Looking for something, I guess. Here’s my story as concise as I can make it:
We dated when I was 17 and she was 16. I went on a mission. Got home and I wanted to date around. She didn’t give me any space. She told me she loves me and it stirred something within me, so I told her I love her. Got engaged the same night.
The wedding was being planned and I got serious doubts. It didn’t seem right. I told her to not mail the invitations. Met with my bishop. I disclosed that I had been diagnosed with OCD (while in the MTC) and he said the doubts are probably the mental illness talking to me. He also said I would have to pay her family for all the wedding expenses to that point, and that she would keep the ring. I would be out thousands of dollars that I couldn’t afford.
Under pressure, I made a stupid decision. I decided to go through with the marriage. I thought it would be okay if I didn’t like her much. After the ceremony, there would be no turning back and I would be free from the burden of choosing.
I had the ring and we went to the temple grounds, sat on a bench, and she started talking. I cut in and asked if I could speak first. I then got on one knee and asked her to marry me again. I expected her to happily accept (yes, I was conceited). She hesitated and asked if I was sure and I said yes. She hesitated more and then reluctantly accepted. As we were leaving, she said “When I started talking first, I was going to tell you that I was ready to call the whole thing off.” I was shocked and felt that I had just made the worst mistake of my life. If only I had let her speak first, I would be free. But it was too late to back out.
The ceremony was actually great and so was the honeymoon. I was happy. But it didn’t last long. I regularly think we shouldn’t have been married. Here we are 11 years and 4 kids later. I wish we hadn’t married.