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    Being right, stomping the under-dog in "Risk", winning, causing others to lose, blocking people's tracks in "Ticket to Ride", playing drums
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  1. Fether

    Church allows missionaries to call home weekly

    Probably a little. The missionary handbook says “You may telephone your parents on Christmas and one other time during the year (usually Mother’s Day), according to guidelines from your mission president. Take care that these calls do not ... create a financial problem for your family.”
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    Are there any Whovians here?

    I discovered Dr Who in 2012 and was a die hard fan until June 2014 when so left on my mission. Loved all of them (or at least the newer generation) up to and including Matt Smith and saw every episode probably 3-5 times. Got home from my mission in 2016 and lost interest. So for about 2 years I was a die hard fan. Now not so much
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    February 11 -17

    Elder Holland comments on that “I can honestly say (and I’m embarrassed to say it) that I can hardly think of anything I have ever done in anger that I did not live to regret. There is probably righteous indignation, but usually it’s just indignation. Maybe this rule is good enough: If you ever find anyone changing money in the temple, you can get mad (laughter). That seems to be an acceptable reason. But short of that, be careful. Bite your tongue. Count to 50 and try again. Because that’s what the Savior did. I think we’ve overplayed the cleansing of the temple as an example of Christ’s “other side.” It does show how a God feels about sacred things, but the anger was an exception, not the rule.”
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    Need help re. Plan of salvation

    I’ll shout you straight... I was catching up with the conversation and when I read your comment I thought you were someone else responding to Rob, who was responding to someone else. go ahead and discount my entire comment 😛
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    Need help re. Plan of salvation

    You seem to be confusing the Rob with Jesus Christ. Him not knowing the answer has nothing to do with it being true or false. Here is a quote from Joseph Smith that May aid in your question “When you climb up a ladder, you must begin at the bottom, and ascend step by step, until you arrive at the top; and so it is with the principles of the gospel—you must begin with the first, and go on until you learn all the principles of exaltation. But it will be a great while after you have passed through the veil [died] before you will have learned them. It is not all to be comprehended in this world; it will be a great work to learn our salvation and exaltation even beyond the grave” It appears exaltation doesn’t come immediately after death or even judgement. It is something that we will continue to learn. So both us and children who die early will still be working for exaltation after this life.
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    Not opening priesthood with prayer

    Not meaning to be rude to your brother, but this is a pretty petty issue. It’s like complaining that one ward has the bishop sit to the right of the podium and another they sit to the left. Why does this but him so much?
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    Streaming Services

    My advice is to stop caring about so much stuff my approach is: ”I have access to these streaming service, let’s wander around until I find something I like.” This is how I found Blackish, Brooklyn 99, Rookie, Good Doctor, Good Place, Series it Unfortunate Events, Vikings, and of course my only true love iZombie.
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    Streaming Services

    My fam splits the services. I pay for amazon, my parents got Netflix, and my sister pays for Hulu. We all have access to eachother’s Accounts. Hulu and Netflix are the only ones I really watch though.
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    Did My Mission Even Matter?

    I do think that there is something to be said about the seeds planted But hear me out. When a missionary feels like a failure because they see no baptisms, little baptisms, or their baptisms leave the church, they are beating themselves up because they are basing their “success” on baptisms and conversions. They then tell themselves two things: 1) ”Baptisms are not indicators of success” And 2) “Maybe I’ll be like Abinadi and never see the success of my seeds.” The latter is a Freudian Slip of the initial statement. They are still seeing actual baptisms as their success indicators. Nothing changed, they just told themselves “maybe I’ll be successful later”. I baptized a good amount of people on my mission. Not an immense amount, not a tiny amount, but a good amount. But when I look back on my mission, I see it as a success because of my repentance, faithful service, and the fact that I did what God asked me to do. That is success in God’s eyes. Putting our basis of success on an indicator we cannot control is like playing emotional and mental roulette. Lastly, I would challenge any with this question. Would Abinadi have been a failure if Alma did not convert?
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    Did My Mission Even Matter?

    But in all honesty, a pretty good article. A classic struggle from many. The only thing I would disagree with is the notion of planting seeds could lead to future success. I feel like that is just a cop out response to one’s sense of failure. I think a much healthier approach would be to see the actual service of the mission as the success rather than the fruit (or lack of). ”let him contend earnestly for the redemption of the First Presidency of my Church, saith the Lord; and when he falls he shall rise again, for his sacrifice shall be more sacred unto me than his increase, saith the Lord.” Doctrine and Covenants 117:13
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    Did My Mission Even Matter?

    so rude, how do you know they identify as an elder. Perhaps your short sighted mind was actually looking at sister who just chooses to wear clothes that society pegs as masculine!?
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    Elder's Quorum Discussion

    Leading discussions is my jam 😁. It came naturally so I don’t really know the specifics of why I am so comfortable doing it (perhaps my pride keeps me blind to how bad it really is) but I’ll give it a go. 1. I never stick with the talk. I read the talk and pull out the two main over arching topics (typically it is a problem and a solution). Yesterday when I taught, we read the first 5ish paragraphs and talked about the theme. 2. I only ask questions and demand responses. Once I waited a good 30 seconds (felt like longer) for a response. I may have just gotten lucky with the quorums, but every time I lead it goes like this: me: 5-10 second question quorum member: 1-5 quorums members give 1-3 minute answers me: validate each response and ask follow up questions to get to the heart of the matter. Then repeat. 3. No expectations. If I fail it is because there is some weakness that I either didn’t know about or didn’t prepare for and allows me to learn and grow. If I succeed, then great.
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    Need help re. Plan of salvation

    I completely agree. you are spot on. It’s all about progression. It’s about becoming, not proving. Who I am now is vastly better than who I was 10 years ago, and presumably, better than who I was in the spirit world.
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    Need help re. Plan of salvation

    I’m not sure what you mean by your use of the word “true” and the end, but after rereading my comment, Ya I think my wording was off. It’s not enough to choose good, but we have to BE good. This life is where we choose good and become good. Adam and Eve were perfectly innocent which meant they were neither good nor evil, nor were they perfect. Mortality was the vehicle that took them from innocence to being good and eventually to exaltation.
  15. I was just reminded if this quote by Pres Spencer W Kimball ”There is a good verbal test to apply to determine the depth of one’s conviction of sin and hence of his start on the road to repentance… Do you wish to be forgiven? Could you accept excommunication for the sin of deemed necessary? Why do you feel you should not h excommunicated? If you were, would you become bitter at the church and its officers? Would you cease your activities in the church? Would You Work Your Way back to baptism and restoration of former blessings even through years? What have you done to prove your repentance? How much did you pray before the sin? How much during? How much since your admission of it? How much did you study the scriptures before your trouble? How much since? Are you attending meetings? Paying tithing? Have you told your wife or parents? Have you confessed your total sins? Are you humble now? Is it a result of being forced to be humble? Have you wrestled with your problems as did Enos? Has your soul hungered for your soul’s sake? Did you “cry unto him” a day-long prayer and into the night and raise you voice high that it reached heaven, as did Enos? How much have you tasted? How much suffering have you endured? Is your guilt “swept away?”