Sleepovers

[StrawberryFields]

I'm very happy that you had a good expeirience, Six...but it is not always in knowing the people. My father was the preacher...the parents who sent their daughters to our house thought they knew him, too.

My sister's best friend got beat by her parrents for telling such a "nasty lie" about the pastor....

...she was telling the truth.

Oh Yed. I am so sorry to hear about this.

[Elphaba]

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When I was 13 I went to a sleepover where all of the girls held me down while one of them continuously hit me with her knuckle on my chest bone (don't know the official name). My best friend sat there and watched her do it while I sobbed. Later on her brothers joined in, and you can use your imagination from there.

Elphaba

. . . do hope you don't mind me asking where you friends with the people you were staying with?

Charley

No, I wasn't. They were friends of my best friend's.

Elphie

[StrawberryFields]

Abuse can happen anytime and anywhere. It can even happen within families. I know someone who had her children abused by her step son.

[Gabelma]

Abuse can happen anytime and anywhere. It can even happen within families. I know someone who had her children abused by her step son.

I agree I am not saying it couldn't happen to my children or that they would be a victim of a crime in a big city, but it disturbs me - my son may opt to go on a mission at 19 he is gong to have companions that don't know how to look after themselves physically in that situation. I see the differences between a missionary that was brought up in a big city against one that wasn't - its very basic things, don't wear expensive watch, don't talk on your mobile walking down the street and have the right amount of confidence - you may still get mugged but less likely too. I feel the best you can do is to teach them to love their own body and keep lines of communication open - if my son/daughter said something if I wasn't sure at very least he wouldn't be going there again or allowed near that person.

And by that time I want my boy to know how to speak up - like my husband said he had a companion he was very wary of, and just told him if he tried anything funny he would be phoning the mission president. I want kids to be like their Dad.

Charley

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When I was 13 I went to a sleepover where all of the girls held me down while one of them continuously hit me with her knuckle on my chest bone (don't know the official name). My best friend sat there and watched her do it while I sobbed. Later on her brothers joined in, and you can use your imagination from there.

Elphaba

. . . do hope you don't mind me asking where you friends with the people you were staying with?

Charley

No, I wasn't. They were friends of my best friend's.

Elphie

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That is a situation I wouldn't allow with my kids unless it was they were being put up after a church thing and would make sure they had my mobile phone. I wouldn't feel comfortable with them staying with friends they just met - largely because I have seen so many movies and shows where that has been the start of problems

Charley

[Princess3dward]

My wife and I are dead set against our kids having sleep overs, whether it be at someone else's house or our own. These days it is just way to risky. Even if you know the home you are sending your kids to, even if they are members of the church, it does not mean nothing will happen. There are usually older siblings of the opposite sex and parents in the house with them. I won't allow them in my house because I wouldn't want members of my family to be tempted to do those things, or even to be accused of them.

Are we the only ones who feel this way?

When I was younger I went on sleepovers pretty much every weekend at my friend Candice's.

I understand not sleeping over in the house of someone of the opposite sex (provided they are attracted to the opposite sex), but I don't see a problem with them sleeping over at their best friends house...

But everyone is different, and what you feel comfortable with and what you trust your kids with is all your choice.

They can't make mistakes if you don't let them... right????