Advice on sealings

[NikiB]

hello! i wanna give u a second of background before i start asking questions....

I'm an inactive member who is preparing to go to church for the first time on sunday in almost 12 years. i am so excited about it and cant wait to get my life back. i am fully prepared to change my life completely however i have something i need to ask about getting sealed.

I have the most beautiful little boy who is almost 4. I am still in a pre-marrital relationship with his father who wants nothing to do with the church (he thinks all religions starts wars) even though he is fully supportive of my decision to go back and to also include my son. i don't know where our relationship is going to go as he also doesn't want to get married but that's a whole other thread :) i want to know if i can get sealed to my son with out his father? it breaks my heart to think that i wont be able to as that would be the worst thing for a mother and her child. please help me understand sealings and what they mean. can u be with family your not sealed to after life?

I would appreciate any advice you can give at this time.

Thank you

N x

[beefche]

No, a child is to be sealed to parents-mother and father. Children who are adopted can be sealed to the adoptive parent(s) as well, but people are sealed to parents, not to single mothers or single fathers.

And if a child is unable to be sealed to a parent even if that parent is dead, we are promised by Heavenly Father that He will take care of such matters. At this time, we do not know exactly how that is done, but we have faith that all will be right with Heavenly Father.

[NikiB]

thank you beef! that makes things clear to me and gives confidene to discuss this in detail with my bishop. take care :)

[Vort]

When we say that a child is "sealed to" his or her parents, what we really mean is that the child receives all the blessings s/he is entitled to through his/her parents' marital covenant. That is what it means to be "sealed" to one's parents. So those parents who are not married, or who are married for time but not sealed together for eternity, have no marital covenant under which to bless their children. The children must wait for the parents to be sealed before they can gain the blessings of being a child in their covenant -- in other words, of being "sealed" to them.

If you are faithful, the day will come when you will have the opportunity to be sealed to a husband, perhaps the very father of your son. When that time comes, if you choose to enter that sealing, you will be able to extend the blessings of that marital covenant to your children by having them sealed to you and your husband.