wyarwehere

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  1. Because of past decisions, I'm highly doubtful any RM is going to want a relationship with me. My past relationships haven't been perfect, and I've been pretty quick to jump into those relationships. Eowyn: It's not just LDS culture. Most of my friends from IFB Bible College are either already or getting married. Where I went, if you were a senior and not in a serious relationship, you were definitely in the minority. Jenamarie: My last relationships were online ones. Unfortunately, I got in over my head, which usually resulted in feeling totally overwhelmed, which lead to thoughts of SH/SI, which resulted in hospital trips. I know what I'm supposed to do, stay true, marry in the temple, etc... But that's easy to say, and so much harder to follow thru with. And with being a convert, those aren't lessons I've had since childhood. Even before I joined the church, I wanted to be a wife and mother more than pretty much anything, definitely even more than getting my nursing degree. And I know he's good with kids, based on the summer we worked together. Please know that I'm not trying to argue with you guys, I'm just trying to explain things from my viewpoint. I don't mean to be difficult.
  2. This is definitely a time when I'm grateful for an anonymous message board, because I don't know anyone in my ward well enough to ask this to. Okay, a few years ago(almost eight) I worked as a summer camp counselor at a church camp(non-LDS). While there I met some really great people. There were two that were dating, and I was the unofficial chaperone.(If I was with them, they didn't get in as much trouble for going off on their own, and I was pretty easygoing.) I liked the guy in the relationship, but he was dating one of my good friends, so I put those feelings aside to simply be friends. And it worked. Over the years, he and I have talked sporadically, but not for any length of time, and not about anything really serious. He's a night owl, like me, so we usually talk in the evening. The other night we were talking, and I fell asleep. The next evening when we talked, he made the comment that it was sweet he was the last thing I was thinking of before sleep. Nothing major. Over the last few nights, the conversations have gotten more and more serious, and also quite inappropiate. I wasn't sure if he was serious, or just messing with me. And at the same time I knew our conversations weren't appropiate, but I didn't know what to say/do without hurting him and/or myself. So last night I finally asked him, and he said he was serious, but also cautious, because he doesn't want to be hurt. Then he made the comment that he should have thought things thru because he's became atheistic and I joined the church since we last saw each other. So now I'm stuck. Do I stay in the church, cut any possibility of this relationship off, and stay lonely, or do I see where this relationship could lead, knowing that if I do, I will probly end up leaving the church, in some manner. I don't believe he would make me leave the church. But like the title says, I have to wonder if this is my last chance. I don't really know any guys in my ward who are my age, and almost all my friends from my former branch are either married or getting married this summer(the one is only 20). So this weighs on my mind too. I'd appreciate any feedback, and I thank you in advance.
  3. I know where you're coming from. Though I had my vaccines, for a few years I was against them and was not going to have my kids get them. However, like Vort said, it puts everyone at risk. In addition, they still have the rumor going around that the MMR vaccine causes autism. There have been numerous studies proving that this is not true. What is your definition of vegetable when you're referring to the kids in your ward?