deals_dog

Sorry to hear that this has happened to you. Having your wife leave you in this circumstance must have been very difficult. Now you have to move on, this has not ruined your life unless you choose to let it. How one reacts to anything is optional. You can wallow in self piety till you drown in it and what good does that do you. Shake it off and move on brother. As for Pornography I have always found that to be a problem if I viewed it so I made up my mind that it was rather pointless and moved on. It is ugly degrading stuff that feeds upon the natural mans base desires and lusts, which are at best imposable to satisfy. Make up your mind as I did not to view such material and clean your mind. If you have an addition, seek help from your bishop. When you a free from this thing find a nice young woman and treat her like a lady with real respect and brotherly kindness

Well done, very true

Nothing wrong with money, take it from me its not very nice when you dont have enough. But I suppose if you loose your soul in the pursuit of it then it has robbed you. But I didn't think the lord wants us to be poor, he would have us be industrious and hard working. Balance I would say is the problem in most peoples existance. Focusing on the money and loosing sight of your family. But as for the car, very nice but I am not going to sweat it if I don't have one parked in my drive way.

Our church is full of people too, some good some bad and even the odd nutter or three. Catholics, Baptists, Jews hindu's etc have their fair share too. I am sorry that your neighbours are not appearing to be living as well as they should, don't judge us all that way. I'll tell you what, you come down to New Zealand and move in next door to me and I will send my neighbour to live next door to your "Mormon friends" My good neigbour threatened to kill me one day when he was off his face drunk, tried to be nice to him but things just didn't work out, even had to call the cops to sort him out. Sounds like my neighbour could work mircles with yours

You are in that time of life where the last thing you need is a steady relationship. Get into education focus on preparing yourself for a great future. When the time is right things will fall into place. Have you thought about going on a full time mission. I did years ago and have nothing but admiration for the Sisters who were in my mission they were fantastic.

You need to make another appointment with Bishop and tell him the truth, be honest. Then you'll feel much better. I believe then you will feel a lot more comfortable about yourself and the healing will begin. Then forgive yourself and move on.

I would suggest talking to your bishop and maybe a councilling session at LDS Social services. However unresolved sin is not a happy companion you will always feel guilt and your self esteem will be low. This will reflect in your family relationships and cast a shaddow over everthing you do. I am a bit worried that you have no regrets, sorrow is a very important part of repentance, with out it you can not gain forgiveness.

Just be the best person and daughter you can be. Love her for who she is, your mother. No doubt in times passed she could have had her trials with you. I have been active pretty much all of my life up till about 3 years ago when I faced some personal problems, I stopped going to church and setting a good example for my family. I have been of late getting my house in order and getting back to where I should be. I thank God every day for people who have reached out their hands of fellowship to me dispite of my weaknesses. I am a father of two children (all grown up now) and have served a mission. Moms and Dads are human too. Alot of focus is directed at the plight of youth in these times. Spare a thought for struggling adults. Love your mother unconditionally as she has loved you