FairChild

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  1. Be as mad as you want to be. You have the power to control your feelings. Primary is a great tool that can be used in helping us to teach our children the gospel as well as learn how to socialize. Your first responsibilty is for your child's health and safety. You are a good mom. Don't forget that.

  2. He has his free agency to chose to behave in any manner he sees fit. Just because you want him to behave a certain way, that may not be enough incentive for him to follow through. Take good care of yourself. If you don't have a good handle on your finances, now is the time for you to be completely involved. I would prepare for the worst, pray for the best and be able to accepth whatever happens.

  3. As a sister to a brother that abused all of his siblings, please let me give you my perspective. I am 52, he is 51 and the other siblings range in age down to my youngest brother in his twenties. My parents did nothing to stop his abuse nor did they take any steps to get him any of the help he needed. My brother was a bright, handsome child that had tremendous potential. Because of our past history, none of his siblings will have anything to do with him, even though at this point in time, it seems he is a non-abuser. I know you want to keep your family together. It is a most precious trust given to you by our loving Heavenly Father. By allowing your daughter to get the help she so desperately needs, you may actually keep open the pathway to a better long term relationship between your children. As a divorced parent that raised my sons alone, I made all the major decisions. It is beyond scary, it is actually terrifying at times. There is a silver lining if you chose to look for it. You will have a better handle on what your children's needs and even wants are. You will have a loving and close relationship that time will never ever be able to erode. You are not sending your child that needs the most help away to be cared for by others, you are making sure she is in the safest, most prepared home that can help you help raise her. She will have the potential when she is better able to handle it, to have a relationship with her brothers that she is not able to have at this time. You are a good mom. You need to remember that. You also need to be taking care of yourself at this time. It is important that your children see that you value yourself, because they need to find value in others and themselves. I know it is hard, but you are stretching and growing right now and that is not often easy. Take care and let us know what you have decided.

  4. One of the things I was trying to say, if he has the same issues of impatience to a high degree, high impulsivity in school, it may be a much larger problem than just wanting to watch TV. Good luck in finding out what works and how to help him.

  5. I wonder if you have talked to your son's doctor and asked him to do an evaluation for ODD or ADD? It might help you find better ways of working with your child. I am a mom that had a child with both problems. Check out as many possible solutions as possible. If school was in session, I would also suggest talking to his teacher to see if he has the same problems at school.

  6. Actually, when I was thinking of finding someone that knows how to talk money, I was thinking of perhaps finding someone that could help consolidate your loans or CCC Counsumer Credit Counseling so they could get your intrest rate on your cards cut to a lower amount.

  7. I understand what it is like to live with a difficult person. Even on the best of days, it is never easy. It really sounds as if you need to talk with somebody that really understands money. I wish you well and you will be in my prayers.

  8. I've done OA, but have just joined TOPS. I think I will like that better, becasue it focuses more on food and nutrition than the OA group I went to. I will let you know how the TOPS group turns out. I think it will help having support from others with the same goal I have. It is not very expensive. Good luck.