kileyizzle

NEW FREIND!

lol you say that when tomorrow it's going to be 43 degrees here... loves it

probably! HAHA gotta use what you have aye! lol, perhaps i should relocate?

22 , recent convert, voice my opinons frequently and loudly... Being alone builds strength i reckon, there is always an outlet, be it here, or in your own ways :) Regaurdless of being single there will always be love in your life :)

What yours or mine? rofl

LOL! i don't think i fall into the smoking hot category maybe ... hmmmm i have noticed the majority of YSA boys that i have been speaking too, find it super difficult to talk to the girls, myself being a member, i too am afraid of them... rofl... it is super hard trying to get the nerve up to speak to them sorry to hear that you've been worked over too poppet, rest assured you will have a huge LOVE in your life, now or the next :)

Argh, so... the diliemma continues... rofl, so i have been pretty forward in meeting YSA's and asking them to hang, apparently the dudes take this as, oh my, she's intrested BAIL! somebody feed me cookie dough and watch full house? or freinds? something.... lol

ROFL! first speed dating experience... was horrible... basically, meet dudes at dances... the ones who speed dated... not so good rofl

greetings and welcome aboard... rofl i feel old here ... basically 22 i do alot of writing also, < working at my second novel >, it's awesome as to here your in a YSA ward, rofl i'm YSA rep at mine, we have 3 who are present, two who barely come to church.. it's awesome and hai there's not such thing as an "in" person we are all children of God, never forget that aye! Look forward to seeing you guys on the boards! Love ya's all xxx

Turn the other cheek Good morning brothers and sisters, When we are faced in the midst of our emotions, how man of us can say and with vindication that we reacted in a loving manner. When insults are thrown, how many of us has let it slide. Smiled politely and thought I'm better than this. How many of us have thrown words from our lips, not caring how it hurt the other person or the burden that they must now carry because of us. We are all at fault of doing this, those who oppose and say the are not must humble themselves and realize that even if they at the time thought they were right may have inflicted unknowingly hurt to the other person. Yes they themselves have their Agency for how they react. But you too also have the agency to show heavenly fathers love through patience, kindness, persistence. Words of tongue are a lot more painful to bear than physical hurt. Words are menacing things that are often hidden or buried in your sub conscious until something triggers it off, they eat away at you until you are left with nothing but self criticism and a distrusting spirit. And I am sure that many of you know how easy it can be to recall negative moments than the good ones. It can be difficult for us to turn the other cheek. It's not easy, but in doing so, you will be blessed. When we truly love something, and desire it in our hearts, we often become lost, in our feelings, what it means to us, once this is threatened we react. It is not intentional, We are striving for perfection but we're not perfect just yet. Forgiveness is the greatest service we can do for others, and ourselves. By forgiving we are able to move past our negative experiences, if we are merciful and are able to humble ourselves we can stop being the victim. Turning the other cheek does not condone a negative implication, it simply acknowledges and gives the other person the agency to correct what they have done. We are prone to making mistakes and hurting people with or without intention, even if our intentions are good there will almost always be someone or something to overcome. Our heavenly father knows that we have very little control over our feelings, That's why we weren't instructed to “ Like “ our enemies. It's too difficult to like everyone that harms us, But to love your enemies is different, Love is an act of will, Where you can act in love even if you don't feel like it ,and lets face it, if someone crosses your boundaries your not going to feel like loving anybody. Love is not a feeling, although we assume that it is, Love is an Action, it's something that we can do for others, What better opportunity could you have to express the same love that our heavenly father and Christ had for us then by, through example,reaching out to someone you may have hurt. How elated would you feel, if someone that had wronged you apologized and acknowledged their faults. Would you accept he apology, would you forgive them? Turning the other cheek, is not always involved with others. You too must be able to acknowledge your own faults, wrong things you have done. When we are at fault we are more prone to believing that others have wronged us. Hurt us in ways that we could not fathom. We can't prepare for these moments. These are the kind of things that will blindside us, things that will knock us off our feet when we least expect it. In hindsight, when emotions have run high, words of anger tossed about with little or no care at all. Do you step back and fight with yourself over who is to blame? Do you blame yourself ? Do you feel guilt? Ashamed of what you've done? Or do you accept the wrongs, and apologize. Sometimes it's not a matter of saying sorry, but of changing your ways. Forgiveness is not an excuse for brazen apologies. We should however attempt to have Christ like love for everyone. It is impossible for us to accept everyone into our hearts without a thought, but it is possible for us to lead by example, in the actions that we perform in day to day life. Expressing this love could be as easy as taking the time to say hello to somebody, or taking a few minutes for yourself to quietly reflect. Forgiveness like Recovery is a process. It can't be an event. They are both something to be adhered too, A journey that you yourself must partake in order for you to progress on your journey back home. These themselves are small trails. Tiny moments that in the big picture won't matter at all. Regrets are something that we hold closest to our hearts, with the most sadness. We must tread carefully, this is the path we have chosen. The covenant that we accepted in our lives with much happiness and joy. We are lucky enough to feel the spirit, the love our father has for us, it can be felt in the hospital at a dear ones passing, in the emergency ward when we are fearful, waiting in doubt, we feel it in a kind gesture when we feel we are enduring the worst, the touch of a hand, or a smile. Somewhere In the back of our minds, we need to try and remember that everything has our fathers finger prints on it, I do, you do. The fact is that sometimes we can't see the beauty in each other doesn't mean it's not there, rather that it suggests that we are not looking carefully enough. We are brothers and sisters, and human, we are prone to pondering why someone would do such hurtful things towards us, or how things after being so placid all of a sudden become futile. We are all naturally inquisitive and begin to question everything that occurs. Turning the other cheek. Begins with loving these questions that attack us at the dire times. The good times. Anytime. We need to have patience with everything that remains unresolved in our hearts and in others. Try to love these questions. Don't go searching for the answers you yourself couldn't find immediately. Because you might not be able to live with them. And the point is, is to live with everything. Live the questions now. Hopefully in the future, suddenly, or without noticing you will find the answers. We can't swallow the bitter jealousy of those better off than us. We must forgive them for they must not know the luck they have or how we are ourselves. Forgive those who are wrong, forgive those who are right. They are Gods children too. Everyones our brother and sister in suffering, no-one comes to us from a home which has never known no sorrow. They come to help us because they too know what it feels like to be hurt. It is what we do today, that matters. The foot steps we choose to follow, or the path that we create on our own. We have the opportunity to have his shining example. To BE that example. We are able to show the love that we have each other In our generosity. By putting the needs of others first. Through the atonement we were shown blatantly with no room for black and white, the extent in which our father gave and received love without expectations, regardless of personal cost. Whatever we have learnt from our experiences in our lives, regarding our own mother and fathers on earth makes no difference , we have heavenly father, the perfect father who's love for you is always non-judgmental, who is ever present to our needs and who knows your deepest darkest secrets yet still loves you. We are all as worth and as deserving of love and happiness as any other being. We are so much more than our fears and our mistakes and self doubts. He lovingly created us in his image. We should attempt portray exactly what he would have been like. “ My friends have made a story in my life. In a thousand ways they have turned my limitations into beautiful privileges, and enabled me to walk serene and happy in the shadows of my deprivation “ Forgiving you, or someone else for their wrong doings not only frees them but it frees you also. We are brothers and sisters, be aware and be loving, be kind and perceptive. Turn the other cheek. I say this in the name of Jesus Christ amen. I have a to do a talk on this on sunday, so all the help is greatly appreciated! i'm still a newbie so this is all i have come up with so far... Thanks so much for all the kind responses, and thanks for taking the time... keep em coming!

how does the gospel influnce you to make the right choice... i'd like some input on forgiveness and what is the better way

As a new member it can be difficult starting from scratch, the main things that we are expected of us, its to open our hearts, be humble and allow yourself the time to grow... the thing is when your new, these seem huge... and it can be hard to change your lifestyle to fit arond the gospel. but we have to remember to build upon foundations that are strong and the love of christ for us. we are taught to follow the commandments. < that is an important one > study the scriptures... and to follow the word of wisdom.... we have to remember we are not all alike, there's been many times we're people comment "you don't seem the church going kind " you don't have to be perfect, as somebody at my ward once said " this is a hospital for sinners " < not in a bad way > we aren't perfect but we are striving for spiritual perfection. lead by example. that is an important factor, surround yourself with loving people who will support you and encourage you to go further along your journey. if in doubt pray, with all your heart, morning noon and night if you have to... you gain the right to do the work for loved ones that have passed away, i have done this for my granny and it's a special feeling, because you feel so much closer to them, you are able to be baptised for them and bound to them also in the temple, you also gain the holy spirit, your testimony... and a family < other church members > personally for me i gained alot more, a family and a happier more positive way of thinking. it does change your life in a positive way... :)

your quite welcome lovely! things do get tough but they have to get tougher to make us stronger and love everything else that little bit more... haha yeah that's what we'd be doing as well... only down fall on that is that we aren't supposed to spend money on sabbath sunday... i'm still sussing out the ideas of other wards... i know a few people in diffrent wards apart from this one i shall keep you guys posted...

any tips? me and the new girls are off to our first ysa speed dating thingo... awkard more than likely... unable to distinguish willingly putting yourself out there, or exploitaiton for laughter later on in your life.. who knows... tired babble is fun... have any of you been to one of these things?

haha so far so good... man tis so boring though... i know we need to go to church for several hours to build testimony and strengthen our spirits.. but it does seem to drag on alot

lol, no there is no romantic anything there... love that kid... < note kid talk > we just get along really well, and i'm always talking about him, he was a terrific missionary who helped me alot when he was here < during my baptisim teaching before and after my depression was at it's worst and he was able to support me with the gospel and the patience necessary > that's why he writes everyday just to check in, good intentions of course... i've managed to stay in contact with a fair few of them, they know that when i cry, it means that i care for them like a sister would nothing more than that... unless i say so... which i wouldn't because they are missionaries... just bugged me that some of them don't keep their word i understand that it gets busy when they get home, but if there's a will, there IS a way

lucky for me today it was confrence so it wasn't just my ward... today i took the oppourtunity and spread my wings a little, < most of them were decades older however > the guy next to me was sitting on a pillow, so i struck up conversation by saying " i like your pillow " and although i was stuck there listening to his life story ie. back when i was a wee lad it was refreshing to see how other people from diffrent wards come together... i also made freinds with the lady behind me who had hurt her foot and the elderly couple infront of me who shushed me for rattling my wrappers in my hand bag < bought her out with an easter egg > while a few other people from my ward attended i smiled and acted politely, secretly killing them in my head < with kindness of course > afterwards i took the liberty of striking up conversation with anybody and everybody... until a past flame approached and said "hi" kiley being kiley... then proceeded to say ummmm ummm gotta go bye and run away <no literally ran away > i appreciate and love you guys so much you uplifted my despair and help me so much hehe i'd love for us to be in a ward together, probably be told of for chattering amongst ourselves...

lol, lost intrest in the movie half way through, and started belting out the tom jones... oh yeah the boys are gonna be all over me... " love is like candy on a shelllllf " lmao... working in a music store is hard sometimes... you may leave at 6 but the songs stay in your head for hours...

i've been lucky with the missionary who baptised me, he writes to me everyday i live in australia he lives in utah! space is nothing if you really want to talk to that person, he even calls me from time to time... specifically if one lives in a diffrent state it's easier and not that hard to stay in contact.... i get close to very few missionaries and this is why, especially since this one had hinted on more than one occasion that he would and we would hang out when he got home... sudden change being that once he got there he didn't want to know me.... i am loving these responses though and wow from actual missionaries too, it's nice to hear other peoples points of veiw...

hello! haha i know what it's like to be the only ysa, good to see that your putting yourself out there... this site is great i joined like two days ago! welcome and i hope you enjoy it kiley :)

thank you all for your great responses! and i love the whole go in guns ablazing < meaning smiles > the thing is that since i was baptised alot of my "freinds" have told me that they don't want anything to do with me because of the church, and how it's been dubbed a cult by alot of media.... so for me, i have lost alot of freinds and gained no new ones, which makes it a teeny bit harder... however reading the responses on here, gives me great comfart, and i am truly appreciative for these responses... the spirit has returned and for the better

still completely bummed about it... chocolate and movies cheeeah boi

favourites, unethical and being treated horribly are what's frustrating the most... everyones related to each other there and my feelings should not be disregaurded because of that... i'm taking in what your saying i really am.. and i have prayed about this many times... i've come from a troubled history and enjoyed the thought of being part of a family again... this is just not good enough... i'm not one to sit back and be treated horribly, and this should be acknowledged at the very least

i have been baptised a year now, at the end of this month... since my baptisim two other young girls have been baptised... our ward is incrediably small, with the average age being 80... tonight i was shocked to discover just how unrelenting they have been on us... i know i can not take this issue to the bishop because i've tried many times before, the main issue is that we do not feel welcomed or accepted by the ward. My cousin was recently baptised, and i was shocked to see that only one family out of our entire ward showed up... it was disgusting to see such lack of commitment to our brethen. on many occasions you will catch dirty looks and hushed whispers during the course of our lessons which not only exclude us but isolate us from the rest of the group... It's a clicky ward at the best of times and when family members make up the majority of the ward it makes it hard to communicate any issues you have with them what so ever, because family will and always be first. The problem is that every sunday should be a blessing, not a chore and while you do not go to church to mix with other people but rather to buid your testimony, your spirit is shaken when you are put into this position... there have been numerous times when i have been confronted for being freinds with the missionaries.. this i took to heart... because even though they are aware of the issues they neglect to adhere to them, almost as if it were too much trouble... the girls have been shunted as well as i... i am really unsure of whom to speak to about this issue... last week we had the temple president come out to speak to us, he asked us what we had to do to get into the temple, our entire ward was silent.... we knew the answers and went for it, only to be told that we were being disruptive and to be quiet... seperated or sat outside... there is just so many things wrong with this picture... i honestly am at wits end with this... i don't want to come home every sunday crying because i honestly feel like i am being cheated of my experience and of my testimony... while we all have the agency to make what we can of any situation enough is enough... considering our age and how we are recent members we need that constant praise and encouragement... not only for ourselves but so that we can grow and reach out for the best things... it's been a year for me and i'm rarely greeted or spoken too... the mast offensive thing of late was i had a calling to do a talk during sacrement excited i accepted... this was later taken back and i never had the chance to do it... it would of been fantastic to focus and share what i had learnt... any help or advice at all?

i myself being a new member know how busy life is once you get home... i am a full time student , manager my own store and have three callings within the church... it's a matter of making an effort i think... just hurts sometimes to think how you can be so accomadating to them and their needs and have that occur