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He was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I thank you all for the kind words. I had a blessing last night and I feel a little better.Heading to the temple tomorrow. My son seemed more calm today.It was a good day but not enough of them. I have come to realize that there are some things you have absolutley no control over. When you know there is nothing else you can do,Its a horrible feeling. I can tell him what to do for help all I want but until he wants to change its going to stay the same.Everyone you have been a great help with your kind words.Thank you.

BadWolf, What you say is true. There are times when my son seems normal and I find out it is because he has been smoking pot. I tried to tell him there are legal drugs that can help him. He doesn't believe me. So many doctors tried to help him and none of the drugs ever worked for him. I tried to tell him it takes time to find the right drugs to help.He doesn't believe me.He only knows what helps him right now and he doesn't have to wait. Mute,Yes we have talked to him till we are blue in the face. We have stayed up all night with him when he cries.He feels quilt about the drugs and I think he wants us to tell him its ok but we can't abide by illegal drugs. I am constantly on edge.Everytime I leave the house I think this could be the day he dies either by drugs or suicide.Its a nightmare life.We were up again saturday night with him and both his dad and I were so distraught sunday we couldn't evem watch conference. We have prayed over and over and we feel that God does not hear our prayers.Even just a little relief would be great but we don't even get that. Its a very depressing and sad time in our life.

I keep thinkng if he gets put in jail that maybe that might be the low point and he will turn around.He knows we will not help him if that happens. I just keep hanging on and keep praying.

I know I said I would not post here anymore but I do not know where to go at the moment. I have been up all night long with my 22 year old son. He has suffered with mental problems all his life.When he was a teenager we tried to get him help.We went to doctor after doctor.He has tried so many meds with none of them helping him.He has been hospitalized twice for suicidal attempts.He has had blessing after blessing.We knew we had to do something before he turned 18 or he would try to fix himself with drugs of his own. 18 came and thats exactly what happened.He has been on drugs since then.Recently he told us he is trying to change and quit everything.Last night I sat on my living room floor with my 22 year old son and cried with him.He says he should have never came to earth.He hates life and being here.He has hated being here on earth since he was 12 and has prayed for death nightly. What am I going to do? I have been praying for this kid since all this began? Why didn't God help us get the right meds to help him before he turned 18?? He is so miserable here on earth.He cries like a baby at night and I hear him plead for with lord "Please let me die" He refuses any further help.Since it didn't work when he was a teenager he says there is nothing to help him. this breaks a mothers heart.i can't tell how miserable I am hearing my son cry for help and their is nothing I can do. I have prayed and prayed for years and nothing. So tired.

Could it be from where you are from.Where I live EVERYONE calls each other baby. Especially adults when talking to kids. Not that they are babies but as an endearment.

Leah, I don't care I don't care I don't care who wears garments or not!!! I have apoligised over and over and over.IM SORRY!!!!! When someone apoligizes your suppose to forgive them.I am sorry I am sorry I am sorry!!! I don't know what else to say.I beg for your forgiveness.Im so sorry I ever brought this up you can believe me it won't happened again. You are missing my question and not getting it AT ALL.I sure have learned my lesson.I guess my original question should have been. Is it ok to wear garments when you are a performer? I asked it all wrong and wasn't thinking.Boy I wish I could go back. If you only knew. Why do you keep digging? I already feel horrible.I feel more than horrible about this but I don't know what to do to make it better.

Yesterday I was upset.This morning I am laughing. I will not be making anymore posts on this forum because I don't know how to word my words right.I know this.Been a problem all my life.This is why I don't like to give talks or bear my testimony.Im so afraid of saying something that is wrong and I have done so many times not meaning what others are thinking Im meaning.I know i shouldn't be here.Was it moses that had someone speak for him? Like I said yesterday I am sorry.What I was laughing at this morning was that I mentioned Marie Osmond and noone has said anything about her. Poor Marie.Doesn't anyone care if shes wearing garments? Thank goodness I never went on a mission.The damage I could have done not knowing.Maybe this is why I sing instead of speak. I know where I belong.In the corner with my mouth shut. I do thank those who gave me answers about what to do on stage. I don't want them to show so I think I will just be more careful about the outfits I choose.Don't think I can go without them and feel right. one more thing if Anne Romney would answer my call I sure would apologize to her and Im willing to bet she would forgive me........if I could figure out what Im sorry for. Back to my corner.

I'm sorry to all.I shouldn't even be here and I know it. It truly was my bad and Im sorry for it. Not who I want to be at all. Please accept my apology.

Carlimac,Believe me I can't tell you how sorry I am to have mentioned Anne Romneys name!! I never dreamed it would bother so many people.For the record I don't care if she wears garments or not. Here is how it went down.I was watching Anne Romney on a late night talk show and she had on a short dress.Yes I noticed her dress was above her knee and I had thought about garments then I thought about Marie Osmond and dancing with the stars then I thought about me and my performing. You have no idea how hurtful your comment was to me.If you had any idea about me and my self esteem and how easy I get hurt.This will stay with me today and I will worry about this all day.I just wanted to ask a question and I did it the wrong way.I am so sorry.Please please please forgive me anyone and everyone if I asked in the wrong way. I thought we were allowed to ask questions without being judged or hurt especially an LDS forum.Im surprised.Ive belonged to one ward all my life and noone has ever made me feel this way.Maybe its different in other areas with the LDS church .So glad Im not part of your Ward.This will be my last post.I truly am sorry if I upset anyone. I just re read your comment and discovered you wear garments which means you go to the temple.wow.

Now here is something I thought of.There have been times when Ive been on stage and one of my friends have told me they could see my garments through the lights.Could it be that famous mormons don't wear them under lights as to not draw any kind of attention to them??? hmmmmmmm

Dravin,Good point! I know when I go home from performing I am so sweaty and sticky. I will have to pray about this.Still not feeling quite right about it both ways. Leah, Anne was not performing but she is famous and under heavy lights when in an interview so she works with the entertainment business. I seemed to upset you with my question and I apoligize. I should have not used any names as to not upset anyone.They were just examples for me.

Leah,I don't care if she is wearing them or not.I am a performer and sweat on stage and was just wondering if I should not wear my garments while performing. I see other members on TV do it so I was jsut using her and Marie Osmond as an example. I don't know if she wears them or not,nor do I care, just made me think about the entertainment business and garments thats all.

Margin of error,If you read my post then you know the real question was Is it ok to not wear your garments when you are performing or acting? I don't care if she wears them or not,none of my buisness. Are you a member? Do you know the answer?

I was watching a late night talk show last night and Anne Romney had on a dress that hiked way up when she sat down.The first thing I noticed was there was no way she was wearing garments.Ive seen this with Marie Osmond also(dancing with the stars outfits) is it ok to not wear your garments when you are performing or acting ? I am a performer and there is no way no how I would go without my garments.The people I perform for know I am lds and I would not want them to question what i am questioning about these ladies today.What do you think?

Just a guy, Excuse my ignorance but I don't get what your trying to say to me. Backroads,I didn't mean to upset you so.I just don't understand why you would be so upset over a missionary coming home. It doesn't make since to me.What I WOULD be upset about is if he didn't say anything at all and had stayed on his mission.You wouldn't want him on his mission if he was unworthy to do so. Just trying to understand.Sorry if I upset you. My advice would to be to pray and read your scriptures.This young man probably feels bad about it to. He is going to need you and your love and acceptance.

This post really had me upset. Missionaries are not gods.They are not perfect people.None of us are. We ALL right now this very day will sin of something. Ive been to the temple and I still sin everyday.(Thank goodness for the repentance process) This is between the lord and this missionary.You are in more danger than this missionary for judging him.My son also came home early from his mission and everyone in our ward welcomed him home with open arms.He still goes to the temple,he has a calling and still uses his priesthood. I don't understand no matter what this boy did on his mission why you are having these feelings when we all sin everyday.

Eowyn,Love these ideas.I will try them.

Well no.It will not fix the behavior problems entirely.We are just trying to find ways to better the reverence. Some parents may even ignore the letter and still let them eat sugary treats before coming to us. It will still be their chose but for someone who takes of their child for 2 hours every sunday(without pay might I add) you would think they would want to help us in every way possible to help us out. My children are grown now but if I received a letter like this you bet I would follow it. I was always so thankful for the primary organization and taking care of my children for two hours every sunday while I was enjoying peace and quiet in my classes.

I would be alright with snacks like pretzels or fruit or crackers just save the sugar for when primary is over.I haven't wrote the letter yet.Still worried about it.I do not want to offend ANYONE!!! and I will show it to the Bishop before I deliver anything just to get his ok with it. Just don't know how to write it without being offensive.

Morning Star,Your the winner!!!!!! Yes!! lol Anatess, We have 3 kids with ADD,we have 2 diabetic and 3 with food allergies. Im all for candy but wait till after church.I wish I had kids like yours.The ones with ADD we have to chase down at times. Before the new handbook you were not allowed to have snacks in class unless it went with the lesson Im not for sure about the new handbook.

I've read all of your comments and so greatly appreciate the advice.The reason we are sending a letter to everyone in our ward is we hope that when the sister tries to give candy to the kids the PARENTS will say no. Also YES primary kids are hyper anyway when they come to us but the candy makes it worse. I kind of like asking the bishop to say in general to the whole ward over the pulpit that the primary has asked that no candy be given to the children before primary. Not to single this one sister out but put it in everyones hands to help us.

I'm in the primary presidency and we are having a horrible time with behavior in the primary lately.We have a sister who loves loves the children and during sacrament meeting she passes out candy to them all.By the time they get to us it's horrible behavior.She has been asked by us and the bishop to wait till after church to pass out candy. Last sunday she was giving candy to the kids and putting her fingers to her lips as to tell them to not tell anyone. I am the lucky one that has to now write a letter to all the parents about giving candy to the kids.is this none of our business? Do I have right to do this for our sanity in primary? What would you do? How do you even start a letter like this? Any input would be GREATLY appreciated.

I work with CPS and you my friend have it easy in your life.You have no idea what abuse is. You talk about YOU being embarrassed? What about your mom? There is no way I would let you behind the wheel of a car after acting so in public.You need to tell your mother your sorry and write a note to McDonalds and tell them your sorry. How embarrassed your mother must have been to go up to the lady who's shirt YOU destroyed and give her money for the damage a 15 year old and 13 year old did.If that would've been me,I would have gotten a lot worse then name calling.I wouldn't have been able to sit down for a week! Be thankful you just got name calling from your mother. We all mess up in our lives and thank goodness for the repentance process.Live and learn.

Never even imagined this would have anything to do with modesty. Hardly anyone in my ward wears pantyhose.It can get so hot where I live.

Try chalking your hair.It washes right out when ever you want.