heres a wonderful idea instead of trying to find hobbies for your wife why dont they 2 of you find a hobbie that you can do together either with the kids or with other ADULTS. There are plenty of yw and ym that will babysit for nothing. I know that my oldest daughter did a barting system with some families that couldnt afford a babysitter and to go out as a couple. One couple would pay her with a milky way candy bar and a 12 pack of soda(store brand) There is always a way to have me time and our time but you also have to remember to RESPECT one another and not try and say things such as I work harder then you do! All that does is cause one BIG arugement and NO one is happy. I am speaking from experince here, please find a way to commuicate with each other before you allow petty things to tear your marriage apart.