beefche

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  1. beefche

    I hate my husband's calling (Bishop)

    I'm sorry this is happening. I've not had this issue. As I thought about practical advice, my inner rebel kept piping up, "Don't stop going to church! That means they win! Go to church and be cheerful and smiling so the old biddies will have to work even harder to push us out!" Maybe the sentiment isn't good, but I think the actions are good. Focus on people who need a friend or a kind word or a smile. Support your husband and be even kinder to him--his burden is greater due to the actions of these people. Choose faith--and sometimes it is a choice--and rely on the Lord even more.
  2. beefche

    Saying sorry

    I don't understand. They bump into each other and that resulted in a fight? I suppose I'm just weird. This is how it would have gone down for me: Another person and I run into each other Me: OH! I'm sorry! Are you ok? Other Person (OP): Yeah, no harm done. I guess it could have happened this way.... Me: OH! I'm sorry! Are you ok? OP: You stupid @#[email protected]#[email protected]! You need to watch where you are going! You #[email protected]#$!#$%. Me: Uh, okayyyy.... walks away.... I couldn't care less if people call me names. I suppose if someone takes a swing, then things would change. But, it typically wouldn't result in violence unless both parties are being stupid.
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    The next life

    In an article on ldsliving (linky), it quotes Joseph Smith as saying (referring to the deceased among us), "They are not far from us, and know and understand our thoughts, feelings, and motions, and are often pained therewith." Why would the deceased know our thoughts? I thought it was the Lord only who knew our thoughts (not even Satan knows our thoughts). What is it about not having a mortal body allows us to know another's thoughts? Am I being too literal in understanding this statement?
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    What’s the last movie you watched?

    Finally saw Endgame. SPOILERS! I admit, I exclaimed aloud when Cap picked up Mjolnir. I bawled like a baby with Tony and Pepper at the end. I, too, wondered about the backstory of Nat and Clint. I had some serious issues with the timeline problems. But, I enjoyed the movie overall. I'm glad it's over (ok, not really, as there will be movies with Spiderman, Marvel, Dr. Strange, and what the heck happened to Loki???).
  5. beefche

    Old TV shows

    I think MASH still holds up. I still laugh at some of the craziness. "I'll carry on, carry over, Cary Grant, or even hari kari, if you show me how...." 🤣
  6. beefche

    A Realization I had During Ramadan Last Night

    Here's my typical conversations when this comes up (this is not an exaggeration--actually happened several times): Friend: try this coffee! So good! Beef: no thanks. Friend: why? it's really good! I hated coffee until I tried this. Try it! Beef: no, I don't drink coffee and honestly hate even the smell of it. Look at that lady's purse! It's so pretty! Friend: just try it. Beef: no, it's also against my religion. Seriously, did you see that purse? Loved the teal color! Friend: what? Why? What's wrong with coffee? Your Mountain Dew has caffeine too! Beef: it's not about the caffeine. I've made a promise to God that I won't drink coffee, or tea, or alcohol, or smoke, or take drugs. I love teal, but don't have a teal purse. Do you have one? Friend: I get the smoking and drugs, but coffee? tea? alcohol? What's wrong with them? Even in moderation, a little alcohol is good. Beef: it's against my religion. I made a promise to God. Where did you get your purse? Friend: but, coffee is healthy! And drinking wine is healthy! Don't you want to be healthy? Beef: I don't know if there is anything wrong with them. But, I made a promise to God to not drink them. Can we talk about purses now? I'm not changing my mind about the coffee. So, where's the best place to get a teal purse?
  7. I didn't express myself well. What people decide in their marriage is their business. I don't agree necessarily that divorce is the answer if one of the spouses leave the church (and that's the only thing that changed), but it's not my business and I'm not privy to the privacy of the marriage or of the Lord's inspiration. So, one couple's choice to separate and another to stay isn't disturbing to me. What disturbed me was how they expressed it to me. Saying to me that they would divorce in response to me sharing such personal, painful information disturbs me. To me, it just isn't proper to express that thought as a response. Something more along the lines of, "I'm so sorry to hear that. That must be very difficult. Wow, I'm not sure how I would respond in your place."--any of those are appropriate. It just upsets me to hear people say that in response. I don't hold it against them. Most of the time, people just don't know what to say in these situations, so unfortunately, they don't think about how it will sound or be taken.
  8. My husband and I were married in the temple. He comes from pioneer stock. After 2 years of marriage, he announced his intention to leave the church. That came completely out of the blue for me. Absolutely nothing to indicate he was leaning towards this. When he left, I struggled with it and frankly, didn't handle it well. He was completely anti and the vitriol he had for the church (and church members) was so shocking to me (his outspoken contempt has lessened now). I still don't know why he left (although I have a very strong suspicion of what it was--absolutely nothing to do with a member or members at all). Based on this experience, I can say that the ward members who reached out to him did so with friendship, not with any intent of reactivating or converting. In fact, a couple of members that we hung out with commented that when he left the church, he left them as well. One thing that I can say that disturbs me from church members is how many (friends and acquaintances) said to me that they would divorce their spouse if they left the church. First, you honestly don't know what you would do unless you are in that situation (trust me, before I married I would have been the same to say such--in fact, I would never have dated my husband had I any inkling he would leave the church), but that truly isn't helpful to say that. Say it to yourself or someone else, but not in my hearing. I don't need to justify to you my decision to stay married so even saying, "Wow, I could never stay married. I'd divorce him/her in a heartbeat." suggests that my decision is wrong. Second, I am grieving! and you suggest to me that I should divorce him (and yes, I had people do more than just say they couldn't stay married--they flat out asked me if I'm getting a divorce)? If I had asked someone if I should divorce is one thing, but I never brought that subject up (thought about it of course, but never asked anyone since that was my decision alone). Offering such a "solution" to my issue is extreme to say it nicely. You can express sympathy better than that, surely. So, in my limited experience, it was the leaver who severed relationships, not church members.
  9. beefche

    So um... I have an announcement.

    Conga rats to you and the wife! Great news!
  10. My issue with this statement is that my honeymoon phase lasted the whole year we dated and through our 2nd wedding anniversary. No way on Earth would I date someone for over 3 years to get out of the honeymoon phase. My advice to youngin's is to listen to those closest to you (parents, friends, spiritual leaders). Because we are in love, we sometimes can't see red flags or just things that may make us not compatible. They love us and have our best interests in mind. So listening to their thoughts or concerns can help us see issues that we may not see. Obviously, these loved ones cannot make the decision for us, but they can help us. Sorry, that advice isn't moving from friends to more but rather to dating to engagement/marriage.
  11. Bill? Who is Bill? When did he join this forum??
  12. I recognize 3 of the 4. My recognition ability is lacking. But can 4 people really be called a Legion? I would think that something more appropriate is the Four Horsemen (women) of the Apocalypse.
  13. beefche

    What’s the last movie you watched?

    Finally got around to watching A Quiet Place. It was enjoyable, but... SPOILERS! Seriously? How in the world did none of the governments figure out that sound is what attracks them so sound is what can destroy them???!!! The governments obviously were aware of them as the newspapers plastered headlines on the creatures and how to protect yourself. And why was everyone so isolated? I understand not wanting to live in a city full of people, but obviously, it could be done because someone is manufacturing those newspapers. And it wasn't that the creatures were in overwhelming numbers--the family had written down that there were 3 confirmed sightings near their home. I can understand why a family alone may not be able to kill these creatures--but, come on! Militaries are more than capable of finding the weakness and exploiting it! I did enjoy the movie, but it was pretty predictable and I couldn't get past the obvious flaw. And that poor girl--she'll be scarred for life after thinking she was responsible for her brother's death and now taking on the responsibility of her father's death--she figured out about her aides and that she could have left it on to get rid of the creature.
  14. beefche

    I'm surprised by...

    My husband was surprised by this too. He served his mission in this area and felt that Moses Lake was close to another temple. But, I thought temples (at least the ones here in the US) are based on general membership as well as priesthood membership. If that's true, then Moses Lake would have a need for a temple (general membership) and have the manpower (priesthood membership) to support the running of the temple.
  15. beefche

    2019 Weight Loss Group

    Sorry I haven't been as vocal on here. I've not been in a healthy mindset for the past few weeks. Physical, spiritual, or mental health. I'm back on my 5and1 plan today. By sticking closely to it, I can easily lose 5 lbs this first week. I won't be 100% this weekend as we have a family gathering and I plan on eating some good grilled meat (meat is good, but not the high fat, but delicious ones I plan on eating) and my sis-in-law's potato salad. I'm tired of being fat, too, @unixknight. My husband and I just returned from the Smoky Mountains. We did lots of walking/hiking. I enjoyed it and definitely did better than I would have last year before losing the weight I lost. But, I still have 50# to lose and I kept thinking how much better I would feel if I would stick with my health goals. While I know, intellectually, that I will always need to work on my health, sometimes I just get tired of fighting cravings and emotional eating. So, I give in--then I beat myself up over being normal and human. And as a health coach (I coach others in the program I'm doing), I would never in a million years think or say what I allow myself to think and say to myself. But, I feel that I'm in a better place mentally. So, now I'm back to focusing on my health (with planned variations from it). So, what I say to myself (and anyone else who is like me)--today is a new day...make a better choice now than you did yesterday or even a moment ago. Remember WHY you want to be healthy and keep that focused. When you are tempted to grab food that you know isn't healthy, remind yourself of why you want to be healthy and ask yourself if this choice moves you closer or further away from that.