Elgama

possibly a nicer way of saying what I wanted to say not sure if my above post is too much but if my husband was behaving that way I'd have kicked him out the door until he had repented because I am blooming sure I would not want him holding something I did before I knew him in mortality for the whole of eternity after all can you imagine being tortured by this youself for eternity? let alone someone else doing it to you which you can do nothing about?
-Charley

I personally value chastity for this reason - however to hold something over someone that you knew about at the time of your marriage, that she had repented of, your sin is just as bad its the one of unforgiveness, she has moved on from hers, you haven't from yours - not sure what to say but I find it sad that you do not truly love your wife and for me what you are doing is worse as its a form of adultery you are allowing the other party into your marriage.
Forgiveness is only a prayer away and you have a lot of repenting to do you are not being a good priesthood holder and head of the home, in many ways what you are doing is abusive and unkind. She has done hers, maybe you need to go to your Bishop with it.
Something President Hinckley's father said to him comes to mind, 'forget yourself and go to work' - start loving your wife and do what you can to make up for the destruction you are causing in your marriage, remember what you love about her = and start being faithful to her instead of allowing another man into your marriage - because what you are doing now is self pity you need to forget yourself and work for your spouse no marriage is sucessful without that
-Charley

I have a different perspective I grew up in a family like Mahone - My Gran lived in the same town and so did her sisters I saw all my Great Aunts and Uncles and cousins on a regular basis and my Gran many days of the week, I grew up surrounded by my family history and I can tell stories and recognise all those people in he sepia photos - my husband can just about recognise one of his Grandmothers. Because of that I feel like I know ancestors that were born in the 1830s.
However older generation died off, divorce devestated what was once a strong family and I hate the fact my kids don't have that

If the worst thing your Mom is doing in her life is enjoying coffee icecream I should imagine she will make it to the celestial kingdom:)