L_and_P21

Dont get it. what are you pointing out? or are you just trying to start a fight? when i read this it sounds like you are mad at someone. please explain where your argument came from. i have no reason to disagree with anything you said

i want to say God then family. but when i think about it, the answer sticks out to be Family then God. as for a spouse and children. i would say that you need to do everything to help your children but if you lack support, acknowledgment or love for your spouse you end up hurting your kids. personally i think its a 3-way tie. all are dependent upon one another. think of it as a teepee. dont forget to add yourself in there. if you arent emotionally happy or well balanced you could throw off the balance of what should be and then crash to the ground.

when my cousin was about 3 or 4 she was at my grandmas house and wanted a sucker. so she walks up to my grandma and asks, "can i have a f*****?" i think we have to remember that they are little children and the dont really understand these words. they learn where the words usually fit in. we should explain why these words shouldnt be used and sort of in the same lines why using these words lowers the vocabulary of an individual. my friend and i did a little study with a fellow classmate in high school. when would talk he would swear almost every third word. we asked him to stop swearing for 10 min and try to find other words to use instead. he tried it and he sounded like a completely different person, someone who was fairly intelligent.

expanding upon love, one of the pharisees ask Christ. "Master, which is the great commandment in the law? Jesus said unto him, thou shalt love the Lord the God with all thy heart, and with all the soul, and with all thy mind. this is the first and great commandment and the second one is like unto it, thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. on these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets." (matt 22:36-40) love is the best thing we can do for anyone. sometimes it is hard to love because we get hurt. but that is how we grow and learn. always smile and turn the other cheek. "but i say unto you, love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; that ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun rise on the evil and the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust." (matt 5:44-45)

God gave us life, in the spiritual sense. he created us. when we have a child, we create a life in the physical body. i dont know how much more you can be like God here, now. "For behold this is my work and my glory - to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man." (moses 1:39) as parents we need to teach our children how to act. we should teach them how to love, not hate. Christ loved everyone. and now he is immortal and has eternal life. if we can teach our children how to be Christ-like then that is bringing "to pass the immortality and eternal life of man"

its not that i want to cop out, its just that sometimes that seems like the easiest route. the Lord wants us to improve out character and the way we do that is by enduring through our struggles. i have made a pros and cons list on why i should marry her. the pros pwned the cons and i sat for about 20 min thinking about the cons. my depression is seasonal and situational. i do not have a chemical imbalance, but thank you for the help and concern. i do try to take action, to what i feel is the best of my ability. and it just seems that i fall so short of every goal. i am, though, talking the U of U so that i can go back to school for the third time. ive been saving my money to take a trip over to the netherlands to visit my ex, she doesnt want me to. and i have been out trying to find a job, no success yet. and in all this sometimes i forget to pray. ive tried to date other girls or atleast hang out with them but they all seem to not want to by either not answering their phone or making up some excuse as to why they cant. this is after they ask me to hang out with them and for me to call them. my ex was the only one who would ever answer the phone and want to do something, even when we were just friends, but now she is starting to not talk to me like the rest but she will talk to me for about 5 min everyday on msn, her i understand because of the time difference and the fact that she is taking care of 3 kids all day. but others, when they specifically ask me to do something with them, make up some excuse as to why they cant.

i have been diagnosed with a minor case of depression. i dont need medication. i go to a psychologist once a month and my bishop knows as well.

thanks. i try that but most of the time i get so caught up in the story and history that i do forget why i am reading. thanks again for the quick response

in 2006 i was called to serve a mission in the netherlands and 5 months into my mission i was sent home for medical reasons. technically i had anger issues and i couldnt hack being around people 24/7. since i have been home i have made some not so good choices. im still active, as much as i can be. most of my problems stem from the girl i love. she is not a member. she has come to church with me a few times. she was cornered by my friends father into taking the discussions. she took the first one and didnt like it but she enjoys it when she and i read the scriptures. she is now i the netherlands... as a nanny. she has been there since last september. i cant stop thinking about her. i pray for her and for the Lord to help me now what to do. but it seems like i never get an answer. looking back it seems like i almost never got an answer to my prayers ever. yes there are certain prayers that have been answer. but ones about life and what i should do there in feel like they have never been answered. before she left we talked about getting married. i told her i would pray about it to make sure it was right along with fasting. well i feel like i havent had an answer. feeling like i get no answers to prayers is very frustrating to the point where i feel like im just a lost cause. but like we have been told when we dont get a yes or no answer or a stupor of thought we should just go for it, that is what i think but my mom says that because the Lord hasnt answered that means that i dont need to know at this point in my life. i brought up my missin because even there when i prayed for help just getting through the days or to help me love my companions, i felt most days i never got an answer or help. so here i am 23 years old, lost my gf, lost my job, didnt serve a fulltime mission and have barely any education under my belt. my psychologist says that my mission is over and that i should move on with my life and go to school and get married. my patriarchal blessing says that i will serve a full time mission as long as i obey the commandments (havent done so well there) and i dont know what to study in school. i have prayed for help on all these things along with were to find a new job and feel like i havent recieved an answer. i feel so completely lost and useless to the point where i feel like God should just take me. any suggestions or comments and what i might think about or study or experiences that you have had would be greatly appreciated. thanks ps hope i didnt jump around too much in my talking, i tend to do that alot.