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I've already changed my mind to being less rude about my sil. How about you change yours and quit picking on me? This forum is not all that Christ-like. I think I'll go away from all of you.

I don't think Jesus would have said that. Let's be Christ-like shall we?

I do have another question. You know how when people are called in church, and they ask if there are any opposed? If you knew that someone did something that would make them unworthy of holding a calling, you're supposed to say something, no? Is it the same for when someone is preparing to enter the temple? I mean, there are no announcements about that like in church...

Alright fine. But I don't have to trust her, and not trusting someone is making a judgment call. I'd rather upset her and protect my feelings and my family than to put on a happy face and pretend everything is okay for the sake of making her happy.

Nope.

Could be, but everyone loves her, and never sees how horrible she truly is. After 3 years of being treated like crap, I think it'd be a little understandable that I'm possibly obsessed, hoping that someone will notice that she's not as great as everyone seems to think.... It probably stems from my ex-step-mother. She was a horrible person to me, and no one noticed except me. Then my dad committed suicide and suddenly things came to light and everyone finally saw her for what she was and finally realized I was right. Maybe, subconsciously, I don't want to lose someone else.

I've never had a temple interview, but I asked my husband if they asked questions specifically about how you've treated others. He didn't remember that question, or anything similar to it. Plus, knowing her, she could very well lie about it anyway.

I agree, but I don't know what would be best for my son; go support someone who has constantly treated his mommy horribly (and sort of saying it's okay to do so), or to go and be the better person.

I've asked myself that already, and I have no idea what he would say. I know He wouldn't put up with her nastiness.

I have written about my sister in law before, but now I'm really unsure of what to do..... She is engaged and is getting sealed in a temple that is about 6 hours away from where we live. She is getting sealed on a Friday. My husband has already made the decision to not go through with her. Sil wants my husband, our son, and me to be there anyway for pictures. A few problems: She is getting sealed at 10am with pictures to follow. My husband works night shift, so if we planned to go, he'd only get 4 hours of sleep tops. My husband would have to take Friday off, but then there is really no time off left over (he was recently in the hospital and had to use 3 days). She has treated me worse than garbage since the day I met her (see my other post about my sister in law). I don't really think she deserves to have my husband, my son, or me there. I personally don't want to go. My husband does, which really hurts my feelings, but that's another story. My mother in law suggested I sleep all day and then drive all night. Our son is 1 year old. I won't be sleeping the whole day. My husband told my mother in law that we may not be going because of the expenses from the hospital stay. She didn't really say anything, just gave us (or me) a sort of dirty look.... I think everyone knows that I don't want to go, which is fine. They're all trying to be super nice to me, which is really annoying. Sil has done that before just to get her way. I let her have what she wanted and then she was back to talking about me behind my back, so I know her games.... Basically, what I'm asking is, what would you do? Would you go and suck it up, only to be talked about behind your back again? Or not go and show the in laws that I won't put up with their nastiness and rudeness anymore?

After talking with my husband yesterday, we came to the decision that he will probably work full time and go to school full time. I agree with everything you've said, and my husband is slowly realizing it as well. Thank you for your input.

He could very easily burn out. Thank you for that insight. I'll mention that to him. Thank you for your educational perspective.

Dahlia you are correct; it is just a perk. My husband works for a private company, so they get to decide what they want. He is going to finish his degree in electrical engineering and/or computer engineering, to answer the person who asked.

I agree, but that's what my husband told me. On another note, they don't have any openings in the exact position he would be going for anyway, after he gets his degrees (double majoring, with only a few extra classes), so I feel like we won't be staying with this company for long anyway....:\

It's not that they would prohibit him from taking more classes. If he did take more, they would just not pay for any of it.

I added that part at the end, but it is confusing what I said. They will pay for only 5 credits per semester. If my husband were to take more than 5 per semester, he would forfeit all financial help from them. They don't want him spending all of his time on school, and then come to work, only to give their company his second-best, if that makes sense. There are lots of forms to be filled out in order to get financial aid from his place of work, so I'm assuming they'd know about it in the forms.

My husband works at a company who will help pay for the rest of his schooling, which is great. The down-side to it is that they will only let him take 5 credits per semester (if he takes more than 5, he forfeits any financial assistance from his place of work), and he has about 80 credits left (which equals out to be about 5+ years). If he were to quit working, he would be able to finish college in 3 years tops (more like 2.5). He'd have a double major and we'd be closer to being financially stable. We'd have a ton of loans, but if we went the other route (of finishing in 5+ years), we wouldn't be financially stable for at least 6 years from now, and that is something I don't want.... There is also the option of working AND going to school full time (he works night shift), but he'd hardly see us, and there would be NO financial support from his job since it would be more than 5 credits a semester... I know it's up to us (or mostly up to my husband), but I'm just wanting an outsider's perspective on the matter. Thanks Edit: I realized that I did my math wrong. If he did the 5 credits per semester route, it would take him closer to 8 years!

I am wondering where you got your temple wedding dress. If you got it from a store, could you link their website (if they have one)? I am looking online for one since it is highly likely that my husband and I will be getting sealed August of 2014. I live in the panhandle of Idaho, so going to just look at dresses in UT or Southern ID would be a big road trip (I'd like to look online for one first or just at the stores online, then go to UT or Southern ID and get one). Thank you! Edited: I do not mean a temple dress. I mean a temple wedding dress. I hope that clarifies.

I wore Depends. They were really nice; I didn't feel nervous about leaking out of the sides of them like I did with the meshy panties. I did have stitches (from an almost 4th degree tear), so I wouldn't wear the Depends right away. I would use up the pads and meshy panties first if you have stitches. Good luck!

I love the rocking chairs in the mother's room in my stake center. I have asked a few women if they know where (as in, what store) they came from. No one seems to know, and one of the moms told me she thinks they're all the same in all mother's rooms everywhere. Can anyone shed any light on this? I am looking for one of the exact same chairs for my own home (I am very picky about how rocking chairs rock and the size of them and such, and these are perfect)! Thank you!

Thanks! And LOL! EDIT: This was a reply to the very first reply...sorry. I'm still getting the hang of this site....

I know that, I just wish everyone else could see what she truly acts like. I wish your character could be shown through with what you look like and people knew that if you were uglier, you were meaner. She wouldn't be as pretty as she is, and everyone would see her for what she really is.

I don't know how to quote specific things like you did.... I know it's not Christ-like. This is why I feel bad about it. I KNOW better than to want vengeance on anyone. Thank you for putting it into perspective for me, and for your advice. It will be very helpful.

So my sister in law has treated me like trash since day one. She's been nice to my face, but nasty to me behind my back. She has told her brother (my husband) that he could have done so much better than me and that he was just afraid that no one would want him, and that he just took the first "thing" that found him attractive. I asked her if I had done or said anything to her that offended her, and if I had, if there was something I could do to make it right. She said that me just being me offended her and that there was nothing I could do to make it "right". She had the nerve to ask me if my husband and I would take her back to where we lived (after visiting her family) so she could visit her friends maybe a week after she said some nasty things to me. I said yes, and I told her I forgave her, and that I didn't want to have negative feelings toward each other. She agreed. Well, a few weeks after we took her, she was back to talking nasty about me. It hasn't changed. She is not a very nice person. She brags about how great she is at everything, she's loud and if you don't like her, she makes sure everyone doesn't like you. She is very righteous in her religion and she acts like she has no sin. Yet everyone loves her. Here comes where I am bitter. She is obsessed with this guy. He is in turn, obsessed with her. She says they aren't technically dating, but they probably will start dating when she moves back to school. My bitterness is that she doesn't deserve anyone! I know that me feeling that way is making me just as bad as she is, but I feel like, Where is God? Why is He letting her be happy when all she has done to me is make me feel like garbage? I feel like He's rubbing her happiness in my face. I know it's not Him (it's Satan), but why can't I just let it go? I mean letting go of everything; her treating me so badly, the fact that she is so prideful, and that she's just not a good person. I've prayed hard about it, but I still have no answer. I'm still praying about it, but what do I do in the meantime (while waiting for an answer)?

Yeah, that is what I'm thinking.