Alia

I don't know anyone because I am very anti-social at church. I think within 6 months it will be a lot easier to take him to church with me.

There were a few moments yesterday where if someone had tried to kidnap my son I would have let them.

I was not ready for the challenge of balancing church and a baby. I used to judge parents so much for how their kids behaved at church, thinking my child will never do that. I think next week I will leave my son at home, for the sake of my sanity.

I agree, my husband doesn't understand why it makes me feel awkward when my son misbehaves at church but I hate people looking at me. Annoyingly, there is a park right behind the church and I told my son I will take him there when we leave church. When I took him out of the meeting room into the hall he thought we were leaving so a tantrum pursued when I didn't take him to the park and at that point I knew the battle was lost. I do accept that I need to stop giving into him when he has tantrums.

I took your advice and gave him Raisins, he started throwing them at the person in front of us. I was so shocked because he has never thrown food at home. I took him into the hall and there was another baby out there and it turned into something similar to when 2 dogs meet, with them trying to out scream each other. We lasted about 25 minutes this week. I did learn not to give him any snacks at church.

Hi @Junior there is a lot going on here. I do find it strange that your Bishop won't allow you to have an interview, I mean what would the harm be in him letting you have the interview. Of course you can talk to the stake president but I think he is likely to tell you the same thing as your bishop. Do you have any LDS role models who you can talk this through with? It may be beneficial for you to hear the same thing your Bishop is telling you and they may phrase it slightly differently in a way that it will click with you. I would also suggest you have a sit down with your Bishop and explain to him where you think you are at with the Lord and all the positive things you have been doing. I am sure he will give you the praise you want to (and in my opinion deserve) hear. I have got the impression that your Bishop may have been using too much stick and not enough carrot. You can tell him you feel that way. Respectfully, ask him if he believes you can be forgiven without marrying your girlfriend, if he says yes then great you are on the same page, if he says no (which I doubt he will) then it is a tough position for you and I agree the Bishop's personal feelings may be impacting his dealings with you. Take comfort and assurance that he is treating you fairly by allowing you to take the sacrament and wanting to have regular meetings with you. I am sure he wants you to be able to go to the temple as soon as possible as much as you want to go.

Yesterday my son began to crawl under the chairs about 5 minutes in to the meeting and I could not get him out. I just had to wait for him to crawl back to me which was probably only a few minutes but it felt like a life time. I took him outside and after maybe 10 minutes I gave up and took him to the park. This Sunday was a failure but hopefully we can try again next week.

My mom did this with me when I would misbehave at church although it was so much worse. In general, disregarding church do you think 17 months is too young for a time out ? My son is purposefully defiant and he knows he is doing it. He will go to throw something and I tell him not to so he doesn't, as soon as I turn my back he does it. It is driving me crazy.

Because I have a bad habit of acting like I am better than other people. It is really bad and I totally get why people at church don't like me. It is the awkwardness of having to go along with my husband's story of why he isn't at church that puts me off sitting with his family.

I could sit with my husband's family but I feel awkward about it. I don't really have friends at church because the people there don't like me, which I completely understand.

I think my husband would be okay with having our son at home, he cares for him most of the week. I would feel so exposed like a loner going to church on my own. Before my son was born and when my husband was deployed I would go to church on my own and it was fine, but the thought of going alone now scares me.

I could leave my son home with his dad but I think in someways going to church alone will be worse than going with my son. My husband doesn't want to go to church I am not really sure why but he does go occasionally. Although, it always seemed to be when I wasn't up to going. Which, is one of the reasons I was wanting to go every week this year because there will be a Sunday where we can all go together.

I don't know, I leave him every week day for the whole day and I have been told by my husband and mother in law that he doesn't make a fuss about being left by me. It is just when I am there no matter where we are he won't leave my side. I used to like his clinginess seeing it as a sign of love so I may have somewhat encouraged it but now it is just annoying. What is a pre-church exercise?

My son is a torment to me but he has only been to church a handful of times in his life so I can't expect him to behave. It isn't so much that he cries it is his energy

My husband is a member but he doesn't want to come to church with me any more, although honestly my church attendance may still be worse than his. Fellowship genuinely scares me. Did your daughter go to other people when she was around 17 months old? My son wont go to anyone, even my mother in law who he goes to during the week, if I am around he won't got to her.

Since May last year my church attendance has been almost non existent. I think I have attended 4 times since May, but I was determined to change that and attend every week in 2019. The thing is that since my husband stopped coming to church with me around March last year I wasn't able to handle my son and pay any kind of attention to the meeting. I went to church on the first Sunday of the year and ended up sitting in the hall with my son and then left when the sacrament meeting ended. I haven't bothered going back, but I do really miss church and I want to attend regularly again. Do you have any advice on how I can attend with my son who is 17 months?

We are actually doing a lot better. My husband has started his own property company with his brother and God willing come May I will be taking a 6 month Sabbatical from work to spend time with my son.

You are so young. Really, what is the rush? Do you think all the LDS single men are going to disappear tomorrow. I do sympathise with you as I remember being in a rush to get married. However, looking back now I was in a rush for the wrong reasons, all my friends were getting married and I was jealous, I felt there was something wrong with me, I was lonely or I was scared of ending up alone. My point is that none of my reasons for wanting to get married were based on gospel principles. I wasn't in a rush for a temple marriage, I wasn't in a rush to follow the prophet's council. I was in a rush to be validated by getting married. What are your reasons for wanting to get married? Are they based on solid gospel reasons? If you don't love someone the honourable thing to do is to leave them. I met my husband after I decided to stop worrying about getting married and to focus on God. Also, when I told my mom (full disclosure, she is a baptist) I wanted to marry my now husband she sat me down and made me read 1 Corinthians 13 verse 4-8: but change the word charity to my now husband's name, which is Ian and to see how far I get. 4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; 6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. So it became Ian sufferers long, Ian is kind, Ian envieth not; Ian vaunteth not himself, Ian is not puffed up etc Point is, when you are thinking of marrying someone see how well their behaviour towards you stands up to the definition of Charity (love) in Corinthians. If it doesn't then don't marry them.

Read those verses sure. Don't sing praise about them and don't worship them. 1) Come, let us sing for joy to the LORD; let us shout aloud to the Rock of our salvation. Please show me a verse in the bible that tells us to sing praise to anyone other than the Lord ... Personally I choose to praise God in my day to day life, I don't suddenly change on a Sunday and think I hope I praise Joseph Smith today.

I personally don't like praising anyone at church besides the Godhead. So hopefully the hymn goes

When I am at work I am still his mother. I don't stop being his mother during working hours.

I don't care for your opinion and you are dead wrong

Whether I am home with him or not doesn't matter, I am still his mother and I am only a call away from him.

3 years after being discharged ?

I am not 100% sure but I think he was evaluated before being discharged.