How many temple cancellations are allowed?

[dbs1]

I'm curious on this question, for my ex fiancé.

We started dating only 3 months ago and she immediately wanted a temple sealing cancellation from her first husband and wanted me to cancel mine as well.  I counseled her to NOT do that and informed her I would not ask for a sealing cancellation.

She moved the process forward and I requested a clearance.  Last weekend we had a difference of opinion on a couple of things.  Big to her, but really just some things she asked me to not discuss, which I mistakenly did.  Some other things she felt like I wasn't listening to her.  A few days go by without any contact from her and then she informs me she is cancelling the engagement and that her cancellation approval letter arrived a few days before and my clearance letter arrived today.

She had told me a few weeks ago you only got one of these approvals, so where does this leave this poor women?

I know being sealed in the temple was huge for her and I'm concerned for her, even if she has decided I'm not "the one".

[Sunday21]

Hi @dbs1 So sorry that things did not go as you would like. As I understand it, the sister asked for a cancellation of her previous sealing and this cancelation has been granted? If so, she has had her former sealing canceled and is now free to marry someone else in the temple. If I am correct in my understanding, I do not see the problem. 

One way to discuss the intricacies of temple sealings is to do a proxy sealing at a quiet time in the temple. I have observed that patrons bring their questions at that time.

Good luck! 

Edited June 30, 2018 by Sunday21

[dbs1]

Thanks.  I feel badly for her.

[Sunday21]

2 hours ago, dbs1 said:

Thanks.  I feel badly for her.

Your feelings do you credit! I hope that things get better for you soon! 

[Iggy]

Actually the sealing cancellation is valid only for you & her to marry. Re-read your letter to see if that is not true. When Hubby asked for a sealing cancellation, in the approval letter he received it was only valid for him to be sealed to me in the Temple, and we had to get that done within 30 days of receipt of said letter. Our Stake President got a letter telling him that Hubby received his approval. We had to go to the Stake President to get our papers to go to the Temple to be sealed. He handed us a calendar with the one month highlighted and told us to pick a day. Then we had to turn the letter from the 1st Presidency over to him. We were not allowed to keep it. I think that was also stated in the letter. 

We were a bit disappointed that we couldn't wait 2 more months to get sealed on the same day we had gotten our civil marriage. BUT we gladly picked a date and followed through.

It took Hubby 1.5 years to get his sealing clearance. We were advised that it could take from one to ????? years to obtain one. The other party has to be found, questioned in an interview and give their consent. In Hubby's case the woman in question was very, very hard to find. When the Stake President told me why it was taking so long, I suggested that *they* look in the church records on excommunications, removed from records. That is where they finally found her. She had requested excommunication and got it.

I also know a couple in which the sister requested to be un-sealed from her legally divorced 1st husband and the father of 4 of her children. [note, he legally gave up all parental rights to their children when he filed for divorce and the courts gave her everything] In the meantime she re-married an active, endowed, priesthood holder. In the 7 years it took for her to get the cancellation, they had 5 kids.

They went to the Temple to not only be sealed together, but to have every single child sealed to them. They went about 3 months after I received my endowment, so I was able to go and be a witness [and to help with the children]. What an absolutely wonderful, exalting, spiritual, uplifting, glorious, day.