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Thank you for your comments, I really appreciate them. It is nice to hear the thoughts of others on this situation. LoudMouth_Mormon, I completely understand your opinion-and I've part of me has held onto that belief the past 10 years since I've been divorced. To answer honestly-I don't know the answer. When I first started to get to know this man, I took it to our Father in Heaven in prayer and had the impression this was someone I should get to know (which is huge for me- I've never had that happen before). However, having said that, I am still a skeptic and because of that we have taken this relationship extremely slow, resulting in a solid foundation and friendship. So anyway, even though relationships can be uncertain--and the majority fizzle out-- I also need to have the faith and hope that the blessings of marriage is obtainable. Please believe I am not doing this lightly and desperatly hope my children dont get hurt by any of my actions. I'm going into this with the hope we will all be happier in the long run.

I'm hoping for a little insight into my ten year old son's mind... I've been dating someone for about a year now and as our relationship has been progressing, my son gives me more and more grief and guilt. I truly believe my son likes him, but has mixed feelings and doesn't know how to handle them. There are times when he asks me to have my boyfriend (I dislike using that word--I'm too old to have a boyfriend!!) come over and play board games, watch a movie, or just hang out but then if my boyfriend and I hold hands or cuddle, my son hates it. I've sat down and discussed the situation with my son and wth my boyfriend (I dont like using that word--I'm too old to have a boyfriend!) separately. From his actions, our talks, and his random comments I believe my son's issues are because he somehow feels valued less and that I can't possibly love him and my boyfriend at the same time. I've assured my son of the undying and everlasting love I have for him and he (and his older sister and brother--who don't have a problem with me dating) come first in my life. Also because my son doesnt remember his dad and I being married and having a traditional family life (somewhat anyway) I reminded him of the Proclamation of the Family and explained that our Father in Heaven wants us to be happy and when we grow up he wants us to find someone to share our adult lives with (and eternity). However it doesn't seem to help. I realize he is confused and probably doesnt even know what he is feeling, but he is also being a little selfish and I dont know how to approach it other than what I have done and let it play itself out. Earlier this morning I read another thread about a lady with children remarried and is having troubles. A lot of the comments said how children come first-and I agree with that. So I guess I am hoping for some input on this. How have you or people you've known done this? Any opinions, advice, and insight will be greatly appreciated.

Well, if its cold outside...How about chili? Its pretty inexpensive to make and can feed a crowd. Other ideas are a baked potato bar, Hawaiin Heystacks, pancake dinner, or a pasta bar with different pasta and sauces.

My oldest son bought the 360 Kinect at 12:00 am the day it came out. He loves it and truth be told I even thought it was amazing-and I am not into video games. The technology is extremely cool, the one down side is that we have a smaller space than is recomended, so we either move the couch to play or aim the tv and sensors off to the side in order to be 6-10 ft away. Overall, it is seriously cool!

A while back someone posted this link Eye Single | Times & Seasons I found what this lady wrote to be very accurate at describing what being single in the church is like. In fact, I actually printed it out and read it several times..... Hope this helps give you some of the information you are looking for.

About the gift ideas.... How about sending flowers--maybe you could use a spin off of the New Era Morman-ad of 11 red roses and one daisy that said "Be your own kind of beautiful" maybe the card could say "I'm glad you are your own kind of beautiful" or something along those lines... Also, what about perfume? They have great names of scents which could be used for a cute comment on the card (like Happy by clinique, Euphoria, or Eternity by Calvin Klein, etc) One last idea which is really fun and you can do make fit your relationship- make a cute candy-bar card (with candy and posterboard). Good luck and let us know how it goes!

Wow, its awesome to hear a shy guys perspective! Thanks for your comments, I really appreciate it. Well, we are still seeing each other. It has been very interesting getting to know him-not to mention difficult and confusing, but we are getting closer and I feel like we are developing a strong, deep foundation for a relationship. There are so many positive signals I'm getting (He took me to his work party and another summer party with a group he is in), but truth be told-we haven't even held hands yet!! I am old-fashioned in thinking he should make the first move...and I have worked REALLY hard not to be obvious in case he doesn't want to....its a confusing position I've got myself in! (although we do touch when were together with a hug goodbye) Soooo, I need to know....(because you are shy too) how are the ways of behavior or signs different from when you like-like someone rather than when you friend-like someone? I can't believe I'm asking this--I feel like I am in Junior High again!