Backroads

Yet in Utah it seems so easy. When I went to buy my wedding dress, the shop owner even asked if I wanted showy or modest. Her shop served both tastes. But, seriously, I hear this trouble with a lot of people. Tragic what fashion is these days.

My husband went through it at the beginning of this year. Bishop needs to get the ball rolling first. Jennerator already told you the gist of the process. However, he got his sealing clearance back within two weeks of all the finished paperwork being put in the mail. So really, the trick is just getting the necessary paperwork together. I recommend keeping (politely) on the bishop, though.

I'm kind of wondering if Newton thinks our answers are compatible with each others!

Once at BYU-Idaho, a group of business majors sold hot chocolate during the cold months. A student wroter a letter to the editor the campus newspaper detailing how one of the creamers smelt like coffee. After much investigation, he found out one flavoring was made in the same factory as coffee and therefore we were all sinners.

That is good of you to think that way. :) Please be aware I in no way support abusers. But nor do I support those who make up abuse reports for petty revenge against someone. If you were to lie and say that I abused you and it got around town, it could affect my relationships, perhaps even my job. We have a tendency to believe the victim.

Oh, I wouldn't freak out if this happens again. Laugh it off and make a mental note to check on such things next time. To me, over-worrying about it is going far beyond the mark.

Keep in mind, there are incidents of folks whose lives have been ruined by unfounded abuse accusations. Even if nothing comes of it, once the idea is suggested, it is very difficult to rebuild a reputation.

I think that Dernge brought up some great points. From what I understand from friends who have mixed-faith relationships, complete respect and lack of bitterness are KEY. I'm not going to go as far as accusing you of saying little nasty things to your husband because I just don't know, but it is possible that little things have been done/said unconsciously that your husband is responding to, which may lead him to saying things. Even perception of what is being done/said can no doubt affect this. I don't think I ever made an official response to this, but I say stick with your husband if you love him and want to be with him. Have faith that all will work out as it should. Always be sure to stand up for your beliefs and don't settle for anything less than completel respect for them, but offer that same complete respect to your husband.

1. Pertaining only to my Mormon beliefs, I believe that polygamy is not currently advocated by the authority of my church but rather is grounds for dismissal. I do however believe it be a perfectly reasonable state of companionship in the eternities. On a grander scale, I have no complaint with the concept of polygamy itself. 2. I don't claim to know the details and frankly I don't really dwell on it. I figure making peace with the government was more important at the time. 3. I was not aware of those laws but I find them fascinating. Have never lived in any of them. 4. Unless someone is being hurt and laws are being blatantly broken, I don't think the government has any business. On a side note, I think polygamy has gotten a bad rap through the media.

I would dare say so. I know we are encouraged to go. I remember being a teenager and arguing about whether or not to wear panythose (it irritated my legs) when we went to do baptisms. As a cultural standard, it's a good one. It shows respect.

I read a book last month where the author mentioned he used his deer hunting license to get a couple of a deer a year. Even after the license fee, butchering, packaging, etc, he wound up with extremely cheap meat that was not as harsh on the environment as your average farm.

All right, though I think I might bring it up only if my boss does (as in, asking me to come speak to him, explaining he had heard I wasn't pulling my fair share). Othewise I think I'll let it go.

A coworker (whom I have asked advice on here before) has recently told our boss she does 80% of the work in our department. Yes, I get on the computer now and then to fiddle on such sites as here, but I don't think I spend an obscene amount of time, seemingly less than others in my office. We have no policy against it as long as our work gets done in a timely manner and volunteers get first priority. My coworker fiddles around on the internet much more. She uses worktime for crafts. She also spends hours each day on the phone with family. I try to be sympathetic on that as her kids are quite dysfunctional. Frankly, I'm quite comfortable in stating that I do at least as much work as she does and I'm sure quite a bit more. I'm trying to give the benefit of the doubt that this 80% refers to something other than workload. But myself and a third coworker feel rather hurt by this, that she is suggesting she slaves away while we lie around eating bonbons. I'm not even sure where this magical 80% number comes from. However, our boss (who is far too busy to constantly observe us) believes her on this assessment. Fortunately, we have our department meeting in a couple of days where this might come up. I would love to have it explained that the 80% refers to something else (perhaps she is involved of 80% of the jobs our department is responsible for). But knowing this woman as I do, I don't think she will claim that. I just don't want to throw a finger and say "She spends half her time making personal calls!" and sincerely hurt her or look like a tattle-tale.

It is possible. I actually wished this poll had a "not enough evidence option". However, I have an aunt that claimed for several years my grandmother (her mother) constantly sexually abused her. Her three siblings denied any of it. You could argue my mother, my uncle, and other aunt blocked it all out, but, well, I had trouble believing any of it. After so long, aunt finally admitted she had made it all up. Ironically, she was even going for her own book deal with the story. If I had to pick one, I would say its fiction... because there is no supporting evidence for it.

I think I instinctively respect churchgoers who make an effort to look nice, but then again I kind of envy sometimes the more casual church goers. It's not that they are comfortable, it's almost as if they have a more casual and constant relationship with God. Mind you, I"m big on Sunday best.

I don't think I have ever thought less of a couple who has a civil marriage first. Why? I don't know the details and reasoning and it's none of my business. The civil marriage could be due to anything. Perhaps they wanted to they wanted to include family. Perhaps a temple wedding just isn't that big of a deal to them at this time. Perhaps they are unworthy and wanted to get married as they worked on repentence. A decent person is not going to dwell on unknown reasons. I, like others, am concerned your boyfriend prefers to repent later. This suggests to me he just isn't all that interested in his covenents or spirituality. Which I suppose is fine for him, but he should own up to it and stop being a hypocrite. If he's not interested in temple covenents, he shouldn't bother with them. No one is forcing him to marry in the temple. Same goes for you. I think this boils down to something else. You guys are a couple. You need to make a decision together and you need to both be okay with it. Are you okay with lying to get to the temple? Are you okay with your boyfriend telling you to lie? Are you even fully okay with the concept of a temple marriage whenever and if ever it happens? Are you okay with a civil marriage now? Would you prefer to wait? Same questions apply to your boyfriend. Also, he is going to be bitter if you don't lie and are you going to be bitter if you do or don't?

Inspired in part by an article on beliefnet. The only time Mormons are mentioned is once, but it was interesting we were used as an example of a dress code for religious buildings. Do you think we are more strict than other religions? Less so? HOw important is a dress code?

This is even better than my brothers' plan to go trick-or-treating in their Aida Nubian slaves flesh-colored body suits.

I agree. I will admit that I am in the zone that believes if a book has achieved "classic" status, it probably has for a reason and there is a chance I would enjoy it. But just because something isn't on some English teacher's classic list doesn't mean it's not good.

Bingo. I once heard it said the people of the Great Depression were the ultimate role models for green living.

Oh, yes, I quite know. I actually had a friendly debate with someone the other night in the egg aisle. I was buying some local guy's eggs while this other guy was buying some cage-free ones. We discussed which was better. I guess I meant that long range of slashes to depend on the cirumstance.

sister_in_faith, may I begin by saying this was a neat topic to bring up? I consider myself something of an environmentalist, if by environmentalist you mean someone who cares about the environment and puts some importance in taking care of it. I consider environmental impact in many of my actions and I attempt efforts to reduce that impact. I recycle, I buy local/organic/cruelty-free/natural/etc when it's doable. I sincerely believe that we are to be wise and mindful stewards of this planet. And I also daresay that most people do to some extent care about the planet. I'm sure that if you asked a few environmental opinion questions to the average person, you'd probably get a lot of pro-environment answers. My husband is kind of the stereotypical conservative who sort of has a knee-jerk reaction against environmental policies--mainly because of what Loudmouth said. But when I we sit and talk about them, he does admit to supporting many causes--he just hates the idea of the wild liberal whaleship bombing kill-all-humans kind of environmentalism. There seems to be a black-and-white view of environmentalism. The perception (not necessarily the truth) is that you are either the aforementioned environmentalist or all for killing endangered animal babies.

Would the money from those who are taxed go to funding the police force, committees, etc, that exist soley to check for sure if the charitable ones are honest?

While I agree to a certain extent, I don't think it's thoroughly true. It's possible that those who prefer taxation to private charity merely believe society, as a whole, has the moral obligation to help those in need, so why not accomplish the ends through taxation?

No, I'm not. But that is neither here nor there. Your proposal still forces charity. Basically it's "be charitable or else!" You are punishing those who can't/won't be charitable, which I don't think is your moral right. What you propose would be beneficial to the community, no doubt, but don't try to drag charity into it.