RMConcernedDad

Thank you for your kind advice. You were clearly taught well. We are trying to do those things. Being prepared helps to prepare but it’s doesn’t help the natural emotions we all experience in life. Thanks for the reminder that what we do in the home is the most important thing to do!

Wow! What an awful thing to experience as a child or parent. It’s unfortunate many people as president Faust told elder utchdorf … don’t inhale. To many people get caught up in callings instead of serving the church. I’m sure the stake president didn’t intend for the negative affects but there were negative affects as a result of what he did for your youth. Simply put my brothers wouldn’t have served in that environment. Interesting I never knew such a thing existed.

Thank you so much for your helpful words and ideas!!! I am sorry you had to experience similar situations and your kids as well. Clearly it has made you a better person, I can only hope it does the same for my son! Again thank you for your insights and sharing your experiences!!!

It’s not about getting back into the social circle, that ship has sailed. The issue is that he is alone, feeling abandoned and no longer trusts members of the church or feels they live the gospel. This is not a healthy struggle and is a heavy burden for a teenager to go through at such a young age. I fear for him on many levels. Spiritually as this has shaken his spiritual foundation. emotionally as he feels isolated, alone, and without hope. physically as it is affecting his sleep and could lead to more mentally as he finds it hard to focus at school again I’m just looking for ideas to help him through this difficult stage in his life. we are pushing him to participate in other religious youth groups as those kids appear to be living the gospel principles. This could be good or bad but it’s something

What does this mean? I’ve never heard of such a thing and what would it accomplish?

I have a problem. My kid was part of a good solid social circle. A recent event occurred where incorrect information was shared by a person who was offended because the feelings were not mutual. Since that event occurred all of the rest of the youth group has literally turned and excluded my kid from all of their social activities the group of which he thought he was a part. The offended party has told incorrect information to all of the youth leaders making it appear they were unjustly wronged. The reality is there was no interest in dating but because half truths have been shared the leaders are treating my kid differently. we have tried talking to the bishop in the past but he doesn’t listen as he only wants to talk about positive things or when repentance is needed. We have tried talking to the young women’s president but she doesn’t do anything. we tried to talk to the other persons mom but she didn’t want to let the kids talk it out and clear the air. Even the stake presidents wife says our kid needs to stop coming because of the falsehoods that were shared by the other person. at the last church dance a couple of the girls came up to my kid and cussed him out for not dating her and several other items that were not true. we are reserved and not part of any of the cliques within our ward. I know we all, kids included need to go through healthy struggles and will grow but this is not a productive struggle. We are hoping for a miracle to happen. Right now my child doesn’t believe members can be trusted, won’t stand by you and doesn’t want to be around Mormons anymore. This is just not good. Blessing have been requested and given several times due to overwhelming feeling of rejection, loneliness and knowing after hearing the other ward kids brag about getting together over the weekends. To make matters worse these kids are all children of the ward leadership group. I'm coming here for some ideas because i don’t know what to do to help anymore. sincerely an active full tithe paying Mormon parent who wants their child to stay active in spite of bad leadership.