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Hey just want to thank everyone for taking the time to post some very insightful comments - oh and also for the humor as well . Thanks everybody

That's what she worries about the most. They were really close before he left and she is such a nice girl, i can't see why he would fall out of love with her.. I'm pretty sure he is just trunky and needs to focus more on his mission right now. I just wish i could convince her of that.though.

Hey just hoping their might be some guys and gals out there that might be able to help my son's girlfriend understand why sometimes he doesn't say ' I love you ' to her when he writes to her. He is currently serving a mission and has been out for 16 months She has gone through this twice with him and and the second time it seem to happen right after she sent a scrapbook of the two of them. We know missionaries get trunky, but why stop saying I love you..

Hi and welcome Hemidakota gives very good advice about receiving your own answer. I was a member of a Pentecostal church before I joined the LDS church and was strongly advised by my friends in the Pentecostal church - almost to the point of harassment - not to join the LDS church. When i was investigating the church I was very confused about what to do, until I prayed and read the Book of Mormon and then I received my answer. Hope you enjoy the service on Sunday, if you make it out.

What about compromising. My husband and i had the same problem , so we looked for a compromise. We found that a half hour of cooling off was something we could both live with.

Welcome Sandra ! I'm fairly new here myself. Hope you enjoy your time and find support when you need it.

Great talk.. I remember when i joined the church, coffee was the hardest thing for me to give up because i felt so tired all the time. In fact it was harder than giving up the alcohol .But after a month of obeying the word of wisdom i had more energy than any cup of coffee could give. Welcome to the stie!

Hi and welcome. I'm fairly new here and I am already feeling the love.

I sincerely hope that if i ever have to go through something like that with my husband, I will handle it as well as your friend has. Addictions aren't an easy thing to overcome. He's lucky to have a wife who is willing to help him and not judge him. I hope the best for them.

[quote by interalia As a side note because I like seeing peace and good feelings prevail: I realize you quoted ruthiechan as to one of the things that touched a nerve. I just wanted you to know that despite this, ruthiechan is a very considerate individual on these forums, and I hoped you would not think otherwise. You and I both disagree with Dr. Laura on this subject, but I hope that you will not feel any bitterness toward those who do agree with her - this is a great forum! I too like seeing peace and good feelings prevail and i assure everyone here that i have no bitterness. One thing I love is when people can agree to disagree. I guess I just see the bigger picture here and i hoped by sharing my story that other people would to. I hope i haven't offended anyone here because that was never my intention and i mean that sincerely. akindheart

And I am a very lucky woman because my husband loves me through thick or thin - pun intended -

I don't think that's weird. That was also my goal as well. There were days i couldn't wait for my boys to grow up and move out.. My husband works long hours though and i work in my home answering phones for him. I realty do think i am just bored. Maybe I should do some volunteer work or something.. I really do like being here with all of you though.

To ruthiechan Like I said before what Dr. Laura's has to say on the video does not apply to everyone. You have one child and from what i know of Dr. Laura, she has only one child. I myself had three difficult children and was just to busy with them by myself, without any help. My husband was more concerned about me as a human being than he was about how i looked at the end of the day, and our sex life was just fine. I know parents who are raising sick children who need their constant attention and are doing it without any support; and looking nice for their husband at he end of the day is the last thing on their mind.. I mean no disrespect but what Dr Laura is saying cannot apply to everyone. It all depends on your situation at home and how important looks are to you.. Also, there are other ways to please each other

You know I'm starting to think that maybe i'm just bored and that i don't have the Empty Nest Syndrome, because the more i post on this website the happier i feel. .

]Her advice on that video doesn't apply to everyone though. Its easy to take that advice when you have a couple of children and a career outside the home because you've already dolled yourself up for work anyways, But when you are at home all day with several children, your schedule and your priorities are different, so you may or may not be all dolled up when your husband comes home. And what about men. My husband comes home with drywall mud all over him and then after he takes a shower he just puts on what ever is comfortable and plops himself down on the couch. My husband and i very happy and do not care what the other looks like at the end of the day. It's how we treat each other that matters. the most to us.. My husband and I used to listen to Dr Laura and Dr Phil but now we just listen to each other

You could also make him part of the choosing process. Take him grocery shopping with you and get him to pick out the fruits and vegetables he would like to eat. I used to make pancakes and then use the fruits and vegetables to make faces and amimals and hearts on them.

Does anybody here have the "empty nest syndrome.. My youngest is still at home but he works a lot and is out with friends and participating in church activities and callings when he is not at work;.so i don't see him much. I just miss being a mother Anyone else feel this way?

My son who is 20 now was exactly like that when he was younger. He seemed to outgrow some of it, but to this very day he has to be in a job where he is busy , can't just sit there. He has a lot of energy and gets involved in all kind of volunteer work, because he loves to be helpful, not so much around the house anymore, but out in public.. He is on his mission right now and his missionary president has told me a few times that he is one of the more diligent missionaries and he just loves to help people. It sounds like your doing all the right things. As far as your son getting frustrated, and you attacking the source of the problem. just make sure that as he gets older - or even maybe start now if you can - . that you allow him to try to tackle the source of the problem himself and reward him or make a big deal out of it when he does. I'm sure there are teaching toys that can help with that at his stage. We found those helpful when my boys were younger. As he gets older there are life skill work books for different ages that you can get for him from teaching supply shops that will help him find solutions to lifes problems . I found the more my boys learned about problem solving, the less frustrated they became and the more confident they were. (Anybody can go into a teaching supply shop by the way, you don't have to be a school teacher) Also remember that Heavenly will give you answers if you go to him when things get stressful or you' re not to sure what to do.

Here is a website that i came across. How to Get Your Child to Eat More Fruits and Vegetables | AHealthyMe.com. It has a few helpful tips. Also maybe a dietitian could help. I use to be compulsive over eater and a dietitian helped me out.

I'm new here and just want to say hi to everyone. I'm happy to have found this site and look forward to making some new friends.