I get so fa and then can focus and relaspe.

[Highfive]

Hello i have been off my mission for 4 months and I have gone 6months without masturbating, and relapsed today. It is a struggle that i have always had and that my older brother had as well. he has conquered but i have not. I have read so much about what general authorities have said and i have read the factory talk and I feel that just doesn't work that way with me. Just kind of bummed because this is how it happens every time. 6months i give into those feelings, and when i do feel a huge relief after because my urges go back to sleep for awhile and i go another six months and screw up because after so long its like the adversary hits me and my reasoning is gone, and i just do it, this weakness always males me humble my self and focus on whats really important in life. I want to be with a sweetie forever, and love her with no lust. These last two days have honestly been way rough, well last month per say. i listened to alot of talks this month, i love elder hollands talk about picture the face of your loved ones and would be shattered if you let them down, i also love the way to perfection given in 1989 general conference. I know the adversary wants me but i will hold the rod, i love the church, i love my savior, i will never miss a day of church in my life it's a integral part of me, my service to others as a servant of the lord has blessed me with so much peace. I love people, sometimes more than myself, and rarely i turn into my self and cry when i do. This life is really about losing the natural man and becoming a disciple of jesus christ forever. And advice you could give your fellow brother i would appreciate.

Also sorry about any spelling or punctuation, i sent this from my ipad

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[mnn727]

I'll admit, looking at your timeline my first thought was you did this on your mission?

any advise? yeah: get married.

Seriously, stop thinking about it, the more you think about it, even in a negative way, the more likely you are to do it.

Once every 6 months does not really sound like you can not control this. If you start thinking about doing it, distract yourself.

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[mdfxdb]

I'll admit, looking at your timeline my first thought was you did this on your mission?

any advise? yeah: get married.

Seriously, stop thinking about it, the more you think about it, even in a negative way, the more likely you are to do it.

Once every 6 months does not really sound like you can not control this. If you start thinking about doing it, distract yourself.

You are not even close to having a problem. If you are feeling bad then talk to someone, but don't beat yourself up about it. As stated above. Just distract yourself.

[Bini]

As long as you are in an earthly body, you will have the desires that come with being a "natural man". The key is to strive to live and do as Christ would do, a step at a time, and not to be discouraged when you fall. Everyone falls, everyone.

[ctrguy2013]

You are not even close to having a problem. If you are feeling bad then talk to someone, but don't beat yourself up about it. As stated above. Just distract yourself.

I agree with MDFXDB, I would not view this as something that would impede your progression in the gospel. If you can go 6mo. with out doing it you can go one year.

you are far from having a problem with this issue.

I wouldn't assume that you brother has overcome it (even though he may say he has). As men this is something we all deal with from time to time, and getting married is not the solution. If you are bothered by your intermittent lapses you need to resolve this before you bring another person into the situation.

[mnn727]

If you are bothered by your intermittent lapses you need to resolve this before you bring another person into the situation.

I disagree, having sex with your wife is much better than masturbation - at least in my book.

It takes the reason for doing it away.

NOW if he had mentioned he was viewing porn to stimulate himself then I would agree with you.

[Leah]

I disagree, having sex with your wife is much better than masturbation - at least in my book.

It takes the reason for doing it away.

NOW if he had mentioned he was viewing porn to stimulate himself then I would agree with you.

Yet, there are many married men who continue tol indulge in the practice. So, no, marriage is not necessarily an automatic "cure".