Mirium

So I still have my family history on the PAF system I've set up an account on the new family search web site. Do I have to transfer the information an individual at a time myself or is there a way to transfer the whole thing in a quicker way? Thanks

I lost a friend this week, do you think once someone has passed on to the spirit world they are able to see what goes on here on earth with their family and friends

I would say if you feel its time to return then return. My husband is an athiest and I'm a convert. It won't be easy, I won't pretend it is, there will be challenges but it will be worth it. My husband doesn't like me being a member and hates me paying my tithing but his heart has softened as he has seen what it means to me. He has even become very good friends with one of the members. Heavenly Father will bless you and your family for your efforts.

Who are the people talked about in Ether (the Jaredites). What time did they live in relation to the Book of Mormon and where did they travel from and to? I'm a bit confused.

Do we know why its called the book of Mormon and not the Book of Nephi or Moroni or Alma?

So, when we repent and gain forgiveness from our sins we are told that they are washed away and God remembers them no more. This is a wonderful thing to know but we remember our sins, we have to to remember what we learn from the experience and hopefully to help us not to repeat the sin. Maybe I'm taking it too literally but if God knows all our thoughts and our sins are still there in our memory how can they be washed from His memory

I learnt about the church from someone I knew for about 18mths but never did anything about it, when the missionaries knocked on my door after this time I think I already knew the church was true. I was baptised just over 2 months after first meeting with the missionaries.

I would just like to thank you all for your responses and for sharing your experiences. You have helped me alot in dealing with my feelings. My two biggest hurdles are that I have no choice but to have this person in my life on a regular basis and I know it would be far easier if I didn't have to and the other hurdle is that when I tried to resolve things with this person they refused to discuss matters. If I could change these two things I know I could manage it a lot easier. You helped me to see that this is a process that can take a long time and that there is no quick fix. I feel strengthened and feel stronger to continue to deal with this situation for now anyway but it still distresses me very much. Thankyou LM for explaining further that helped alot. Dove, its good to hear from you again, I hope your ok, I'm still plodding, sometimes just one day at a time but I'm getting there. Just want you all to know how greatful I am to be a member of this church and for all my Saviour suffered for me. It brings so much into my life, don't know where I'd be without it.

That is great advice and I don't mind your forwardness atall. I agree with you that I do not apply the atonement fully in all areas of my life, YET, but that is why I am trying to study it to learn to apply it. I haved learnt so much from my studies but I don't think its just me I think many people struggle to apply it. For me its a massive step but also the answer to finding peace in life.

Thankyou, Yes I agree we have to put our wellbeing and those of others first but then do all we can within our capabilities. We do have certain responsibilities. LM, please could you explain further you last sentence. I don't quite understand it.

Summary: forgiving means not that you have to have feelings for a person that hurt you, it only means that you have to be "nice"! I guess to forgive you have to love them but then again I don't think it says anywhere we have to like a person. I think it would be impossible to like every person we ever meet but I do believe we do have to love our enemies and sometimes I think we all can struggle with that. I do agree that to resent or to seek revenge though is wrong.

Ok, so I've been studying the atonement recently and particularly with regard to forgiveness. How do we use and apply the atonement to forgive another. If we don't forgive others their tresspasses however harsh we cannot be forgiven for our own. From my studies it seems it is far easier to apply the atonement and forgive if the person is no longer a part of our lives or if issues can be resolved with the person, but what about using and applying the atonement when the person is constantly in your life on a daily basis and it is someone who had come to a point where they depend on you for their needs and security and refused to resolve things with you, and you found it difficult to even be around them (I'm trying to create a worst possible senario) We are commanded to love our enemies and bless them that hurt us. To me that seems like an awful big ask and I'm not sure I could do it yet I know it would be essential for our progression. How could you apply the atonement to that situation and learn to overcome your feelings.

Oh my Father If you could hie to Kolob Come thy Fount (Is that the right name hope you know the one I mean?)

All very interesting comments. Thankyou all, you've given me alot to think about.

I've found the best way to meet people and interact is through my callings. I'm not much of a social person but through a variety of callings over the years I've got to mix and get to know people. At times when we struggle we assume people are aware of the problem. Is there anyone in your ward to feel comfortable enough with to tell them how your feeling or a chat with the Bishop might help. If you are struggling with being able to attend church he should be able to help. I'm not excusing your home teachers. They should have contacted you but maybe they are having problems of their own or maybe they just are not motivated, we cannot all be perfect at everything. I always find its best not to rely on us imperfect human beings but to trust in Heavenly Father.

Satan will do all he can to prevent you succeeding and usually when something good is about to happen, like going on a mission, that is when he will put doubts in your mind. If you want peace of mind then please go and talk to the Bishop. It may or may not be necessary I don't know but going will put your mind at rest and leave you free to go on your mission unburdened and able to concentrate on your work. If you don't go and talk to him and find peace I think it will always be there in the back of your mind. I have found that talking to a Bishop is far easier then expected once you get there and have always found myself feeling better afterwards.

This might be a stupid question or I'm misunderstanding things. Why did satan tempt Adam and Eve to sin because by doing that he was helping Heavenly Fathers plan. If he had not tempted them then none of us would have been able to progress and the plan would have been stopped because we would have all been stuck in innocence and not progressed by learning and growing out in the lone and dreary world? Also why did Heavenly Father tell them not to eat the forbidden fruit if was necessary for them to do so to progress?

Moving out, that I know would be a fantastic solution and probably the best. I know she has thought about it, but she has a disability that prevents her doing that at present.

This is what concerns me. I will be imposing my views on a houshold that doesn't hold the same values as I do. Also, the last thing I want to do is cause contention in the household especially in my relationship with my husband.

Yes I am a bit of a worrier lol, its just some things he has been saying lately about it has triggered a concern. I do worry that I have to do everything correctly and perfectly.

But what if it gets to the point where he won't, bearing in mind it says in my PB that I should respect him as the head of our home?

Thankyou for your responses. At present he is agreeing with me and I think he will continue to agree with me on the no overnight stay thing but his standards are not my standards. I was not a member when we were married and we lived together before we were married and although my views on chastity have changed his havent and I do think that eventually I will be over ruled as my husband doesn't understand why my views are the way they are now. We do have the rule in our home of while under our roof you obey our rules and she understands that but where do I stand if he decides its ok for her boyfriend to be alone with her in the day with the door closed in her bedroom. My husband doesn't understand why it makes me so uncomfortable and thinks sometimes I can be prudish. I can see this starting to become a problem and need to start preparing how to respond. We work as a team on most things but when its church standards we have problems because we now have different beliefs. What mason said about the Lord understanding that I am being overruled and doing the best I can brought me some comfort. Do others agree with his comment.

I am a convert to the church and have a non member husband. My adult daughter who is less active would like her boyfriend to stay overnight or at least be allowed to be with her in her bedroom in the daytime / evening. At present my husband agrees that this is not to be allowed but the other day he said that now she is an adult he feels maybe things should change. He knows I do not want this, although very tolerant of my church membership he does think some of the standards are over the top. What do I do if he decides to let her have him stay or allows him in the bedroom in our home in the day. It says in my patrirchal blessing that I should respect my husband as the head of our home but I'm not comfortable with this but feel I am going to reach a point where I will have to let it happen. Anyone else had this problem or can advice me on what I should do?

And my hope for you and anyone else who hasn't experienced it is that you never ever have to. Thankyou Elphaba I couldn't have put it any better myself