bonanzafan

i was just called to be on the fhe committee for my singles ward. the chairman of the committee seems to have it out for me. he murmured when he saw me enter the room for a committee meeting, and again when i was introduced by the attending bishopric member. he shot down my idea for an activity right away...no one else volunteered anything. afterward, personally, i asked him why he did that. he said, outright, that it was dumb. there is no reasoning with him. any other conversation with him, even casual small talk, provokes him t to be condescending and contrary. i don't want to be on the committee anymore. i have such a hard time being around people like this. it makes going to church the most difficult and unpleasant part of my week.

I am going to school in a town where there are few members and have considered moving closer to school to save on gas, time, and hassle. The church standards won't be lived in that home, but the other two male tenants are older and professional. I'm assuming there will be sex and casual drinking. I've been assured that there would be no drugs or parties. What do you suggest? I can't afford to stay where I am now. I've thought about it being okay since my own room would be my haven. But I'm not certain. Money is the main issue. Have you had to deal with this before?

i am a college student attending the university in my hometown. my family is very active in the church, but has proved to be physically and emotionally abusive consistently. the physical abuse was through the end of my teenage years; by my dad. he never apologized and is now in the bishopric of a ysa ward. my mother is an enabler, afraid to confront and represses all conflicts. i am thinking of transferring to another school for the sole purpose of getting away from them. i only have feelings of resent and neglect. i can go months without hearing from anyone in my 8-member family. i used to call regularly on a monthly basis, but was advised by a therapist to hold off on that. the way i feel right now--hurt and handicapped at progressing--i just want to not see them at all because i am so starved for affection from them that i will ruin my life to revolve around them...to "earn" their love. i have pondered and prayed over this for about five years now. it seems like i am still in the fire, per se, and can't heal enough to have pure compassion/forgiveness for them. since my dad is close friends with the bishop, all the advice i get feels skewed. no one really knows the bull that he is to his wife and children behind closed doors. has anyone experienced this? what did you do? how have things worked out?