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True but it has never effectively been put into place. They are effectively using these methods and helping people world wide manage their sexual addiction issues.
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Unfortunately, anyone can get around any filter. I will not mention them here.
They did a thorough search on their computers history for the past and have realized this is not the first time porn was pulled up. One of the problems is the schools need to stay up to date with technology. They have Macs which have some of the best filtering software around, however, you need to be on the latest O.S., which means money and with the recent cut back of funds, I doubt any will be funneled to update computers.
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Education is the key!
Educate your children, family, friends etc. and have them have them create a reaction sequence. For example it pops up on computer, immediately shut it off. This is the plan if it pops up so naturally they will do it.
Teach your everyone to have a plan or plan to fail. Just like all things, if you want to be successful, you need to have a plan in place.
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I forgot to mention the symposium is in June. Learn more here http://www.innergold.com/learn
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&^#*&% the InnerGold site is currently down. Man this is frustrating! We use Godaddy and have had this problem a lot lately.
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Queries, if you live in Salt Lake, and anyone else for that matter. InnerGold is also putting on a symposium talking about pornography and sexual addiction issues. I would encourage you to come and listen to the genius behind the InnerGold program.
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We should always address how the child feels, immediately. Good job, luscious this is how we can help our children from becoming addicted to porn.
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Very good. I hope you are teaching them what to do if they run into porn in the schools. If it was showed to them by a friend, what should they do? If they see it while doing research somewhere else, what should they do?
One of the young men in our ward was researching an assignment on the school computer and, you know it, up pops porn from a site. He said he immediately shutdown the computer. I hope he did. When we respond immediately with a course of action that we have determined ahead of time, the image will not stick. It is looking at it for any extended period of time. I can speak from experience. I saw an image from a magazine at the age of 16 and that image has stuck with me my entire life. However there has been times when porn has popped up on my computer and I deleted it immediately and I honestly could not tell you want those images were.
One of the steps I have taken when doing research is always looking at the url (the web address) before I scroll down or open the page completely. There is generally a slight delay before images begin popping up.
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It is imperative that you talk with your children and those that you may have some influence on about avoiding pornography. A recent news story was way to close to home for me. Here in Happy Valley (the term used for Utah County) porn was viewed at school by 5th graders who used a term the filters could not block.
One child is saying it is difficult to get the images he saw out of his head. The fact-of-the-matter is that he will never get those images out of his head. He will now have to learn how to deal with those images. I hope and pray that the parents use this time to educate their children on what to do if they see porn and more importantly to come home and talk about it.
This is why it is so important to learn about and understand pornography addiction. This is a multi-billion dollar industry that is out to get your friends, family and children addicted so they can increase their profit.
Here is the full story if you are interested: ksl.com - 5th-graders to be charged for showing porn to classmates
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With the latest understanding of how the human brain functions, we are ready to take the next step in the evolution of addiction treatment. The tools that have been developed are powerful and can increase the speed of change. We now understand how to increase the motivation and desire to change through neural reconditioning and consistent daily practice.
For those who struggle with addiction issues, deep neural connections at the unconscious level are driving behavior. These neural connections can be changed is now sure. The brain is constantly changing and will continue to do so throughout life.
You can read more on the Pornography & Sexual Addiction Group within this forum
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Leming, when people struggle with addiction, they do not think clearly. Eventually she will regret a lot of her decisions and unfortunately a lot of therapists counsel to think about yourself only. This is wrong because it can cause more damage to children than they realize. Stay strong, especially for those children, you are still their aunt.
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They might be rare but they still exist. Go to the temple on any given morning and you will see youth lining up doing baptisms for the dead.
There is hope.
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Leming, it sounds like your sister has an addiction issue. What is causing the issue can only come from being able to vent to someone. This is the role of a therapist to listen and to be a sounding board and be privy to all of the information from the past to present.
I would never jeopardize a friendship with a family member. You don't have to condone the behavior but don't feel like you should completely leave her. She is struggling with some deep related issues. Generally, in my experience, eating disorders are stemmed from a low self-esteem. However, they will try to put on the face that they are fine and they have a high self-esteem.
I would personally recommend being a listening board. Sometimes you don't even have to say anything. Ask a simple question and allow her to go and express herself, even if it is negative towards family or friends. I know this is hard but it sounds like she needs to unlayer her issues. Like an onion, her addiction (eating disorder) has many layers and the outside is only to try and protect the layer beneath. Once she gets to the bottom, the complaining stops and a lot of time joy begins.
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Yes, the group you are referring to that is trying to get the magazine racks covered is not going as strong as it used to because the voice behind it, Betty, is much older and continues to suffer from illness. InnerGold is working with her to increase awareness. We are putting on a conference that is free, if you rsvp at: Ecclesiastical Help For Counseling Porn/Sex Addiction Issues
We are wanting to educate people on the dangers of pornography and also the counseling of pornography.
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I wished I could give you a quick answer that would solve everything. Unfortunately, a problem like this is what caused many to not go to church in Michigan. We, missionaries, had to do a lot of damage control. The Branch President was released, etc... This is an ugly situation.
If you recall something similar with Thomas B. Marsh.
I will council with some of my associates and give you any advice we may have.
Here are some obvious ones, maybe you have done them, maybe not:
Fasted for resolution
Gone to the temple
Talked to the Stake President (he may understand having dealt with her his whole life)
Whatever you do, keep a good, positive attitude. Easier said than done, I know!
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What is the gossip centered around? Not looking for specifics, just some generalities.
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I agree 100%
I was reading an article today, in CNA, that is talking about how 10% of the world's population is addicted to pornography and the leading cause of many failed marriages:
"Mexico City, Mexico, Apr 1, 2009 / 01:36 pm (CNA).- The president of the organization Morality in Media, Robert Peters, warned this week that at least 10% of the world's population is addicted to pornography and that this vice is the cause of many failed marriages.
During the International Life and Family Congress at the Autonomous University of Baja California, Peters said that in most cases it is men who are addicted to pornography.
During his speech entitled, “The effects of pornography on our children,” he noted that one of the problems pornography poses to marriages is that the one with the addiction begins to lose interest in his or her spouse and wants to recreate the acts depicted in pornography.
He also pointed out that having pornography in the home exposes children to falling into the vice, and that the internet has allowed children to have increasing access to this kind of material. Porn has become one of the main educators of young people, he warned.
Laws must be strengthened to protect minors from pornography, Peters said, and religion is one of the more effective means for combating the addiction, in addition to professional help.
-CNA
Again this all leads to the break down of the family!
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Glad to hear. If you have questions, don't hesitate to ask. Also, I would encourage you to call the missionaries they will help answer any questions, too.
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The statistic is from 1997 so I am sure it is much worse. Kudo's to that little girl.
Queries, I love that analogy. Thank you for sharing. I should start a thread about analogies, there are some good ones.
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This is part of the problem with child porn. It is not punished like it should be:
source: The Press
Outrage is growing over a failure to jail child-pornography offenders in the wake of a home-detention sentence for a man possessing more than 100 pornographic images of infants as young as 18 months.
The Department of Internal Affairs says fewer than half the nation's convicted child-pornography offenders are being jailed.
It says the low rate of imprisonment in the face of a "plague" of child pornography that is getting "far more violent" and "sicker", and with younger victims, is infuriating.
Internal Affairs deputy secretary Keith Manch yesterday told a conference in Auckland that only 24 of 56 offenders eligible for imprisonment in the past two years were jailed.
The remainder got home detention, fines or community work.
"Home detention is completely inappropriate as a sentence; after all, that is exactly where the offending occurred in the first place and without adequate monitoring it will be virtually impossible to stop them accessing the internet," Manch said.
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Hordak: I asked Gordon, the Psychologist for InnerGold, your questions and this is what he wrote:
" There still needs to be research done on so much of this. The hang over that is described after one views pornography is universal across the bored. Just had a client tonight who described feeling foggy, anixious, fidgity, depressed and a complete inability to focus. It is common to hear that it takes a couple of sober days to feel fairly normal again after a slip. This is how it affects the pre-frontal cortex. Could write tons more but just dont have the time. " Gordon
I know this does not completely answer your question in full so I am pressing him for more clarification but he is extremely busy with the county and his practice.
I don't know if you live in Utah, but if you do, I would encourage you to attend the Free Symposium for Pornography and Sexual Addiction. You can learn more about it on the group I have posted in the LDS.net site.
Gordon will be presenting and after the presentation you can ask him more details about this, if I can't get a clear answer for you.
I can tell you this. Marriage and intimacy is healthy and our brains can decipher this between porn, if someone has not been viewing porn. I don't know all of the physical details of brain stimuli that occurs but the brain is an extremely complex organ.
Hordak, I will get you more studies regarding the brain as I find them. Do you want me to post them on this thread or send them personally to you? If there are others interested in the studies I pull, let me know. I will probably end up posting to the group: Pornography and Sexual Addiction
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This is great! There are so many children affected by this, you would be appalled.
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Understanding, Avoiding, and Treating Pornography/Sexual Addictions
In 2007, the average age of a child first exposed to pornographic content was 11 years old. Approximately 90 percent of children ages 8 to 16 have seen pornography on the Internet.
How can I educated my children and prevent pornography/addiction in my home?
How can I help a loved one or someone who comes to me with an addiction?
How do I know if someone is addicted or if they just had a moment of weakness or curiosity?
As an ecclesiastical leader how can I help those coming to me?
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2030 W Chapel Ridge Rd,
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Until, I can answer the rest of your question, here is the study about the brain shrinkage.
Porn too close to home
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Ok, as usual, I have found out that the media is completely wrong and blowing this way out of proportion. Yes it happened. Yes they will be punished. Yes what they did was wrong.
Got that off my chest.
Unfortunately, I can not discuss it, yet, due to confidentiality purposes and a current ongoing investigation.
Here is what I can tell you. There are some serious problems with teens in schools. Not just Forbes but all schools. Because of the recent happenings, a very good principal is taking this seriously and is having all the servers searched. They are discovering more than they ever thought.
The school is implementing some immediate steps to remedy this issue and, as usual, the media does not have the full story. I will discuss more when I can.