Need some encouragement

[scm3]

Hi I am new and would love some advice.

Last year my husband and I prayed and fasted on if moving closer to family would be good. We together felt our answer was yes. We have lived away from family for about 11 years. We usually do not just pick up and leave, especially if we have a good job. Well we made the big move and hubby is still working for the same place. He comes to stay with us every other weekend. He is searching for work and has not been able to get anything due to some issues, we did not think would be a big deal. Anyway we still continue to pray and feel this was a good move for our family. The kids and I are very happy here with family but miss hubby and daddy very much. We have been told to hang in there and have faith. We have been told if we received our answer than we need to have faith it will work out. We have been apart for 7 months and it is very difficult taking care of our children by myself. I feel single.

My Q

Why would we feel good about our answer, but the job is not coming? I feel like our answer would not be to keep us seperated. I keep praying and trying to do this but just don't understand why we have to break up or family to do this.

Thanks

[a-train]

Hmmm... This seems like a repeat of a post from a year ago.

I empathize with your lonliness in caring for the children. That can be tough. Understand that it seems tougher to you only because you have the prospect of your husband's return. My mother raised three kids alone after my father was murdered when she was just 25. She never remarried.

I know it can be tough, whatever you do, don't sit around dwelling on it. Busy yourself. Learn to knit, sew, or something that will be productive if economic or another type of crisis arrives. Look into food storage, gardening, and study. Study the scriptures, church history, world history, government, the constitution, and if you don't know much about it, find out about your local government and get involved.

You have much to do and down time (and I mean time to feel down) is not available.

-a-train

[Misshalfway]

I think it is hard sometimes, (I know it is for me), to always understand the intentions and purposes of the Lord. I wonder if the Lord is working something out for your family and it is taking time for all the pieces to fall into place. Or perhaps it is a testing time or strengthening time for your faith or perhaps you need this experience so that you will be able to offer support and love to someone at some future time.

It sounds sooo hard. And I would go nuts in that situation. I am pretty whimpy when it comes to doing the kid raising on my own. I think you are doing such a great job. Father will bring a resolution. I know it.

Sometimes I think about some of the early saints and their tremendous faith. How did those women say goodbye to their husbands so they could serve on a mission in England or somewhere far away with no phone and no email and no word for weeks at a time?? I don't know how they did what they did. I think you are doing great. Trying so hard to do the right thing for your family.

[scm3]

Thank you so much for the kind words. I know everything will workout. I guess I am very stressed and want our children not to worry and that I can be the mother and father while he is not here. I have a new calling and it is demanding. So with the mommy job, and all the other responsibilities I just feel overwhelmed and need my hubby.

Thanks Again

[Misshalfway]

Some of my favorite scriptures......

Mosiah 24:14-15

"And I will also ease the burdens which are put upon your shoulders, that even you cannot feel them upon your backs, even while you are in bondage; and this will I do that ye may stand as witnesses for me hereafter, and that ye may know of a surety that I, the Lord God, do visit my people in their afflictions."

"And now it came to pass that the burdens which were laid upon Alma and his brethren were made light; yea, the Lord did strengthen them that they could bear up their burdens with ease, and they did submit cheerfully and with patience to all the will of the Lord."

Hugs to you.

[chuch86]

Hi,

I am new to this site as well, but i can't help wanting to offer what little advice i can. Frankly, i haven't even been a parent yet, but we all have our different trials and, for what it's worth, here's a little of what I've learned:

No matter how spiritual you think you are you can always be receiving more revelation. I think part of the reason for our trials in this life is to teach us to turn to our Heavenly Father. During my hardest trials I have found myself praying during some of the most random times of the day. I've also found that my prayers are way more sincere as well. then, when everything is back to normal i seem to slack off on my prayers again. But trial after trial has taught me that during the good times i should pray as if I was in the middle of the trial. Because i remember what i felt like during those trial i remember that i need to always plead for help. Maybe Heavenly Father is trying to teach you how to really talk with him. Whatever it is, remember that there is always more help out there available from His loving hand. Draw near unto Him and He will draw near unto you. and then Remember what you've learned. It was often the fact that the Nephites forgot "the captivity of their fathers" that they fell back into sin.

Well, i wish you the best and will pray for you!

chuch86