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I think it depends on the clothes... usually I wash mine seperately, but if I mix them up unintentionally, they've still remained white. On the other hand, my father once did a load of garments and accidentally put in one red shirt, and they were all tinted pink! I'd wash them seperately, to stay on the safe side.

Whatever you do, don't live in Medical Lake. The wards there are horrible; when I lived there, my mother heard from the stake YW president that it had the highest number of inactives, disciplinary councils, things like that.

I would only do it if I was specifically commanded by the prophet, prayed about it, and received personal reveltation. But, I'd be completely miserable and would be depressed for a long, long time. The idea makes me sick to my stomach. Also, even if it was brought back in this life, I can't imagine it being widespread - because if it was, it would come to a point where there wouldn't be enough women to go around, and young men wouldn't have the opportunity to be sealed.

I can't agree with this reasoning. The love you have for your children is very different from the love you have for your spouse.

Our marriage is special, private, and intimate. It's not to be shared. Of course I feel threatened at the idea that something so personal, important, and sacred will be cheapened by spreading it out among multiple wives.

I don't know, it just seems that so much evidence points to there being polygamy in the celestial kingdom - like, God will command him to take another wife and I'll just have to deal with it. It's like I'm fearing the worst, I guess. "The only men who become Gods, even the Sons of God, are those who enter into polygamy." (-Journal of Discourses, Vol.11, p.268 - p.269, Brigham Young, August 19, 1866)

I'll keep this short and sweet: the idea of polygamy in the eternities is seriously hurting my testimony. I posted about this in the past, and got mixed answers. I'm not trying to discuss doctrine, or polygamy, as I know there are many threads on the subject... I just need to know how to stop thinking about it. I've talked to my bishop, and read my scriptures, and prayed (sometimes, literally sobbing on my knees, begging God to comfort me,) and have received no peace on the matter. This has been bothering me for months. I've never had something affect my testimony this badly before, and all my usual "tactics" for restoring it aren't working. I can't look at my husband without imagining having to share him, and the resentment, fear, and confusion is building up inside me. Help?

But there can be different kinds of love... say a man is married to one woman, his "true love," and is commanded to take more wives. Does that mean he'll fall romantically in love with all of them? Or perhaps that he'll love them in a different way? It's still love, and caring, and affection, but surely it doesn't mean he'll be head over heels in love with all of them. Like, the difference between loving someone and being in love with them.

I let my bishop know that I made the appointment to get endowed. When he inquired as to the date and time, and I told him, he replied "Oh, that's unfortunate, I won't be able to be there since I have a wedding." I was surprised, since I had not asked him to be present. Don't get me wrong, he's a great bishop and a nice man, but I didn't think we were especially close. It's not like I'm having tons of people at my endowment anyway, just three. He also has made vague comments along the line of being at me and my fiance's sealing. I've always imagined a small, intimate sealing and the idea of him being there is very startling. Especially since, again, I did not ask him to be present and he just seems to be assuming he will be. Is having your bishop at these events just "commonly done" and I wasn't aware of it? My fiance doesn't have a problem with it (he's closer to the bishop than me) but I kind of do.

Yes; everyone has already made up their minds not to come, and it's two weeks away, so I don't think a ring ceremony would change anything. I'm just looking for support, I guess. I'm definitely still getting married in the temple, would change that for ANYTHING.

I did plan on one, but my grandmother said "it's not real, it's just for show, and doesn't count." Which is pretty much true, I guess.

I'm getting married in two weeks. I've never had any "persecution" for being a member, until now. All of my extended family are refusing to come because they can't enter the temple. And it's not even like they're sad about it - they just don't seem to care. My grandma originally said she'd be thrilled to come, but she wrote me an email last night saying that she'd changed her mind because she can't see the ceremony. I'm very hurt. I thought I was close with my extended family, but their actions speak otherwise. I tried posting my feelings to a wedding community I'm a part of, and everyone pretty much said "serves you right, I don't blame them," which just made me feel worse. Obviously, there's nothing I can do about it. The temple is so important and I'm so happy to be getting married there, but my family's actions still sting. I guess I'm just looking to commiserate people and know that I'm not alone. Stories, anyone?

I don't think it's fair to say that if you're older, you simply "won't care" if your husband is with other women. My mother is almost fifty and I know the idea of polygamy bothers her a great deal. Back to polygamy. What will the standing be of the wives? How can a man love them all? Is there precedence given to the first wife? Do you think the love he has for his additional wives will equal that of the love for his first wife, rival it, be less than it, etc?

Anyone know what these purposes are? I can't even begin to imagine what "benefits" there could be. I'm not trying to be argumentative, it just doesn't make sense. In the CK, surely there won't be any shortage of (or need for) temporal things like money and food and shelter, so where's the need for a man to provide for multiple wives? What do you think about Isaiah 4:1 - "And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach." Do you think this could be what polygamy is like in the CK? Because I don't care if my husband marries another woman "in name" and has nothing else to do with her - I just loathe the idea of her living with us and being intimate with him.

I'm sorry, I just don't understand how. The bonds of marriage are meant to be between one man and one woman, right?

Will there be polygamy in the Celestial Kingdom? I'm getting married in five weeks. The idea that my fiancé and will covenant to be devoted and faithful to each other, only to have him take more wives in the eternities, really, really upsets me. It makes me feel like our sacred bonds of marriage will be meaningless. I've confessed my feelings to my fiancé, and he too was bothered by the scenario. I'm finding very little official church doctrine to either confirm or deny, and this issue is weighing heavy on my shoulders. I don't know what to think. If being in the celestial kingdom means I must "share" my husband, I don't know if I want to be there. I have a strong testimony, but this issue is just something I can't shake. While writing this post, I've literally started crying, thinking of my husband being married to and intimate with another woman. Please help me. Edited to add: I also can't imagine WHY polygamy would be good, righteous, or acceptable. What is wrong with one man and one woman being married? Is that relationship not sacred and special?