Alia

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  1. Firstly, you should tell your bishop. My brother in law had a similar situation he had a child when he was disinterested in the church and he did have sporadic interactions with his daughter but nothing stable and he wasn't really involved in her life. I don't think his bishop pushed him to see his child more, but as the gospel became more important to my brother in law, he felt he needed to share it with his daughter and obviously the only way he could do that was by building a relationship with her. I think you will find it very natural to want to be involved in your son's life more as you grow in the gospel.
  2. I always wanted to be a mom, but I suppose I never really thought about what we would do together. I kind of assumed he would just tag along with me whilst I lived life.
  3. I know that's why I wanted to take some time off but I can't think of anything I want to do with my son.
  4. What can I do with my son that we can enjoy and I don't need to socialise. It isn't that I don't want to socialise but I would like to spend time with just my son for now .
  5. why do you think I didn't have fun as a child ? It may or may not be true.
  6. I'm not a very sociable person and I hate social interactions with people I have nothing in common with apart from we both have a child.
  7. Everything is boring. Reading with him, watching cartoons with him, drawing with him, playing with Duplo etc. I don't understand it because I used to love reading to him when I got home from work, it was the perfect way for me to unwind and feel like a good mom but now I just find it so mind numbing. I was so excited to care for him all the time but it isn't going the way I thought it would.
  8. No I don't treat my son like a chore, I didn't need to take time off work to care for him but I wanted to. I just didn't imagine caring for him full time could be so boring
  9. I don't want to take him where there are lots of children running around, but his grandma takes him to some kind of toddler group on Tuesdays so I'm sure he is learning there.
  10. My husband owns his own business. This would be really good advice if I was planning to be a stay at home mom long term but I will be back at work in 5 months.
  11. I don't know my job was my life. I would probably go back to school and retrain in a different field of law.
  12. The thing is I am so bored I have nothing interesting to do except for caring for my son which isn't very interesting most of the time. I will leave the wrestling to my husband but I will try gardening with him.
  13. I'm not going to stay and plays and activities where there are other children around. I can't take him to the playground because I am terrified of dogs.
  14. That is pretty much what I have been doing with him but I am so bored. I've never had such mind numbing days in my life before.
  15. Hi, I have a 20 month old son, I went back to work when he was 3 months out of necessity rather than wanting to return to work and I have taken a 6 month sabbatical from work which started 3 weeks ago to spend more time with my son. I love my son but I am so bored at home with him, I don't know what to do with him. I tried taking him to the Aquarium yesterday and he fell asleep on the way there so I just turned around and went home. I don't know what I am going to do for the next 6 months. Please give me some activities that I can do with him? Alia
  16. I grew up in a small town where everyone went to the same baptist church and everyone knew everyone else's business so I am kind of used to people not keeping questions to themselves but it was never an issue for people to have one child. I just don't understand the issue of having one child at all. I feel like if I tell someone at church I don't want anymore kids they will think there is something wrong with me
  17. I have one son who isn't even 2 yet and people frequently ask me when I will be having another child. The thing is my husband and I have agreed we only want 1 child but I don't want to tell anyone that incase the Lord has other plans and I end up with another child, I wouldn't want people to think it was a mistake. So I awkwardly smile and want to die. Also , people at church seem oddly judgemental of parents who only want one child or only have one child.
  18. I could force myself too but I don't want to. At my brother's church I fit in way more (which is really strange) and have no problem speaking to people about anything
  19. I don't have social anxiety unless I am somewhere I don't fit in. Usually, I am fine speaking to people.
  20. I'm not one of those people who can make friends. The though of even talking to someone I don't know at church makes me feel nauseous.
  21. Yes my brother is a baptist minister. I am thinking of going to his church for a while because my mom will be there to help me and I have friends there and I will be like a celebrity as I'm the minister's sister. I haven't heard that verse in a long time.
  22. I don't have any kind of church community and I'm not desperate to have it. Potentially, it would make going to church easier. I've never found it natural to pray but I will try with writing them down.
  23. I didn't make it to church. There is always next week
  24. So I haven't been to church in 7 weeks and I know I should go but I can't motivate myself to go. Also, I am really struggling to pray and I feel so guilty when I randomly think about it that I haven't prayed for my son but still I don't pray. Do you have any advice for me to motivate me to go? I am actually planing on going tomorrow because my husband is planning on going.