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Another thing he said is that he doesn't like the people, that the people really bother him because they all tend to hang out together and he doesn't like people all hanging out together because then they are removed from others. I tried to explain to him why I prefered to hang out with people with my same values and he said that was HORRIBLE. That I SHOULD be around people who cuss and just grin and bear it. I feel as though if we keep this up- I'm not sure how we are going to stay married. It is SO frustrating! I don't want to live like this....

Well, here is my issue. Since December my husband and I have found the church and I personally have been so very excited about the changes it has made in my life. I know that the church is true, I know the Book of Mormon is true, and I know the Joseph Smith was a prophet of God. My husband attended all of the missionary discussions with me and HE set a date to be baptized on March 22 which is the day after my daughter's birthday, near spring beginning, and also near easter. We were doing family home evenings, praying as a family every night and every morning, attending church together, communicating with other people in the church and we grew more and more excited about the church together and the betterment in our family. Our last missionary discussion to prepare us for baptism was on Monday night of last week. My husband had the entire week off to stay at home as it was his spring break and he is a college professor. During this time at home he really didn't do much of anything besides stay at home, clean up a little, then play on a computer game. Monday night came and we learned that we would have to answer yes to certain questions before we were baptized. I thought Monday before we went to the discussion my husband was acting very weird- that something negative had happened to him. The entire week was awful, he really didn't speak much to me, he was rude, he just wasn't who he was before. Then on Friday after I shared with him how excited I was about the Relief Society and how wonderful it was to have all these sisters, he let me know that he didn't feel welcomed into the priesthood at all. In fact, he didn't believe in the church and he felt that I was too wrapped up in the church. He said that he never believed any of it and he doesn't believe that Jesus was the son of God- he said that the only thing he believed was that God spoke directly to him and that he had a personal relationship with God. My world has been destroyed or I feel as though it has because I feel like he has lied to me. When I asked him why he lied to me, he said because he saw the positives in our family and so he thought he could believe in the church by that time and that he just doesn't believe. He doesn't believe in ANY of it. I'm really feeling hurt right now and confused We have been married for seven years and there are issues with him hiding things and not telling me the truth- I guess this is why this latest thing hurts so much. The thing is I REFUSE to let anything hold me back from being baptized. I KNOW that this is the true church, I KNOW my heavenly father loves me, and I KNOW the Book of Mormon is from God. My life has changed in SO many beautiful ways- Im' frustrated about this whole situation and I don't know what to do. I thought that maybe satan had gotten to my husband this week- but he said that he has felt this way all along. I've talked to him about it, prayed about it more times than I can number, and I feel differently about my husband now. I feel that I cannot trust him, I feel raw, I feel sick honestly about this whole thing. He has made me feel that way. I want to raise my almost 2 year old daughter in the church and then let her decide for herself if the church is for her or not. I HAVE to raise her to love Jesus and know him at the very least- this is my truest belief. My husband has told me that he will think about what she can learn about. He wants her to freely explore and learn for herself what is right and wrong- and as a high school teacher I KNOW what happens to kids that are raised that way!!! Children cannot reason by themselves before they are age 21- their brains are not fully developed in the pre-frontal cortex.... I'm rambling, but I'm hurt, I'm disgusted, I'm angry, I feel lied to and not only that but he said that he refuses to go to church anymore, that when the missionaries come back over that he will leave with my daughter just so that I cannot be in the same house as the missionaries (I don't think they can be alone with women?) He doesn't want to be in family home evenings, he doesn't want to be in family prayers, and he wants out of the church and religion ENTIRELY. What can and should I do besides cry and pray? I'm really lost and out of ideas... PLEASE HELP!!!! Thanks, Danielle

My entire family is protestant and it is very hard for them to accept my soon to be baptism. I'm glad I don't live with them still though because then it would be really hard. When you find this church it is beautiful, don't let anyone tear you away from it.

Personally, I don't care for Brigham Young or some of the racist ideology in the church's past- however I know what is true NOW which means the world to me. I am glad to be a mixed race soon to be LDS woman.

PS- I was taught that motherhood was an unsuccessful life choice and that it ruins your life. I kept my mother from earning her degree since she was pregnant with me. Therefore, I viewed children and hassles and never as blessings growing up.

Hello my sisters: I am going to be baptized March 22, and I am SO excited. I just wanted to share that until I found this church even though I had been married for almost 7 years I never cooked, cleaned, or did laundry simply because I didn't know how to do it. I never knew how to sew, or do crafty things. Now that I have found the church I am cooking every night, cleaning, taking EXCELLENT care of my family, and putting myself after them. Previously I put myself first. I have a 2 year old daughter and a wonderful husband who has put up with my ineptness. I still don't know how to do many things- I am not a good mom as far as being able to entertain my daughter in church or elsewhere. I never know what I need to keep her entertained, I still don't know how to do laundry, and I still need help with learning to cook. I need more help with sewing and knitting and other household skills. Some of you may be wondering why I never learned these things- to keep in short and simple I lived in a family where I was expected to do everything- I was seriously neglected and expected to raise my brother who was 5 years younger than me. My mother didn't teach me anything about household things, except not to do them and that they aren't important. She also didn't teach me how to be a good mother because she wasn't. I won't go too far into all of that as I love her and I am grateful for her bringing me to Jesus (even though she is anti-mormon). I saw myself in the window reflection about a week ago cooking and cleaning for my family- it felt really weird to see myself doing it. My family is SO grateful though, and I know there are blessings in doing it. I feel like I still have so much more to learn and that in some ways I am a hopeless cause. What would you suggest? Am I a hopeless cause? Thank you and I love you sisters so much!!!! God Bless, Dani

As a woman who has not yet joined the church, I must admit that I was VERY intimidated by that talk and I constantly find myself wondering if I can be that woman who knows. I find myself striving for that now- which has really blessed our lives. When I was younger I would have called her an anti-feminist, but now I see the importance in her comments. I was and continue to be blessed by women who share the beauty and responsibility of motherhood. I'm tired of the world seeing motherhood as your "second job" and not successful. Even though I'm not a stay at home mom I KNOW that family comes first.

Ok all, there are some questions that I have. I am constantly pulling my hair out over this and I don't know what you all think so PLEASE offer advice. 1) At my work during lunch a lot of people in the teacher's lounge talk about filthy things- prior to learning about the church (I will be baptized March 22) it didn't bother me, but it TRULY does now. Is it rude to leave and have lunch elsewhere? I'm feeling convicted about this. Some of them know from my students excitement who are LDS that I am coverting- I don't want to show a bad side of LDS, I don't want to disown them, but I don't like the inappropriate talk. What should I do? 2) There is a party that a lot of people are planning to go to that is going to happen after school hours at the house of one of the teachers. There is a TON of alcohol that is going to be there and I have an issue with taking my family to a party like that. It's not going to be a drunken mess, however the fact that they are going to have like 10 bottles of wine and beer for maybe 20 people makes me feel sort of sick. Should I go or not, and again if I don't is this rude and reflect badly on the church? I'm SO confused- help!!! Thanks and God Bless You- Dani

This is one reason that I love the LDS church. There is no prescribed political party that you have to be. I was tired in the churches I grew up in being encouraged to vote one way or hell awaits thee. I'm really glad that I have the ability and opportunity to vote who I feel is the most qualified. I'm not a party gal, I'm a use my brain and think things out girl. Truthfully, I think both Republicans and Democrats are immoral and that we need honesty in our country- so therefore being a "party gal" would tie me down to one of those parties. We need honesty, loyalty, and love in our political system again. So, I don't know if you are old school or not, I just totally disagree with your stance. Let's agree to disagree. The days of churches telling parishioners how to vote is long gone. In fact, churches run into IRS issues if they endorse candidates. That said, both of the U.S. major parties should be held accountable by their supporters. I would not be a party guy if my party did not cast a vision I supported. I may disagree with certain details, but so long as my party moves in a direction on most issues that I agree with, I'd rather support the big ship, then pick and choose which life boat suits my fancy today.

I completely feel for you and where you are at in life!!! My husband and I also have a beautiful two year old little girl and I am very VERY much wanting to have another baby right now. Unfortunately we are preparing to move across the country, we have to put our house up for sale, and find new jobs. It is a very stressful time in our lives- I know that when I see a little baby that I want to have one SO badly. I try to just enjoy my little girl for now until we are able to afford me getting pregnant. I KNOW that my family is worth the wait, it is much better to wait until we can fully support and not have to struggle to take care of another little one. Especially because I keep having dreams that I have twins. I would love to chat with you sometime, I'm also looking for a friend. Hugs, Dani

Thank you so much for clearing this up for me. I really REALLY appreciate your insight and help. I know that it may have seemed a lost cause, but it was not. Thank you!!!!

Hey all, Not trying to be sacreligious here, I just want to know what is true or untrue about this video on youtube as it pertains to the Mormon faith and religion. Please let me know what you see that is wrong with it, inaccurate, or places where they tried to misrepresent the faith. I appreciate it. Thanks, Danielle http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5WbB9FgazJk