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My opinion is yes, kids do have too many clothes and things in general. Society tells us we need these things and we indulge our children a little more than we should. Believe me, I'm guilty of it too. I've realized this and have decided to try to undo what I've done while my kids are still young. With that, here is my advice on clothes and laundry. My kids help with the laundry, that way it is not totally on you to get it done. I too am never "caught up". My suggestion is if you think there is too much then cut down. If all seasons of clothing are out, pack away the ones you aren't using. It will save a lot of time and space. I don't think most kids really care about as much until we teach them to care about it.

Here's my story. I have a twin sister who is in a treatment center for an eating disorder. I am not even supposed to know she's there. She has cut off most of our family. We know she is there because her husband did call my parents and ask for money but wouldn't tell her where she is or the level of her condition. We did find out the exact location of where she is because of the credit card bill. Her husband has lied to my parents and doesn't seem to respect them. They are only there for the money. Since she has been in the facility my sister has contacted me through facebook. She does not want my mom in her life and told me not to tell her I'm even talking to her. I don't mind keeping that trust with her as I have never broken that before. She hasn't told me anything about her condition and where she is and I didn't tell her I knew. I know most of her problem is with my mom and how she was raised. Now since I was raised in the same house, I don't understand where she is coming from and probably never will. I don't like the way they have been treating my parents and the whole family is upset over the whole situation. I want to be supporitve to her but I don't think I can unless she can be an honest person. I just don't need all the lies and deception in my life. Do I try to keep a friendship with her knowing the deception is going on or do I tell her how I feel and let her decide what to do with it? If she does open up to me about it what do I say to her? I'm a firm believer in you do things to yourself and no one can control your own feelings and actions. For her to be 31, married, have her own kids, and blame all her problems on someone else, I just don't get it. I never will get it and I don't know how to approach this situtaion.

I know people have given you good advice. I'm not going to repeat it. I'm just going to tell you that I will pray for your family. Love and support your children and make sure they know that.

Yeah, they are modest compared to others. I just pictured skirts that were a little longer and tank tops with no sleeves. The description I read was that the skirts had another 2-3 inches on them, if other schools are shorter than I guess they don't cover much.

After seeing your picture, the description I read doesn't seem to fit.

BYU's cheerleading outfits are more modest then most. Their tops are two inches longer to not show stomach and the skirts are a good two to three inches longer than most. People from the team and coaches defend them because they are doing activities that couldn't be done in long skirts. Longer skirts and sleeves could actually cause injury to them with the stunts they do. If a church owned school allows its athletes to where needed uniforms for certain activities, than I'm okay with it. The key to modesty is to make sure you are not dressing like this all the time, only during certain activities.

This thread has been very interesting to read. I feel that you should teach modesty and expect your kids to dress modestly and act modestly. There are certain times where it is neccesary to wear uniforms for something that may not be able to cover garments, like dancing and sports. I was told in the temple this was okay. So I am willing to let my children participate in these activities while wearing their costumes, leotards, or uniforms for the appropriate activity as long as they don't walk around like that. While not participating, they are not allowed to wear anything that is immodest. I guess I figure if BYU allows their cheerleaders and volleyball players to where the uniform during the activity it should be okay for us and our children.

I have a friend who's cousin plays for the steelers so I am kinda rooting for them, although I do like to see an underdog so I wouldn't be disappointed if either team won. GO STEELERS! GO CARDINALS!

The church says to dress modestly. My understanding of it is to dress as if you have been through the temple. If you are wearing your garments properly you would be wearing clothing that is at least down to your knees, no belly showing, shirts with sleeves, and no low cut shirts and you should never represent yourself as it being questionable that you are wearing them. I hope I didn't confuse you, sometimes I'm not that great at explaining things.

I was in the same situation. When I got married my husbands mother seemed to have some issue with me and I didn't know what. I would constantly tell my husband but he didn't believe at first. He finally did and had a long talk with her. She finally backed off. What I did was just be as respectful as I could and I only dealt with them when I had to. I never showed negative feelings around them and our visits with them were not that frequent. If you can't handle the situation, go for a walk with your husband or a drive. Find something else to do. After ten years, we are still working on the relationship and it may never get to a friendship. Right now it is just a respectful relationship. Like Applepansy said, your family is now you and your husband and any kids you have. Your in-laws are secondary and as long as it can be a peaceful, respectful relationship, then it'll be okay.

After all the thinking and writing I've been doing I realized that I just can't ever give up, no matter what happens. He has his problems, but so do I. This past week I did give up being angry and hurt about everything and did a lot more talking. I have found some new friends in our new home and have had major improvement in our relationship. We still have work to do, but my role is to not give up and turn away. I do love him and I don't want to lose that. I have been happier the past few days and am looking forward to keeping it that way. I just have to remember not to give up on our relationship. It's important to remember why we got married in the first place and why we wanted a family together. The spark is coming back and so is the respect we have for each other. Thank you for all the advice, I really appreciate all the comments.

I was a little disappointed with the movie. I understand that it was low budget and there was a lot to fit into two hours. I wish there was more with Edward's family and other relationips Bella had, not just the relationship with Edward. I think they could have done an incredible job if they had added more detail and made it a three hour movie. I think fans would have sat through it if it was a little longer.

I know he wants to fix things. I'll have to look into one of those classes. Thank you.

Maybe I will try writing a letter. I don't know how I would say what I would need to. It's been four and half years. I am afraid of hurting him, but he needs to know how I feel. Hopefully this will get him to listen and understand what I have been trying to tell him for years, but not in so many words. A good letter might be a good way to get him to really listen. I'll let you know.

I've noticed a lot of these topics are about abusive relationships and I am seeking some advice but not for anything abusive, more neglect. I have been married for nine years and have six children, one of which has passed away. That was the turning point in my marriage. At the time I was supporting my husband and his feelings because he constantly told me that I was the strong one and I couldn't cry because it would make him cry. I was the dutiful wife and didn't mourn my baby like I needed to. Everything from the time we found out about his problems during pregnancy to the end of the funeral was about my husband. I supported him and got him through the whole ordeal, but now he won't talk about it. Since then I feel like he has put my feelings aside a lot. I lost my trust in him and that closeness we were getting during the first few years of our marriage. I tried for so long to support him in all he does. Our most recent event has been a long move so he could return to school to get a better job. Things just got worse the few months after the move. He now doesn't want to do school. I am upset because he moved us away from my family, our house, and everything our kids knew to a place I don't want to live. I told him that I would move if and only if he was serious about school and that this is what he really wanted. Now he has changed his mind. Another reason I don't trust him. There are many more details about our marriage but this is the jist of it. I finally gave up. I can't keep ignoring my feelings and having him not listen to me and not respect me. I tried to be the good LDS wife for so long but I don't know if I can keep going. We talked about counseling, but will that really get him to listen to me or will it be a waste of time? I just want him to care and really listen and acknowledge my feelings and emotions.