Twisted_Fairytales

Feels almost like a waste of time My 2 year old is struggling to settle in Nursery so I usually am in there settling him for most of RS. If it works and I get into Sunday School that is the baby's feeding time so Im off to the Mothers lounge. Sacrament is spent chasing my toddler and retrieving him from escaping from the chapel Then we come home again. It takes me a godd couple of hours each Sunday morning to get us all ready for 3 hours of church and I spend most of it in a room on my own or in a corridor! How long will this last before I can get something out of church again? I realise that I am sacrificing my own church experience in order for my children to learn how to behave at church and what its all about. But some Sundays come round and Im so exhausted, Ill admit that I just dont go as the thought of all the effort for so little return doesn't seem worth it.

Thank you. I really had never considered audio scriptures or hymns but I can completely see the benefit of playing hyms and primary songs, I think it would calm the children too as they both love me to sing to them. I will be downloading furiously later on! That way I can listen to them in the car while I run errands. What a great idea thank you gramajane. I feel lifted already at the thought of this. My RS oresident is always asking if theres anything she can do-but Im not sure what to ask for really. Baby has to be with me as Im breastfeeding and my toddler doesnt know her so would kick off ifshe tried to take him anywhere. Id feel a bit mercenary asking her to do my housework!! I do have family close and they do help but they arent with me all the time, and its those times that are hard. I dont believe I have postnatal depression, but I know what signs to look for and Im not one of those people who suffers in silence believe me. I suffer, and you suffer with me lololol. Thanks for your suggestions so far Im excited to try it out and see what difference this makes to my day :)

I have 7 week old and 18 month old boys. Its very crazy as you can imagine and Im finding it so hard to even do simple things like go to the bathroom I just havent managed to read my scriptures since DS2 was born and hardly pray. I feed DS to sleep in bed at night so more often than not I fall asleep too without saying prayers. I sometimes feel so overwhelmed with them I just cry. Then I remember I have the gospel and can ask for help and strength but because Ive not been praying or studying I feel so far removed from it. I dont expect to have a sudden answer just because Ive desperately begged for it. It feels like so long since Ive had a spiritual experience which I desperately want as I think it would keep me going. I just dont know how I find time to do these things, any hints or tips? When they sleep, I sleep or Id not function. I need some time with DH in the evening which after bathtime etc is around 8pm. I just feel so in demand that I dont have time for myself or the gospel

Im feeling very despondant but I need some input here. My ward is starting to affect mine and my husbands testimony. At times it feels that we are getting more out of the gospel by not going. The stake presidency have flagged us up as a 'problem' ward and mention it often. I think they are sick of us. At ward conference the 1st counsellor was visibly fed up and even mentioned in a talk how we are not functioning. My DH is on the EQ Pres. He had a meeting in the wk and when he came home he said he felt sick to his stomach at the way the pres was discussing members of the ward. He wants to resign as its making him so depressed. I would say 30% of the ward callings are unfilled with plenty of members with no calling (myself included, havent had one in almost 4 yrs). No one reads the lessons or participates, just sits there. The person who teaches Sunday school who isnt a called teacher never focusses on the lesson contect, just tries to get contraversial debates going every wk. People wander in and out chatting, theres no repsect atall. I feel worse after going to church. Its getting so bad we want to move wards. The reason I say its affecting our testimonies is if people are called by revelation, it seems somehow not right that the EQ Pres sits there slating members of the ward in an EXTREMELY derogatory and disrespectful way. DH said he was even trying to get out of home teaching 2 families but took the 'lesser of the evils'. I know we are all human but how can the Lord want someone like this in a calling that is supposed to be about service? When my DH has suggested activities to strengthen and include future missionaries in the ward he sneered and called them 'retards'. Theres a few members who only come to cause trouble, and a couple of people who sit there swearing periodically. Its just torture and everyday we dread going. I just dont know what to do short of moving

We waited for 5 years. It was right for us. I wanted to get a degree first. It turned out we needed IVF anyway and that took another 2 years. I wouldn't change it though. Your reasons sound very sensible. Although, it is up to you and your husband so I wonder why you are looking for approval? Do you feel guilty waiting? DONT! Its your decision as a couple. There's never a good time though. But when they come, you make it work. I got naturally pregnant when my boy was 9months old after having IVF. We absolutely did not plan that, and I still hadn't found a job etc. I was worried sick for about 3 weeks wqondering how we'd cope but things have fallen into place and nowe its actually more perfect than I thought it could be :) Good luck :D

Im drinking pepsi or coke every day at the minute, Im craving it in my pregnancy!!

We have fertility issues too, its not because you are arguing though!!! :shock: I hope you find out what is wrong soon as we endured a cycle of IVF and it is very tough you have to be a string couple to deal with it. Hopefully it wont come to that but just giving u a tip from someone whos been there However, I think you should definitely sort out your issues before you have a baby. Me and my DH have similar issues at times perhaps not to the degree you do, but the usul couple stuff about both of us feeling underappreciated or hard done by. Counselling seems to be the best option for you both. Good luck!

I have similar issues with my Mum and her behaviour. I have come to accept I cant change her, I just have to accept what she does is her choice whether I like it or not. I have had many long discussions with her about how I feel, how her actions hurt me etc. But she still continues which shows she doesn't really care about me. I have put some distance between me and her becuase of it and there are certain things she has sacrificed, such as looking after her unborn grandchild, which she will never do as I can't trust her. Bottom line, you Mum is who she is and you cant do anything about it. You either have to live yout life the way you want in the house or move out. If your Dad lives there too he should be involved in having a say about your daughters clothes. If not, its not your sisters fault and I would venture to say she wouldnt be held responsible for any wrong doing as she is only a minor and under the jurisdiction of your parents.

He wasn't there! Guess we'll have to try next Sunday.

Thank you so much everyone :) Well we have decided to see the Bishop today and see if we can work out a plan. If he is not helpful, we will go to the stake pres. Its true I dont need the stress. I was up half the night worrying. Then when i did get to sleep I kept dreaming I was bleeding and losing the baby It is getting to me. We sat down today and worked out what we need to get by and what we will need to get us straight. Problem is, I know our car wont last and then what? My DH wont be able to work and we'll be in trouble again. This is the problem, we are ok if NOTHING goes wrong, but it always does, especially at the moment. I can see some light at the end of the tunnel though, thank you for your kind words and advice it really helps. Plus I saw that video on youtube Motherhood:an eternal partership with God and it was like it was talking to me, I just hope those promises come true!!!

We're not entitled to any assistance I've already checked it out. So, are you sure we can ask the Stake President for help? Im worrying myself sick about this. We WANT to pay tithing and I understand we should be to get help. But at this point in time it would leave us potentially homeless. Thanks for your suggestion though, I wouldn't have thought to see President, I would have felt bad bypassing the Bishop, and still do in a way. But we are in a desperate situation

Im really in a desperate situation I just don't know what to do My DH has had his wages cut and work is not as regular as it was. I am pregnant and on maternty leave till next yr so I cant earn anything. Due to these citrcumstances we have fallen behind with our rent and bills and are struggling. Then DH had a car crash and wrote off the car so we had to borrow money from his Mum to buy a cheap new one which has turned out to be a nightmare, it hasnt been in working order for a full week since we bought it. This has meant my husband has lost work as he couldnt get in, so we have no money to fix all the latest problems with the car. Its like a spiralling out of control problem and we dont know what to do. We just made an agreement with our landlord to pay extra every month to pay off the arrears and I know we wont be able to do it, and he said if we cant he'll have to evict us. Due to this we havent been paying tithing either. We tried to pay some, but when we went to the Bishop to ask for help he said we wern't paying enough to get any help. I guess I am feling very cheated as this pregnancy was an IVF pregnancy and we have wanted this for so long. When we got the approval for the IVF we both prayed to make sure it was the right time to have a child. We've been married a few years and wanted to be ready. We both felt it was the right time, and we trusted in the Lord and I feel we've been let down as now we are on the verge of being homeless with a baby, its not fair to it being stable all this time, and when we finally get our longed for child we wont have a home for it Every time I pray for help, something else goes wrong. I feel I should stop praying now as everytime I do it makes it worse, I cant risk any more things happening. We feel we have come to the end of the road, we dont have enough money, cant get anymore , have debts and bills spiralling out of control and a baby on the way. Just dont know what to do please help

Willow, I was in a similar position once where a family dominated the ward. It wasn't as bad as your experience, but they were 'in the club' as it were and I always felt that if they wanted, they had forst dibs and choice over everyone else. And all the youth were cousins and or brothers and sisters so I sometimes felt left out. Perhaps you could schedule a meeting with your Bishop to explain your feelings to him and how you didnt feel listened to and see what happens after that. Sorry you're hurting. Good luck x

Dogs! I have a GS/Lab mix, awesome dogs!

Thank you Fairchild. Thats a good idea to document it all. Thank you all!

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Well, that is the problem, I have no evidence that she HAS harmed the child. I just know how she behaves and treats my brother in law and I am concerned she could pass it on to the child. I have no evidence whatsoever. I think you are right Funky town, I will speak with my parents about it as they are the opposite side of the family, and have no emotional attatchment. Of course, my husband and I would be more than willing to take the child-I am unsure what's done too, as I have no idea or experience with this sort of thing. I will speak with my parents and see what they think. When it's put in black and white, it doesn't look like I have a case I have prayed about it but haven't had a specific answer, but I still have a nagging feeling that the child will have problems growing up in their home.

Thank you! G'day to you too Sleepless, I'm in Albany.

I have already made a post, but I guess I should have posted here first! Just wanted to say hi and introduce myself. I came here for advice on a specific problem but having seen the site I am looking forward to conversing with fellow saints from around the world. It looks awesome!

Hello everyone, I am new to this site. I joined because I am having a very difficult personal problem that I am unsure what to do about and I can't discuss it with my family. I am concerned about my sister in law being an unfit Mother. Both she and my brother in law have mental health issues. His is more controlled, although he ignores any problems or issues as a result as he can't cope with them. She has violent outbursts, is extrememly manipulative and she has been violent towards my brother in law before. I dont believe she has been violent towards my niece, but I believe she has munchausens by proxy, and I am concerned for my nieces mental, physical and emotional health as she grows up. Does anyone here feel I have a case to report her to Child protection and family services? I am in a great amount of turmoil over this. Any input would be appreciated. Thankyou all x