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Yeah, I can relate. My first child was a "breath holder". Not intentionally, not like the brats that everyone imagines. When he was the right combination of mad and hurt, he would scream or cry, and his muscles would clench, and he COULD NOT breathe in, even though he wanted to. He would then pass out, and in a few seconds, his muscles would relax, he would start breathing, and come to shortly after. It occurs in about 3% of babies, is not harmful, and is not out of the ordinary. BUT... I can tell you that the first time you pick up a crying child, they can't breathe, and they go unconscious in your arms, is is TERRIFYING. Anyway, Bini... keep benedryl on hand. Syrup is absorbed faster than tablets. And consider an epi-pen. Allergies like that are dangerous stuff, and can get worse every time they happen. Epi-pens do NOT treat the allergy, but help keep them breathing longer, so they have more time for other medicines (like benedryl) to work. You may even want to keep them with you at all times, since so many things have eggs in them. About 8 or 9 years ago, I had a reaction to something that was on the outside of a soda can (No idea what it was). I was at the ER within about 15 minutes of drinking the soda, and was told that if it had been five minutes later, I wouldn't have made it.

I like it. It's been a while since I saw the numbers, but to get one convert, you have to knock on many, many, many doors. If the people in question have already attended a Sacrament meeting, I seem to recall the number being about 50/50. Huge!

I made a joke about trailer parks, and the girl said something about "Yeah, lots of people grow up in trailer parks", so I made another joke about them. Then she looked at me, and said "No, I'm serious. *I* grew up in a trailer park. I just went like this:

We like to make everything about ourselves. We're not so good at considering other people's intentions. We're also pretty good at cutting ourselves a little slack, but much worse at doing the same for others.

Fair enough. I would love for this to all be wrong!

Huh. Both of them work for me. Of course, not all cases are from ritualistic abuse. The main subject in this, however, was, and one of her caregivers talks of the cases that do stem from it, and the history. Honestly, talking of Nazi occultists being brought over to work for the CIA's mind control projects sounds like loony hooey... but seems to be well documented, and the type of ritualistic abuse he developed - ritualistic torture and hypnosis, specifically designed to bring about multiples and mind control - has been found all over the nation in satanic rituals. The Church looked into it when LDS social services counselors found a good number of the survivors, and brought it up. A special inquiry was formed, and many victims were interviewed. Elder Pace, the head, said that he could have interviewed three times as many. The main detective who investigated the "Zion Society" eventually went on to Homeland Security to train law enforcement across the nation in it, because it is that widespread. Even if you don't listen to the podcast, I think that everyone could benefit from reading Elder Pace's report. It is downright... chilling. Like I said... stop the world, I want to get off.

The link takes you to the page where you can click on "listen". This is a direct link to the file. Eowyn: Multiple personality disorder, caused by systematic, ritualistic abuse, including techniques developed in Nazi Germany, brought to the US as part of the CIA's "project MK Ultra", and transferred to satanic cults. The back story sounds so bizarre and unbelievable that I had to do some more research before accepting that it might be true. Honestly, the things that I found about MKultra, just from officially released documents, not from the tinfoil-hat crowd, are enough to make me want to say "Stop the world, I want to get off."

If you want to see just what kind of evil is in the world, listen to this podcast, "22 faces". Be warned: It IS disturbing. Particularly when the they speak of just how prevalent this is, even with in Utah, and even within the church. In the late 1980's, the Church even formed a special inquiry into the matter, leading to all of the material being turned over to authorities, for further investigation into the matter. The back history on it literally seems as if it could come right out of a sci-fi/fantasy/horror/conspiracy movie.

There is a gentleman in our ward who is quite cantankerous and grumpy... to put it mildly. He raised his hand against the stake president for personal, grumpy, personality reasons. No disciplinary action was taken.

Here's one thing to consider: According to pediatricians, toddlers need about one third of their calories from fat. Fat is important in the development of brain and nervous tissue, and it's a good thing for them. But it can be hard to find traditional baby foods that have that much. So...we've always added cream and avocados to their diet.

Addiction is a tough, tough thing. Anyone who thinks that addicts are going to give up their addiction just because the welfare isn't coming are completely wrong. A better route would be to require counseling and rehab for them in order to keep receiving benefits.

I assume that you're seeing a specialist, if not, you should. One of the autistic people that I know, a young girl, started out with the most common and glaring attributes common to that affliction. Through work with specialists for years, she has become so good in those areas that it entirely surprising, and her level of function has risen so much that it is astounding. Anyway, your primary shouldn't have a problem with him if he isn't acting out to abnormal levels. One of the autistic children in our ward does have quite a bit of trouble with acting out and causing trouble, so her mother just sits with her in sharing time each week to help the teacher, then the girl goes to the smaller class by herself, and it works out quite well. The other autistic children that are in primary now, or have been over the years, have just gone by themselves and the primary leadership have always gone out of their way to help and take care of them.

Yes. One woman, in particular, was a particularly foul-mouthed woman from New York City. Even all of the vulgar men in the shop would look at each other, grossed-out, over some of the things she would say. Anyway, I always moved on to other jobs, there's just no reason for me to stay in those situations long-term. After moving from job to job for nearly ten years, I found a place that I absolutely love, and have stayed there since.

I never did understand until I had kids myself. Just the food bills... I have personally been thanked by a checker at Costco for how much I spend there every month. Anyway, being in your spot is a very tough place to be in. Plenty of people are never able to get married, due to orientation, health, or other reasons, and it's almost always tough. But where their lives ends up depends on how they choose to look at their situation. Those who decide that they're going to always strive for the best, look to God, and serve those around them turn out much better than those that allow themselves to simply become cynical or sarcastic.

That's a big reason why so many marriages fail. People see marriage as nothing but romance, when in actuality, it is as much - or more - a working partnership. Romance is good, and is important. But just as important is the ability of the man and woman to work together as a team.

The 1400s are recent history. Think ten or twenty thousand years previous to that.

I'm against it. For the record, I am fluent in Spanish, and the schools in my area are dual-immersion, English and Spanish. What I have seen as a result is that in three years of being immersed in Spanish for half of the day, most kids still can't have even a basic, simple conversation in Spanish. And because they have been lost during the Spanish half of the day, their education has suffered. It never fails to amaze me that we have to have special classes for Spanish-speaking immigrants, because it's hard for them to learn in a foreign language, but we expect our kids to learn at full capacity in a foreign language. One of my friends in fluent in Japanese, he served a mission there, and went back and lived there for years after. His son is in a Chinese dual-immersion school, and he is completely against it for the same reasons that I am. They spend 5-8 hours per week just on Chinese in addition to other homework, and the kid still doesn't get as good of education during the Chinese part of the day as during the English part of the day. Yes, learning a second language is good. But not if it costs you a great deal of the rest of your education. Overall, I think that this is a sham put on by the teachers union to try to make it look like they're not sucking.

That has only been the case in the last 0.5% of human history, and even then, only in some parts of the world. For most of human history, life expectancy was 35 or less. Some places in the world still barely average 40 years. When that is the case, waiting until you're 20 to start having kids doesn't work out very well. A much better question would be this: For nearly all of human history, people were making adult decisions and taking on adult responsibilities at ages of 15 or less. Why does it now take us an extra decade to start doing that?

OP, you have to understand a few things: First, we have agency, we get to make choices. Second, our choices have consequences. Third, God will not violate our agency. Fourth, our agency is for our own good. Whether avoidable or not, woman #1 chose to marry someone that ended up quite badly for her. And she's choosing to stay in a relationship that she shouldn't stay in. Her suffering is not caused by her righteousness, it is not required of her, it is simply an ongoing consequence of her own choices. For God to come down and take away the consequences of her choices would be negating her agency, negating the plan of the Savior, and following Satan's plan that none would be able to fail. As for woman #2? Well, knowingly or not, she made a choice in whom to marry that worked out well for her. That is probably no more or less tied to her righteousness than was woman #1. Just a consequence of choice. I tell my children all the time... the two largest determinants of how happy you will be are whether you will follow God, and WHOM YOU MARRY. As a personal note, ironically, worrying about what is fair in life is only a way to make yourself more miserable. Once you stop worrying about fair, and worry about how to make the most of what you have, then your life can progress. Happiness and progress come from within, not from what happens to others.

Ask a geneticist how often inherited genes dealing with behavior make anyone "100% predetermined" to anything. Take a lunch with you. It will take them a while to stop laughing.

9 months? Your kid is going to go through a LOT of sleep changes over the next two years. It's just what happens as babies grow, their brains change, their sleep patterns change... the most important thing is just to make sure that they're getting ENOUGH sleep. It's crucial to their well-being, their development, and to YOUR happiness.

Counseling.... you get it, she gets it, you both get it together.

Your mom is certainly being immature about it. But, so are you, OP. Instead of worrying about your mom's immaturity (which would be quite difficult for you to change), worry about acting more mature yourself. That will still be tough to change, but will, in the end, make a far greater positive impact in your life than trying to justify it, get revenge, or worrying about other people.

I know a family very near what you describe. Between just not wanting to work and being addicted to video games... until the man decides to buck up and be a man, there's not much that CAN be done except for the poor wife to try and play BOTH roles in their marriage.

My guess would be that unless she gets some professional help, the odds of her going through with it at some point are probably pretty high. She's in a bad situation, and it sounds like she doesn't know how to get herself out of it alone.