RooTheMormon

Thank you, I know that too @Sunday21

If you have read any of my other posts, you know I am the the only mormon in my intermediate family. All of my LDS friends were raised LDS. LDS parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. They were born in the church, raised in the church, and will one day (most of them) will start a family in the church. Their parents are always helping them to complete personal progress and going to church with them. They get to do family home evening, and they say prayers together before dinner. But not me. I was and am raised in a non-LDS home. A great one, but a home of heathens. I love my family to death, and I would never change anything about them ever. But my family arent just heathens, they also disagree with mormon values. I was baptized in July of 2013 at 9 years old. My parents told me that even if they disagreed, they would always support me. I would wake up at 6 AM on Sunday to get ready for church. I would go to church with one of my neighbors (they would take turns of who would take me, God bless them all.) At church I was the only girl in my class with 5 boys, and our teachers would always bring treats and I wuld be the only one to earn one. For a while I left church. I became something I wished I wasnt. Then I moved to a new city, and I was invited to Girls Camp. Since I had just turned 12, I would get to do my first year at the right age. I was so nervous, but so excited. Camp that year, now looking at it, was definitely a blessing Heavenly Father made for me. Never had I ever felt the spirit so strong. All these girls, in everything we did, I could feel their testimonies. At the testimony campfire I balled my eyes out. I wanted to feel that feeling again. I felt so warm and happy and thankful. I knew it was the spirit that I was feeling. After camp I started going to church again. I went to YW and campfires. I knew with all my heart I was doing the right thing. At home I felt so confused. I didnt know whether I could choose between the church, and following what my parents set as standards for me. My family would buy me immodest clothing, and I felt pressured to wear it, becayse I feel bad when people spend their hard earned money on things I dont even use. I tomorrow tried as much as my parents would allow me to be modest, and I tried to ignore their rude comments about the church. After about a year, my parents work schedules changed, and Sunday was the inly day they both had off. Thats when my mom decided I wasnt allowed to go to church anymore. She said that I was no longer putting family first, and that always comes first. So now I am not allowed to go to church. She occasionally lets me go to YWs, but I always feel guilty about it. I still read tge scriptures, say my prayers, read LDS articles, and do other things to help my faith. I know that my Heavenly Father knows that I am not going to church because I cant, not because I dont want to. I also know that he loves me and will help me feel the spirit even though I cannot attend church. Being the only mormon in my family has strenghtened my faith in ways that are so hard to explain. Im not saying that those raised LDS arent as faithful, but they have never had to experience the trials of parents who disagree with them, and not having anyone right their to talk about relgion with. Being the only mormon has strengthened me, because I have to try not to give up on my religion, because there is no one there pushing me through it. No one telling me to read my scriptures and say my prayers. I am always told that I am being a good influence to my family. I know that my family will not be influenced by me, because I know who they are, but I can show them and teach them and help them find their way if they are willing. People always tell me I am so tough. I know I have been through many trials in faith, but I wouldnt say I am tough. Sure religion is hard, but I find it is always easiest to choose the right, because choosing a choice that will make you ahppy is an obvious decision. Some people tell me I am lucky because I could wear tank tops if I wanted to and wear a bikini if I wanted to and wear exposing shirts if I wanted to because my parents dont care about that stuff like LDS parents do. And I think I am lucky, because its a test of faith. Will I choose to make the right choice that Heavenly Father wants for me? People with LDS parents dont get that, because their parents wont give them that option. Anyways, Id like to share with you all, that no matter what trials you face and what influences you have, if you are able to push through, you will come out stronger than you ever thought you could be. Pray, and Heaveny Father will help you. **Please dont leave negative comments. I am just expressing my feelings, and I dont care to know if you disagree with them.

@SilentOne Me too! Janette is amazing! I LOVE fairy tale retellings. Im actually reading one right now that is a little bit vulgar but not too bad. Mainly stuff youd hear on any PG-13 mormon okay movie (ex. The Hunger Games). Anyways I'll read pretty much anything! I manly like realistic fiction, comedy, romance, sci fi, and fairy tale retellings, but I read pretty much anything that inertests me!

Thank you all!

Thank you all its great to have support!

@Maureen I can see why you would be confused... its a confusing situation. When I was baptized my parents had different views of the church. Now they arent as willing to let me participate because of certain things they disagree with. They wont let me go to church anymore and they also wont allow any of my other sibs. to be baptized. And yes I am under 16, I am 13.

@Maureen Yes I am still young. I have been a member of the church for a while now, only a couple months shorter than others my age. I am familiar with the rules about coffee, I am familiar with many things regrading the church. But its very hard for me to learn these things when I am not allowed to attend church anymore. Ive just been mainly asking questions on the forum to clarify.

Thanks everyone. Im glad to have answers!

Hi! I am the only mormon in my fam, so a lot of things I have to discover about the church I discover by myself or from church. Vut I feel like garementsgarments isnt really a topic anyone talks about in church. I know what they are. I know when you can get them. I know their purpose. My wuestion is is do you have to wear garments? Like when I grow up do I have to wear them 24/7? (With the exception of swimming and such). Not that Im not okay with that I am just curious So heres my question more easily stated: Do all faithful LDS members wear garments, or do they choose? Any I know you can do whatever you want I mean is it okay with the church. Like coffee I could drink it but I am told not to and it is bad if I do. Is it like that if with garments?

My opinion on this varies. I believe that as children of God we should all love and respect the other children of God (LGBT). Mormons are much more excepting of the LGBT community then people make us out to be. The church has even released a website just for gay mormons. What I'm saying is that it is fine to be an LGBT mormon. What I DON'T think is fine is this girl bearng her "testimony" as a prepared speech filmed by others. When I first saw this video I imagined how much courage it took this girl to walk up to the front of the chapel and confess to everyone there. I still think she is brave for doing that. But there are some problems. A testimony is not a prepared speech. It comes from your heart and soul and changes and grows and is really a beautiful thing. A prepared testimony is not a testimony at all. Having this speech (I'll call it a speech) filmed is not okay. Never in any scenerio should a church meeting be filmed and shared on social media, especially a testimony! The person filming was also reported on the news to be a family friend. So how many people were told this girl was goung to come out at church that Sunday? Okay last thing, I read that soon after this, the girls mother came out as lesbian. This was especially confusing for me because she was apparently happily married to her husband. I have a feeling that maybe this girl was influenced/encouraged just a little bit. I once had a friend with two lesbian moms who always acted like they wanted her to be lesbian like them. Im not meaning to offend anyone when I say this, I am just stating my opinion and thoughts. I believe we are all children of our loving Heavenly Father and no matter what he will always love us. Even if we are a member of the LGBT community. And I want you all to know that.

My opinion on this varies. I believe that as children of God we should all love and respect the other children of God (LGBT). Mormons are much more excepting of the LGBT community then people make us out to be. The church has even released a website just for gay mormons. What I'm saying is that it is fine to be an LGBT mormon. What I DON'T think is fine is this girl bearng her "testimony" as a prepared speech filmed by others. When I first saw this video I imagined how much courage it took this girl to walk up to the front of the chapel and confess to everyone there. I still think she is brave for doing that. But there are some problems. A testimony is not a prepared speech. It comes from your heart and soul and changes and grows and is really a beautiful thing. A prepared testimony is not a testimony at all. Having this speech (I'll call it a speech) filmed is not okay. Never in any scenerio should a church meeting be filmed and shared on social media, especially a testimony! The person filming was also reported on the news to be a family friend. So how many people were told this girl was goung to come out at church that Sunday? Okay last thing, I read that soon after this, the girls mother came out as lesbian. This was especially confusing for me because she was apparently happily married to her husband. I have a feeling that maybe this girl was influenced/encouraged just a little bit. I once had a friend with two lesbian moms who always acted like they wanted her to be lesbian like them. Im not meaning to offend anyone when I say this, I am just stating my opinion and thoughts. I believe we are all children of our loving Heavenly Father and no matter what he will always love us. Even if we are a member of the LGBT community. And I want you all to know that.

I would never ever shun anyone who had tattoos, mormon or not. I said this in response to a different post, but I think it will work here too: LDS people are very excepting. They may not agree with your decisions, but they are good at respecting and excepting them. Almost all of my non-mormon family has at least one tattoo. My dad and aunt have full sleeves. I know personally I would never judge for that. I think that Heavenly Father and Jesus love you no matter what, and they want you to come to the right church and try to make the right decisions now. Because no matter what, the past is in the past, and it is never to late to start over.

I would never ever shun anyone who had tattoos, mormon or not. I said this in response to a different post, but I think it will work here too: LDS people are very excepting. They may not agree with your decisions, but they are good at respecting and excepting them. Almost all of my non-mormon family has at least one tattoo. My dad and aunt have full sleeves. I know personally I would never judge for that. I think that Heavenly Father and Jesus love you no matter what, and they want you to come to the right church and try to make the right decisions now. Because no matter what, the past is in the past, and it is never to late to start over.

This is my 2nd post here of the day. Sorry, not trying to spam. I love YA romances. I find them charming and sweet. But it is SO hard to find clean romances nowadays! I found an author named Janette Rallison, who writes clean comedy/romances because she herself is LDS. Ive read all of her books now. Any recommendations for clean comedy/romance/YA?

I am a ballet dancer, and at my studio we have a very strict dress code: pink tights with a spaghetti strap leotard. If we do not follow dress code, we can not participate in performances. I was told that swimming, as well as other sports had an exception for dress code. Is this true?

I am the only mormon in my intermediate family, and I've pondered on this question time, and time again. When I die, will I get to be with my non-mornon family, or will they go to a different kingdom than me while I live with Heavenly Father and Jesus? I have decided that if I can't be with them when I die, I'm not so sure about Mormonism. There is nobody in tgis world that means more to me than my family, and I know Heavenly father knows that and wants me to happy. Help?

1. I have been to starbucks for hot chocolate and no, II'm not worried someone will think I am drinking coffee. Here in Utah it is cold during the months when I get hot cocoa, so anything that would make me an obvious mormon is covered up. Also, why would I be nervous? I believe that all good LDS people respect the decisions of others- even if they don't agree with them. And no, I do not think Starbucks has more options for mormons. 2. I am too young to legally buy and drink alcohol, but when I am older I do not think I will serve or have alcohol available for my guests. I don't mind if others drink responsibly, but they can do it on their own time and with their own money. It just isn't good for you, and thats why Heavenly Father doesn't want us to have it.

Thank you @Jane_Doe and @Sunday21

She never wants to open up to me. I wanted to have a conversation with her about deeper more personal things and she just closed off. Thabk you everyone who gave advice. It is much appreciated.

Thabk you all who helped. I have read the For the Strenght of youth book. Also I have some pretty great YW leaders. Also, it was interesting to see this forum page turn into a devatedebate about herbal tea haha. I frink herbal tea, and I think thats okay for Mormons, because herbal tea is helth benifiting, and it is the water that is hot, so imI'm not auresure if it classifies as a hot drink. I think as long as we are drinking and eating things that are good for our body, Heavenly Father will be happy with us.

Thank you, I will do this.

A little over a year ago I moved to a new ward. I was baptized while in my old ward. I was going to sign up for a Lds.org membership but I dontdon't have my number. How can I find my records and/or get them moved to my new ward?

I often have lots of questions about what I can and cantcan't wear, what I cant drink, and what type of makeup is approappropriate for and LDS youth. Being the only LDS mebermember in my family, I cannot ask my parents about this. So I thought it would be a good idea to have a froum dedicated to these types of things. We can all help each other out as we try to follow our HeavenlyHeavenly Father and stay rightouesrighteous.

I have this friend. I first met her at Girl's Camp when I was new to a ward. Last year, we all (us beehives) started middle school. I didntdidn't see this friend for a very long time. Then we started hanging out again. At first she seemed very nice but I soon found that she had changed by huge amounts in the past couple months. She is always talking bad about people, cursing, and saying inapinappropriate things. It makes me very uncomfortable. I know this girl is influencing me in a bad way. I am afraid she is going to judge me, so I want to stay on her good side. I gossip about people with her, but I always feel bad about what i say. She got into an argument with another girl at camp, and now she always calls her ugly, and a bad word. Even when we are at church she curses. None of the girls in my beehive group respect Heavenly Father, and none of them act LDS at all. One girl destroyed church property. I wouldnt be friends she'll with this girl, but im so scared of how she'll judge me. Any advice?

I am the only LDS member in my family, so to those of you who also are the only member- I know how hard it is. I was hoping we could all lend a helping hand to each other, as daughters and sons of our Heavenly Father.