help/advice wanted

[Wingnut]

In fact, because you only did it once, I suspect your bishop and fiancee will say "Just don't do it again," and any personal feelings of betrayal or something similar, would not enter into the equation.

I'm not saying the bishop may not institute a disciplinary action. I'm saying no one is going to hold it against you, since it only happened ONE time. And especially since you have not done it again, as you realized what you risk if you do.

I'm mostly inclined to agree, although I have no experiencial authority with which to speak (yes, I made that word up). When you talk to your bishop, though, he's likely to explore a little further to try to discover if you are involved with pornography or have any sort of sex addiction, because those would both lead toward disciplinary action and at that point you would DEFINITELY need to discuss them with your fiancee.

In the interest of full disclosure, however, being a former fiancee myself, I think you ought to tell her. Should you "relapse" in the future, it's only fair to her that she know now. But it may turn out to just remain an isolated incident.

[Ivy64]

Honestly, I am a bit disturbed on how lightly you have taken what you have done. IMO, you were never ready to enter the temple based on this experience/reaction.

Sorry to be so harsh.