Eagle Scout Court of Honor vs Young Womanhood Recognition

[yoyoteacher]

I was in Girl Scouts growing up, and ended up earning my gold award and am probably one of a very few LDS women who were. That process, which is extremely demanding, is far more accurate to comparison with an Eagle project, than my YW medallion. I value both of them highly and appreciate what they both did for me throughout the earning process, but I spent far more time working through the sustainable project required in girl scouts.

[Guest LiterateParakeet]

Thanks so much everyone.  I'm feeling a lot better about this.  It is true my son put in a lot more hours and effort on his Eagle than my daughter did for her YW Medallion.  I'm sure she would agree.  If I could do it again, I would make more of a big deal about her medallion, but I can go forward and plan a big celebration for my son.  He deserves it.  

 

Anatess, I enjoyed your post about favoritism, it's something I worry about all the time.  I've even talked about it with my therapist.  He has pointed out to me that my relationships with each child are different simply because they are different and that's okay.  For example, my daughter and I love to run errands together and talk.  So one day I suggested that my son (the one getting his Eagle) go together on a couple errands.  He was totally confused by this.  He said we do we both need to go?  I explained it was for the company and he said ok (though I don't think he was convinced.)  As we were about to pull out of the driveway, my daughter arrived home and asked where we were going.  We told her and she immediately said, "Can I come?"  I realized that day that my therapist was right what I thought was favoring my daughter was really more about different personalities....she loves to run errands with me, none of my sons do, and that's ok.  Phew...

 

Jane Doe, Good point.  No I won't get as crazy as some of these modern day receptions (I've seen a couple of those reality shows about weddings, yikes!)   I just meant that I went from, "You want me to bring the refreshments?" to scheduling the date and the church, requesting a flag that has flown over the White House, requesting letters of congratulations from outstanding citizens (like political leaders), sending out announcements, decorating, having a nice cake, AND planning the program including the Eagle Ceremony.  None of this is my forte, but I will rise to the task.  I'm not afraid to ask for help from my friends who are more talented in these areas.   :)

Edited February 1, 2015 by LiterateParakeet

[Palerider]

Thanks so much everyone.  I'm feeling a lot better about this.  It is true my son put in a lot more hours and effort on his Eagle than my daughter did for her YW Medallion.  I'm sure she would agree.  If I could do it again, I would make more of a big deal about her medallion, but I can go forward and plan a big celebration for my son.  He deserves it.  

 

Anatess, I enjoyed your post about favoritism, it's something I worry about all the time.  I've even talked about it with my therapist.  He has pointed out to me that my relationships with each child are different simply because they are different and that's okay.  For example, my daughter and I love to run errands together and talk.  So one day I suggested that my son (the one getting his Eagle) go together on a couple errands.  He was totally confused by this.  He said we do we both need to go?  I explained it was for the company and he said ok (though I don't think he was convinced.)  As we were about to pull out of the driveway, my daughter arrived home and asked where we were going.  We told her and she immediately said, "Can I come?"  I realized that day that my therapist was right what I thought was favoring my daughter was really more about different personalities....she loves to run errands with me, none of my sons do, and that's ok.  Phew...

 

Jane Doe, Good point.  No I won't get as crazy as some of these modern day receptions (I've seen a couple of those reality shows about weddings, yikes!)   I just meant that I went from, "You want me to bring the refreshments?" to scheduling the date and the church, requesting a flag that has flown over the White House, requesting letters of congratulations from outstanding citizens (like political leaders), sending out announcements, decorating, having a nice cake, AND planning the program including the Eagle Ceremony.  None of this is my forte, but I will rise to the task.  I'm not afraid to ask for help from my friends who are more talented in these areas.   :)

My wife and I have four kids and the youngest is now 26 years old. We have three girls and one boy and he was the third child born. To this day our kids will tease us and ask is to tell them which child was our favorite. We always respond with all of you were our favorite. My second oldest daughter always says when my time on earth is ended she gets my journals first so she can read them and find out who the favorite child really is. We have told them exactly what you stated your therapist told you.