MorningStar Posted October 22, 2012 Report Posted October 22, 2012 Come to think of it, I've got weight to lose and I don't have men throwing roses and condoms at me. I can hardly walk anywhere without being pelted with condoms.
Wingnut Posted October 23, 2012 Report Posted October 23, 2012 I can hardly walk anywhere without being pelted with condoms. Is there a :spiraling into massive depression: emoticon?
pam Posted October 23, 2012 Report Posted October 23, 2012 John, she would laugh at me then joke around and say, "maybe you can be replaced by one of those men"She does her best to reveal her weaknesses to the outside world. But she will badmouth her brother and say things about me to other people. Again my question which was never answered. Do you ever badmouth her?
Wingnut Posted October 23, 2012 Report Posted October 23, 2012 Again my question which was never answered. Do you ever badmouth her?I might suggest that his many threads complaining about her are evidence that he does.
Guest Posted October 23, 2012 Report Posted October 23, 2012 I might suggest that pam is trying to get him to admit that, if only to himself.
bcguy Posted October 23, 2012 Author Report Posted October 23, 2012 (edited) Actually, I am very right about her weight disability for the following reasons.- Our complex had three woman who ate way more then normal, had diabetes and then died as a result of complications to Diabetes.- I told my wife, her weight was causing joint inflammation. Eventually, her ACL Snapped trying to do simple jumping jacks. She was in constant pain and 11 months or waiting, he other ligaments failed walking down the stairs. She screamed in pain. Crawled up stairs, passed out on toilette and fell over onto the ground. She went to surgery two weeks latter and could not work for another two months. - doctor told her she was borderline diabetic with sky-rocketing blood pressure. - She had to go though months of painful therapy- She eventually started to regain leg streangh and eventually retuned to work.- She went on a new weight loss and DIET with exercise change in her life where her food intake was SUBSTANTIALLY reduced.Her weight has gone from 250bls for a 5ft 5 inch woman to 190 bls now. So, you tell me, is it worth it to go though her previous crap because of her excessive eating and lack of exercise No, its not worth it!I can go thought a long list of reasons what has contributed to the increase in the American obesity epidemic and how unwittingly Americans are eating the wrong foods which are contributing to it. My wife is proof of what NOT to eat now. Now I have to fix the way she treats me at times ...that is much harder to change.Have you been willing to change? I've seen many, many posts here with you complaining about her, mostly about her weight and how she refuses to lose it. I can tell you if my husband was harping on me about my appearance, I'd probably be digging my heels in in other areas too. What goes around comes around. Instead of assuming she won't change, try to figure out how you can meet her needs and show her love, and just see if she'll follow. Edited October 23, 2012 by bcguy
bcguy Posted October 23, 2012 Author Report Posted October 23, 2012 (edited) pam only the way she treats me. She has issues with male authority. Seen it several times. Never really met a woman in my life who thinks she is almost 100 percent right most of the time even if, there is no answer about a subject she will make up a answer. It would be nice if she just would say "I dont know" for once if I ask her something. I think her issue is being in control and wanting control. I do remember years ago, she cringed and in a deep voice said "I HATE IT when I am not in control" this may explain the anti male authority issues she has. Two Christmas ago, she brought the dog over to her brother-inlaws moms place and I was out side while she was inside the house. I did not hear it, but was informed her dad SCREAMING at her for bring the dog over when she was exclusively told not to because her mom has allergies event after told two or three times. when the Brother-inlaws mother told me this, I eventually asked her about this incident. Her response was with a low voice to me "What a Gripe he is!" as if she did not care what he requested. She does have some good qualities. her issues are not nearly as severe as a few years ago "I read there was something called the seven transitions of a marriage". But for being separated, Cannot untill the right job comes up where moving..would be the right reason to. It would be much easier to make more money in a place that does not cost a fortune then living as if I was single because. If my wife decided to move with me she never would. I know, my wife would never leave her job. She has never lived more then a kilometre radius from here in her entire life. Back to the original subject, As for the office issue in any work place, I have heard of office romances "very bad thing in my opinion" BUT when the wife or husband is married and the customer or client knows this and disregards it and makes the comment "If you ever leave your husband, I am willing to take you out on a date". she does not tell patients about me that is a privaty issues but, I think what these clients are saying "I you have the hots for me, leave your husband I will be waiting in arms for you" and make some kind of sexual advance, I feel like punching the guys lights out :) Edited October 23, 2012 by bcguy
Guest Posted October 23, 2012 Report Posted October 23, 2012 Yup, if neither of you is willing to be the first to admit faults, work on change, and reach out to the other, it's pretty hopeless. Actually it sounds like she has been willing to work on the weight. What have you given in return?
bcguy Posted October 24, 2012 Author Report Posted October 24, 2012 She had to do this for her health. there was no other reason. She just has those times, where I would rather sit outside or go for a long walk. Last night, I was half asleap on the master bed and she took some of my that I laid out "3 pants" on her side of the bed and she through them at my head saying "I DON'T want those on my side of the bed" Thanks!! I said in my mind. That's my wife for you. She used to play the stereo, tv and computer in the master bedroom till 12 or 1 am while I am trying to sleap I told her "ENOUGH" felt like tossing everything out the window. She has gotten better now, when I ask her to turn off the tv but will give the excuse.."when the program is over"
Guest Posted October 24, 2012 Report Posted October 24, 2012 If neither of you is willing to be the first to admit faults, work on change, and reach out to the other, it's pretty hopeless.
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