Need help

[Diorvivi]

I so bad want to be helped and saved from the pain I am causing myself and what I could be causing others.If you read my other post you will see that I am lost and need Hevenly Father more then EVER........

Is there prayers I can say to help me stop parting or acting like a lady and not some bad girl?

And as much as I like someone a prayer for him to meet someone that can bless him and help him be a person he would like to be.......Even though we sin togther dose not mean that he likes it and he seems to but we have so much fun just hanging out and being friends.Thats what I want.....

Such a lonely day please help......

[Roseslipper]

theres no special prayer...just pray from your heart..and let it all out....and give it over to God. He is trying to help you. BUt you must try to help yourself too. I know its hard....

[MormonMama]

We can most certainly pray for you. If you'd like to PM me your name I will put your name on my local temples' prayer rolls.

[slamjet]

Kneel down, pray, cry, cry some more, don't ask for help, ask for the pain to be taken away, ask to feel his love. It may take a couple of times until you, yourself are receptive, but the results will astonish you. Hang in there.

[Misshalfway]

You want God to save you from yourself? I spose I can understand that, but I don't think that's how it works. God doesn't do our work for us. He loves us to much to weaken us that way.

If you want your life to change, then use the power God gave you a long time ago. Stop making excuses and stop thinking like a victim. Start taking responsibility. Have you ever thought that God is waiting for you?

I can't remember who said it but YOU are the hero you've been waiting for.

[Guest]

I so bad want to be helped and saved from the pain I am causing myself and what I could be causing others.If you read my other post you will see that I am lost and need Hevenly Father more then EVER........

Is there prayers I can say to help me stop parting or acting like a lady and not some bad girl?

And as much as I like someone a prayer for him to meet someone that can bless him and help him be a person he would like to be.......Even though we sin togther dose not mean that he likes it and he seems to but we have so much fun just hanging out and being friends.Thats what I want.....

Such a lonely day please help......

Hi Diorvivi! I got a suggestion for you. It's like this 12-step program but it's only 3 steps. Makes it easier. LOL.

Step 1:

- Make a decision... right now... even before you read the rest of this post. Decide to CHANGE. The trick is, you need to kinda know what you want to change to. Who do you want to be? After you answer that question, then decide to change so you can be who you want to be. Right now.

Step 2:

- Forgive yourself. What is past is past. The thing that matters now is today and tomorrow. Look at yourself in the mirror. Right now. Then tell yourself - "I am sorry for every bad thing I have done to you". Then right after that, tell yourself - "I forgive you.". You can repeat this over and over until you believe it.

Step 3:

- Talk to God. Yeah, this should be step 1, but this makes more sense to be in Step 3 so that you are ready to hear what God wants to tell you. If you're not sure how to talk to God, call the missionaries and ask them to teach you.

Note that these steps do not involve your LDS boyfriend. Yeah, it is better if you do this for yourself. Don't worry about anybody else just yet. Just worry about yourself for now.

When you have done this and feel comfortable that the change is going to be permanent, then we can go on to Step 4 - more on that later. This one involves other people now...

You're in my prayers. Good luck and may God shower you with His blessings. Peace.

[TheActualLiz]

Diorvivi,

If you are driving a car that is going down the road at 90 miles an hour and you started to realize that you were headed in the wrong direction what would you do? Odds are you would slow down, maybe ask for directions and start turning the car around safely. Yes there is a chance that a tornado will come along, pick up the car, and set it down in the right direction... but those instances are not the norm.

I do know that having your name on the temple prayer list can definitely help in ways I don't fully understand yet. I just said a short prayer for you as I am sure many who posted did. Ultimately, however, you have your free agency and you are going to have to do some hard work to get your actions to line up with God's will.

Don't try to "act" like a lady but rather consider what type of lady you want to be. Try to make friends with women who seem to have the ladylike qualities that you want to develop. Relief society is full of wonderful women who are usually very friendly once you work up the guts to go up and introduce yourself. If you went to church with your LDS boyfriend every week for the next year and got just ONE new phone number each time then by the end of the year you will have 52 awesome friends to call and hang out with when you get lonely. This can be a very big help. Its awesome to have at least one person to call and do something wholesome with when you feel tempted and its fabulous to see your cell phone fill up with people who want to be around you for who you are. Trust me it feels really good.

I would also advise you to learn to procrastinate (at least when it comes to unwanted behavior). For me the thought of forever giving up (insert sin here) was too intimidating. When I learned to break things down into smaller chunks of time then things seemed much easier. Try to put off sin just for today and see how you feel. I have lost count of the number of times that I have told myself "yep, I am definitely going to go out and (insert sin here) but today I am going to take a day off and do something else... maybe I will do it as soon as tomorrow... but NOT TODAY!" It's amazing how quickly the days off can pile up when you think of things from that perspective. One silly thing I did was wright "NOT TODAY' in big letters on a piece of paper and stuck it on my fridge. At the end of the day if I had been successful I would put down a tally mark and smile. If I slipped up one day then I would draw a line directly underneath all the tally marks I had put up then start over with my procrastination goal the next day by drawing tally marks under that line. It started to become a game I was playing against myself and I kept playing that game as long as I needed to.

The fact that you would pray for your boyfriend to meet the right person who would lift him up and make him happy even it it wasn't you shows that you have a good heart. I have faith in you Diorvivi and I am pretty sure Heavenly Father has faith in you too. You already have the light of Christ inside you and if you continue to nurture that light it will grow larger than you have ever dreamed or hoped for yourself.

Best wishes,

Liz

[Faded]

Pray often. Pray always. Keep praying.

But prayer alone is not enough. Yes God will help you but he never forces you to do what is right. What you need is a good battle plan. Start asking yourself, "How, where or when do I get myself into trouble?" Then focus on changing those things. I noticed that you mentioned going to bars leads to trouble. Well, the solution is simple enough: Just don't go. But the better answer is not to "just not go." That leaves the door open for impulsiveness and rebelliousness. The better strategy is to fill up the time you would have spend doing things you shouldn't have with activities that are uplifting or at least benign and that don't afford the chance for relapse.

The same holds true for your sorta/kinda boyfriend (it's unclear how official you two are.) If being alone with him leads to trouble, then don't be alone with him. Put together group dates or only go places together where there is no opportunity for misbehaving.

Try to sort out how you can best deny yourself the opportunity to give into your weaknesses. Exercising while listening to scriptures on CD or going and doing service projects or charity work are all things that work well at filling your spare time with too much good to offer a chance to relapse.

If you relapse anyways, just stick with it! Don't ever give up, don't ever surrender! Living your life with Christ is not about never sinning, it's about picking yourself up every single time you fall.

God Bless,

Faded