I am just really curious about WHY your husband is so set on staying in the ward? does he want to be reminded of the mistake he made? He and that lady did this to your family and her family and if either of you want to move that is the right you have, your husband if he really wants to work on the marriage you still have he cannot insist on staying where you are if that is something you can't do and work on your marriage... he gave that right away the moment he started this thing with that lady.