bl8tant

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  1. I loved the pictures, but seeing people bend their legs that way... ow... Seriously, congratulations, and best of luck in your performances!
  2. Wait! How'd you know I'd been gobbling M&Ms? Are you spying on me too?
  3. I could just hit random keys and that would probably be closer to the real name than I could purposely write!
  4. Bring the sarcasm. I can always use a good LOL even when I'm the target.
  5. I love your short posts, mirancs8. They mesh well with my short attention span :)
  6. It's a tough balance: on one hand you have to preserve yourself, your interests, and those of your kids, and on the other you have to try to be as Christlike as possible. In my case I don't believe my STBX is a wicked person (though she's made some choices and decisions that have directly harmed me and our marriage), but that doesn't stop me from wanting to get all HULK SMASH! sometimes. Definitely reminds me of the hoary old tale of the two wolves. Make sure you're feeding the right one.
  7. I just came across a line of "respect cards" designed for wives to give their husbands. The idea is that these cards allow wives to express respect and love for their husbands. I thought it was a neat idea and wanted to share it; I don't have any connections with the maker. Your Husband's Deepest Desire: Home: Zazzle.com Store Now to sit back and wait for my STBX to send me one:lol:
  8. Apropos of Iceland (well, sort of): there's an amazingly beautiful time-lapse video of the recent volcanic eruption (no way am I going to try to type the volcano's name ) at Iceland, Eyjafjallajökull - May 1st and 2nd, 2010 on Vimeo.
  9. Amy, don't ignore it by any means. Porn can be just as addictive as drugs, alcohol, or cigarettes, and a little exposure can lead to a full-blown addiction. Your husband's e-mail may very well be the result of an addiction that took root before you ever met. Also, everyone who said that this may just be spam is right too. Some of the spam I get would make a sailor blush! The key is for you to talk to him honestly and to encourage him to be honest in return. If he fears your anger, or you his, that will just make it harder to work on the real underlying issues. Good luck-- this can be a hard problem to crack but all things are possible with God.
  10. I think it's natural.. in the sense that the natural man is an enemy to God. In a divorce, no matter whether there's fault or whose it is, both parties are under enormous stress and strain. It's hard to dissolve a marriage. If you were terrible before, divorce will amplify it. If you were a Christlike model of perfection, divorce can inspire you to reach new lows of behavior, thought, and action. The whole process of having to disassemble what was supposed to be a loving (and possibly eternal) relationship is difficult, and for most folks, when they're exposed to difficulty their bad sides come out. No, you didn't deserve it, and I'm sorry you had to go through it. This is called "nesting". The best summary I've seen said it's like the weather: people talk about it, but no one does anything to bring it about. I don't think I would mind it that much, but that's easy to say when it's not a possibility in my case.
  11. Well, you can think of the 10 Commandments like a starter kit. The Lord originally gave them to the Israelites, along with the rest of the Mosaic law, because the Israelites were too hard-hearted to live the greater, Christ-like law. When Jesus came, he replaced the outward-facing commandments of the Mosaic law with a new, expanded set of commandments, like loving your neighbors and refraining from looking lustfully at others. The restoration of the gospel has revealed new commandments that are of equal importance and force with the old ones. For example, we are commanded to build and attend temples, pay an honest tithe, and obey the law of chastity. One of the cool thing about having a living prophet is that we have a conduit to help us understand what the Lord expects of us.
  12. Our bishop gets away with a lot because he's in his mid-70s. That remark is very much in line with his sense of humor. Sometimes it's hilarious, other times not so much.
  13. Right on. I was posting here out of curiousity, not in an attempt to get The Right Answer to beat her with. She's a big girl and can make her own choices, receiving the natural consequences thereof. (ever since our bishop asked her "So, are you waiting to date someone else?" in a lame attempt at humor, I'm thinking she may not talk to him that much!)
  14. I took my youngest son to see Disney's "Oceans" a couple of weeks ago. Wow! Beautiful cinematography and some really unusual views of some of God's most interesting creations. Pierce Brosnan wouldn't have been my first choice for narration, but apart from that it was a real delight. I encourage you to see it in theaters to help remind Disney that there's a place at the box office for movies in which nothing explodes and no breasts are displayed. On the other hand: Iron Man 2 == awesome.
  15. Welcome, Naman! This will be a great place for you to learn more about Mormon beliefs from actual live Mormons.
  16. bl8tant

    hi

    Welcome, Nicole!
  17. My STBX and I have negotiated our own settlement. Depending on the court system to solve the disputes that come up as part of a marriage dissolution is a recipe for bitterness, penury, and general unhappiness. As to Melissa's point: what I feel my STBX deserves and what I will provide are two very different things. I am obligated (and willing) to support my children. I am obligated to support my STBX for a period of time, and so I will. Doesn't mean I have to like it.
  18. I hadn't thought of it that way. We expect our kids to pay tithing on their allowance, and I guess that's the right model to use here as well. Thanks for pointing that out.
  19. Yeah, you would think so, wouldn't you? I think the same thing. Too bad she doesn't.
  20. The marriage counselor my wife and I saw said that divorce peaks at two times: about 7 years after marriage and 18-20 years. I'm in the latter band, but it sounds like you and your friends may be in the former. There are probably differences between the two bands, but I think you're right that ultimately it boils down to one thing. I took my kids white-water rafting a few weeks ago, and here's the analogy that comes to mind. There are lots of rapids that can be negotiated in a single-person kayak. You can also shoot those same rapids in a two-man kayak but only if both people paddle. If one just sits there, you're headed for trouble. Marriage, and marriage repair, are exactly the same way.
  21. You say "hobo," I say "adventurer." I have been known to steal a pie or two.
  22. So *you* were that lady I didn't know engaged in intense discussion with my STBX last week at church. I wondered what you two were laughing about so hard :)