Anon16

No actually, the reason was because it wasn't positive about leaders. The church(and he called to check) wants a positive light shown on leaders...

Ghostbuster, my dad has had experiences similar to yours, only with two bishops and a stake president. It is sad when that kind of thing happens, but it is good to remember that Bishops are human, and they do make mistakes. Keep that in mind, and go on. He wrote a short book about his experience and our current bishop(who isn't quite as bad) told him he couldn't publish it or if he did there would be a church court. So there you go.

This is more my Dad's concern then mine. I've initiated a lot of the contact, and he has been nice enough to respond.

My part is in bold.. I am working at having the right attitude and making the right choice. I am not good at self control, and this shows it a lot. I've been doing some blogging on LDSAR and that helps, generally by the time I'm done writing something the temptation isn't near as bad. I appreciate your long post, and I don't consider it hi-jacking at all.

On my conduct or his?

LDSAR.org is a very good website that she might want to check out. There are several women on there and it's completely anonymous. The people on there give very good advice.

16 from US :)

He wants me to be done because he feels that I "am done" and that I need to start taking the sacrament again, as it isn't doing any good not taking it. I have told him it isn't his place, it's the Bishops, but he said that he has higher stewardship. Is that true, as he is my Dad? I would say actually it's a combination of both. He doesn't care for the Bishop at this point, because the Bishop talked to him about something else, and he is annoyed. It also doesn't help that my Bishop is well off and put together.

Hi All, You have given me good advice, and some of you have been in this spot, on both sides. I would like to ask, what is the appropriate amount of contact with a Bishop? I've been working with him for 7 months, the reason is in another topic. For 4-5 of those 7 months, I reported to him every day using text. I was the president of my Mia Maid class during that period, and also sent him a weekly report using email about my class. I would occasionally ask him questions, and he would generally answer them. We started meeting every 2-3 weeks the end of July, and I stopped reporting a few months after that. I would text weekly, or if I had an issue, and I am still doing that, only it's just when I have an issue. I've occasionally asked him questions, and I have sent him several emails related to why I'm working with him. The past month we have been emailing about my going to counselling - and taking the sacrament again. As far as I am aware, my Bishop has not crossed any lines, as it relates to content and I've worked hard at not doing that myself. My dad is uncomfortable about my communication with my Bishop. I am now only communicating with my Bishop when he starts it, before I didn't always, and I was a pest, I will admit that. He has been fairly patient, or ignores the emails.. My Dad has an issue with the Bishop, because I've been working with the Bishop for 7 months(there are other reasons but this is the most prevalent) and he feels his methods are ineffective. My opinion is that I wasn't putting as much effort in as I could, and that is why it's taking so long. He wants me to be done with my Bishop soon. Your thoughts are appreciated, I'd like to understand, so I can either tell my Dad to back off, or my Bishop, or set some guidelines. I'm 16 and female, if that helps. Thank you

Hi All, Thank you for your advice and responses to my last post. I really appreciated the comments and insight, it gave me several different perspectives that I didn't have. So, now I have several other questions. Have any of you worked with the LDS Family Services counselors before? What was your experience? I am going to be starting to work with someone very soon and I would like to be prepared. It's about my family life, and self esteem and etc. What kind of things should I not say, and what kind of things will they ask? Around how long would I need to work with this person? Thank you Anon16

I'm not really in a position to give advice on this. I struggle with this as well, but for me it is only recently that I've actually thought about it. You are strong to have resisted for as many years as you have. Have you told anybody besides this board about your feelings? Is there somebody you can trust that won't freak out on you that you can talk to? Talking about it can really help.

Hi! I've been browsing this site over the past day and find it really interesting. I'm a lifetime member and active in my seminary class. I enjoy reading, and while I also like non-church books, I am working on one of the Womens conference collections. I am a homeschooled person and am heading to college hopefully next year.