Twisted_Fairytales

Ignore the sizing chart, they always come up at least 2 sizes too big. I'd go for a 20!petite and see how you get on.

So is a prayer saying sorry enough if you repent and feel truly sorry? Should you confess the crime? To the victim, the bishop?

Silhouette, I've never heard that before about scriptures on the floor. Seems slightly OTT. I keep mine on the floor next to my bed and so does dh, I don't know where else I'd keep them tbh.

I think you're referring to the preparing to enter the holy temple booklet. I think the phrase about lounging around in them is in there. I don't have a problem doing it, but I don't have as much respect for the garments as some.

I understand how hard this must be for you. But I can think of a lot worse things than your wife wearing tank tops and strapless dresses. I think things like this you really need to let go and concentrate on coming to an agreement on how you are going to manage this.

Is this something you'd need to speak with your bishop about? Could you take the sacrament, go to the temple etc? Or could you repent 'on your own' as it were?

I felt EXACTLY the same way Carter. All I can say is you need to address this issue somehow or it will get away at you and possibly get worse as far as the church goes. From what you've said I think gaining a testimony is the most important thing for you here. If you feel the Church is true and a mission is the right thing then go. That feeling will transcend your reservations about the temple. I've doubted for years and still have doubts, but I was so fed up that one day I prayed and begged God to tell me if the church was true so I could move forward in the church. I got that confirmation that the church wad where I needed to be. I still have questions as we all do but I can get over it a bit more now. This was almost 10 years in the making, believe me I've walked up and down that road 1000 times. Pm me if you want to ask me anything else.

We've had quite a rough year this year, it's been very hard. But a month ago we had a fire at home and now having to live with my Mom. It's definitely been one of the hardest things we've had to face but the fire didn't destroy the house, just the kitchen and most of our stuff is fine. We just have to wait for the house to be refurbished by the insurance company before we can move back. my attitude to life crises is to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and get on with it. I always see the positive and know that this arrangement isn't forever and things could be a lot worse. My dh however has struggled with it all and he is very down. I think he is overreacting to things and really pesimistic about life in general. He's always moaning about something, never seems to see the positives. He's always complaining he's tired yet goes to bed late aNd never rests when he can. He shouts at the boys unnecessarily and undermines my parenting, such as giving them dessert after I've said no just so they stop whining as he can't take it. I think he's depressed but he refuses to see a medic as he doesn't want 'happy pills' even though I've said they may not necessarily do that they will give him options. My step mom is a therapist and thinks he needs therapy which he's sort of agreed with, but he's so stubborn he's said he'll do it if and when HE chooses to. No more has been said about it and I know nothing will ever come of it. We're both fairly lacklustre with the church yet he's also refused to get a blessing. Hes also just turned down a calling. He moans and moans about so much but does nothing to change it. As a result of this I've just been letting him get on with it and focusing on our children who need me and a happy mommy more than ever. He's pulled me up on not being sympathetic to him and I do feel so bad that sometimes I have ignored him when I know he's needed me. I think it's because I've got so much on my plate that I don't feel I have anything left to give after tending to the boys and my own needs. I suffer anxiety and a phobia myself and he is mostly so supportive of me that I feel so guilty when i can't reciprocate. Why is that? But one person can only deal with so much. I've always been quite a direct person and he's more reserved and sensitive and those qualities in us seem to be clashing more than they ever have. This is the first time I've really felt this way, we've always had an amazingly strong marriage, but when things do crop up neither of us really knows how to deal with them and we usually just sweep them under the carpet and get on with things which I know is no good. Anyone have anything they can offer me? I'm fed up of feeling like I'm having to gee him up and hold his hand all the time. I could be having a lovely day with mom and the boys and sometimes hell come home and have me feeling low and depressed within minutes as he tears things down or paints such a bleak picture of our lives that sometimes i wish he hadnt come home which is awful if i try to speak to him about any of this he goes so introverted and starts beating himself up saying he is rubbish, useless etc very self pitying, not, ok what do we do to solve this? i do love him so much but I want him to be a little more self sufficient once in a while. Or is that expecting too much, as he does have a lot on his plate but no more than most men who work and provide for their family?

Thanks :)

Im after this scripture for my lesson on sunday, I know its in 1st or 2nd nephi, where he's saying that they have suffered so much, and so have their women in particular, 'even unto death' I think he says. Can anyone help?

That's the one!

There is actually a forum for members who's spouses have left their faith...Im desperately trying to think what its called, I will try and find out for you. I wish you good luck with your situation, I have no advice, sorry just the info on the forum I mentioned. Ill get back to you when Ive hopefully found it!

William, I think you need to relax a bit :) You cant spend your life feeling guilty, thats not what the church is about. If you saw something you'd rather not, just turn it off and dont look at it again.

THEIR happiness as they are obviously happy and do not share the same view. Perhaps some religions view us that way, bit it doesn't stop us from being happy or believing what we are doing is right.