for Lake Stevens, Marysville - nice areas as I remember but definately a mixed group of people. There is a lot of Native Americans in the area due to tribal lands. There is also a lot of transent population where people move in and out. Some of it is military (navy base) and others are trying to live avoid issues. However there is a lot of very nice people in all the groups. Just very different from Wyoming and Utah since I lived near Wyoming growing up in Northern Colorado (Ft. Collins area). Marysville has one of the largest casinos in the state with the tulalip tribe. The schools in both areas are descent. They are growing communities and probably less small town as they use to be and more a part of the greater Seattle area now. Arlington is a nice area. I have friends up there who love it and wouldn't move. It is feels like a small town but close enough to the larger towns to get shopping and other supplies easily. As for the church, I cannot say but definately would say that from the missionaries I have met from that area as well as the ones I am at now, friends, etc. It is a nice area for church life. Hope this helps.

For me I would want to be a jet setter and travel around the world to these locations - Costa Rica. Want to see more of the country and go back to Honduras to see how things have changed since I was there in the late 80s, then off to Germany, Austria and England to see where my ancestors came from. Then I would want to go to Australia and New Zealand to see friends and visit the country. When I head back this way I would want to see the Eastern part of the US which I have not seen yet. I would love to the see the Holy Lands but for now that is just too dangerous a place. Sharyl

Hi - My husband and I were discussing the story about David and Goliath. Known my most LDS and other Christians, etc. Well he made a comment about other Giants mentioned in the Bible I am not saying there isn't but I don't remember it being mentioned. However what bothered me was the comment that he said it was because of Angels and Men being together that Giants were formed. Has anyone else heard of this? Sharyl

You can look at the scriptures at scriptures.lds.org. There are copies of all the scriptures and I believe they are footnoted and cross referenced. Hope this helps in your search. Another place to read about the basics of the faith is www.mormon.org. Hope these sights are helpful Sharyl

Yes I have been to various demonimations in the Christian faith. I have been to Catholic church a couple of times, LDS, Presbyterian (which I belonged to for a number of years), Vineyard Christian Fellowship, Four Square Church, Methodist (tried once), Lutheran, non denominations, and presently attend a Missionary & Christianary Alliance Church. It is funny - the "holy roller churches" I have been told I belong to are really mellow and you wouldn't even know they believed some of the things that those churches are associated with. On the other hand, some of the nondenominational churches I attended were really wild and at times total choas. I guess I don't see God being a God that causes choas. That is my opinion though. Anyway, outside of the faith I have gone to a Jewsih service once which was fascinating. It was fun to see where the orgins or our faith came from. Sharyl

My understanding is the reason the sabbath was moved from Friday night to Saturday night was Jesus arose on Sunday morning. Hence we are celebrating a new beginning to the new covenant made with God. Sharyl

I think it is wonderful that you want to serve your country. I do not know if it is possible for you to be a chaplain but that might be a route to look at. Otherwise I would agree with the advice here. I would say go on your mission first and then go into the service. I have not been in the service but am a Navy wife. My husband was fortunate to get support from churches he has attended and grown from there but that is not always been the case. I am not a member of the church and my husband isn't either. I am talking from a Prodestant background. Because of that my husband has struggled to find a church that he felt that helped him grow in his spiritual walk. From my experience serving on a mission with a christian organization that helped fly people in and out of remote areas, having been overseas where I had support from church and other missionaries helped prepare me to be a Navy wife. I cannot imagine it the other way around. I also know someone in my husband's command who did not do a mission first, got married young and been in the service has struggled with following the commandments. He just recently went back to the lds church after being involved with the wrong crowd which is very easy to find in the service. I think he has struggled with feeling different. I think going on a mission and growing in your relationship with Heavenly Father and Jesus are going to make you stronger and able to handle the temptations that the service brings with it. Sharyl

Jason, I was stating what evangelical christian teaches about the trinity. I was wondering what LDS believe about the Lordship of Jesus Christ since that is a huge point taught in evangelical christianity. Sharyl Hi Sharyl. You belief is fine, but it's not what the LDS believe. Just so you know, they teach that God the Father, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Ghost are three different people/beings. Unified in purpose, but not the same essense. Jason

My understanding of the Trinity is God the Father, God the Son, God the Holy Spirit are all one but have three different roles in the God Head They are unified. They are not different beings with a unified purpose. God the Father and God the Spirit do not have bodies where in the LDS doctrine Heavenly Father and Jesus have district bodies. I believe the Holy Spirit doesn't. I hope that is correct. Sharyl Hi Rosewood, The trinity teaches that God the Father exists. I'm not familiar with Hinduism, could you explain your statement? How is that different than the trinity doctrine? The trinity also says that the Father, Son and Holy Spirit are distinct from each other. I've always believed the all of the atonement is free. M.

I am wondering what the LDS doctrine teaches about Jesus being Lord. In the evangelical christian church, we are taught that Jesus is savior and lord of someone's life. I am wondering what LDS doctrine teaches about Jesus being Lord over someone's life. I am wondering do you believe that Jesus is king and helps the person to become more like God. I know that the Holy Spirit also helps with it. I am looking for what you believe about Jesus, Heavenly Father and Holy Spirits roles. Anyway takers? Sharyl

I just wanted you to know I feel your pain. I do not know how old you are. Waiting is tough. My husband wanted that for us and it has caused a lot of grief in our marriage. I am older and waiting made it difficult for me because the older I get the harder it is to have kids. I am now in my early forties and worry I will have an only child. I am heartbroken by that. My husband is fine with it. I do hope you get your desires. The one thing that has helped me is seeking out for support and going to God in prayer. I also started looking into the lds church and that has helped me feel more peaceful as well. Can't explain it but it does.Sharyl