David13

Cappy So what you are saying is that a law enforcement officer can never enter, because the staff and patients will be struck with panic upon seeing their gun? Anatess I argue with myself all the time. dc

The major problem is, there is no such thing as a "weapon/gun free environment". That's just a fantasy. I like to go to places where it seems to me the good guys have more guns than the bad guys. Because the first rule of the bad guy is, don't pay no attention to no sign. dc

I never eat eggs. I could, I just don't. And I have to agree with your husband here. That's sort of the way I see it. Eat healthy, stay healthy. Ab initio. There are quite a few things I have to avoid, as I know they are not good for me. dc

Who can separate "feelings" from "thoughts" for me? If you tell me you "feel" you are a Republican (or a Democrat) or you "think" you are a Republican (or Democrat) what is the difference? Are your feelings based on your thoughts, or are your thoughts based on your feelings? Is there a difference? If someone "feels" they should use hard drugs, crack cocaine or something, that it's been ordained for them, that it's the right path for them, should we say nothing because we don't want to "hurt their feelings"? Do any of you "feel" that evil is when good people do, or say nothing? Do you think or feel that there is a difference between right and wrong? In a debate, if you "feel" angry, or violent, or such, are you not admitting that you have lost the debate, that you cannot continue the debate? dc

You are born amongst your relatives. You choose your friends. dc

A marriage between a man and a woman is still at whatever age a marriage between a man and a woman. That is not what we are talking about here. dc

I have to agree that we should not be easily offended. People are going to take issue with our opinions. They in effect are calling us liars, misinformed, all that. That should not offend us, if we believe we are right. And there is such a thing as being too sensitive. At taking offense at something that was not meant to be offensive. We should not have such thin skin, not if we know we are in the right. Now what are all these secrets that are not being shared? I know I'm new here, but I think I have a right to know all the secrets. I won't tell anyone, your secrets are safe with me. Sensitivity. Don't over do it. William F Buckley Jr once said he may have been too sensitive. As he had determined to never again ask a gentleman to go sailing with him, as that individual had not asked for the ketchup in a polite enough manner. That is wrong, particularly amongst sailors. dc

I think there is a distinct inability on this forum, and another one to distinguish between things that are malum prohibitum and those that are malum in se, or pro se. Some things are just prohibited. Other things are morally and ethically wrong. dc

There are many many websites out there where they go into great detail about this issue and anything at all related. Many of them are brand oriented, which will also offer brand specific equipment for you. A lot of the posters are ordinary citizens or people who's work requires them to be armed. So you get a real varied perspective, and a lot of experience. Don't just limit your question to this site. dc

If I see 3 Nephi 11 right, it says contention with anger. Contention without anger is ok. I think contention, in the sense of spirited debate is essential. This is the only way that we can come to understand the ideas of others. I think the thing to be avoided is the anger. I think with children, they should not be disciplined with anger; or with emotion. But they should be disciplined. A legal case is a contention. One side takes one position and the other, a different position. Swords and anger are not used. But the court system. dc

With regard to the quote about the Beatles. No. I disagree. I think just the opposite. I think the songs were so ordinary, so usual, so just taken from everyday life that they hit a basic chord in the ordinary human and thus were popular. As to screaming teen age, or pre teen age girls, they have always done that, over one thing or another. dc

Yes, I see it all coming. And I have for at least 40 years. Good has become evil and evil has become good. It was said that public school is the place where children go to be educated by other children. Thus they receive a lowest common denominator of culture. That certainly seems to be true today. And the common culture of this country has sunk to an all time low. Forthunately there are different areas with a different culture. I'm now seeking a new area. dc

I wonder what "tolerance" really is? I know some people who disagree with my politics and so shun me like the plague. Yet all I hear today is "tolerance". At least in terms of some things like what we have here. I think a lot of people define tolerance as 'you must be all bright eyed and bushy tailed encouraging, like a cheerleader, to homosexuals." I can't agree with that. If I knew of an active practicing alcoholic, an active pedophile, a drug using addict, et alia, I could encourage them to change their ways, to get their life in order, to seek help, and I could ask them if they thought that was a good idea. I couldn't give them money. I don't think that would help them. Nor do I see how I could be "best friends" with them. dc

Thanks Anatess It helps that I'm not facing a deadline or anything. I can take the time necessary. And be involved in the interim. Thanks for all the replies. dc

I met with the missionaries today and was given a lesson on prayer. I think I have it. dc

That is a good starting point for me. I have learned that happiness is not an end point, a place to go to, but a by-product of accomplishing goals. I have come to pray as a form of thanks and gratitude for another day to live, which is probably a result of reaching the age I have reached. Quite a while ago I gave up the ritual prayers, which were a result of my Catholic childhood. Which comes to my real answer to these questions. I don't think I know how to pray. I need help. I need to learn how. Does anyone have any suggestion? dc

Oh yes, there is nothing wrong with separate rooms for sleep. It does not prevent visits to one anothers room. That can still be accomplished. I have known many who have had long and successful marriages and slept in separate rooms. I know one major case today (a real snorer). Of course you should rule out medical issues if it's snoring or anything else that could be a medical issue. I think there have to be some separate interests. Then also some common ones. Something for balance. My father was married more than 70 years. Yes, separate bedrooms probably did help in that regard. dc

Thanks Blackmarch What is being called? I do think I am being called, drawn, enticed, lured. I think I see signs. But is it just my desire? Is there a difference? I think someone else posted there has to be a reason. And the only way to know is to go and see. That's about the only way I can go. Go and do it, trust God, and make it work. dc

Catlick I have to sympathize with your initial post. I started out at exactly that question in a Catholic high school about 50 years ago. But never carried the issue to this extent, or side track, if it is. dc

Thank you. I ask people to pray. If someone expresses any religion, I sometimes ask them to pray. Not strangers, but yes, I ask them. Catholics are Christians. Baptized, confirmed, previously active, I don't think I ever became un-Catholic, or un-Christian. Just inactive. Thanks for the responses. Anyone else, please let me know what you think about my issue. David

Most of Los Angeles, most of southern California is desert, the same desert, so I know about that. David

I want to make moving to Utah a goal this year (southern Utah). I was raised as a Catholic, but have exercised no religion in my adult life. I do believe I am a Christian and that I fit, or could fit into the LDS church. That I could convert. I have been told that to live and work in a Utah town that is mostly LDS, I would perhaps be an "outsider". That they would prefer LDS in employment, thus, possibly leaving me out. I don't want to move in and be an outsider, but a part of the community. Is it honest to join or convert for that purpose? Traveling in Utah, people seem to openly accept me as seeming to be "one of them". So I feel welcome and invited there. It seems I would fit in with the politics, the restrictions, the freedoms, the ideas. But would I really be considered "not one of us" by the small town people? Maybe I'm just over thinking the thing. My grandmother, moving to Michigan from Europe (Germany or points east and south) said "we joined the Catholic church as that's what the other immigrants were doing." Do I need to convert? I think I want to. dc

I will have to go thru' Toquerville, Veyo and Enterprise, and some of the others. I know it's all so beautiful. That's definitely what draws me out there. I guess I do feel that I maybe I am being 'called' out there. Or am I. Is it self will. But if a person wants to do something, they need to just do it. Just pack up and move. That's certainly how I got here and stayed more than 40 years. At my age it's not so easy, tho'. I have been to many of the small towns. Torrey is small, and beautiful and cold at 7000 + feet. I guess I have had enough big city. I need the small town. I talked to a man from Nephi last year. He remarked that Los Angeles 'has a lot of people'. I guess that's my feeling, too many people. Thanks for the responses. David

So, you are in St George? I'm looking around there and out to Torrey. I'd really like to be in Torrey or around there. I have an acquaintance in Hurricane. He says Hurricane is indeed much warmer than Cedar City even. I know riding down (motorcycle) from Richfield to Beaver, then into St George, I have seen the weather much warmer and nicer. I think it may be elevation loss. What about the people, the work or job situation? I feel like St George is too big of a city, but Torrey is out in the middle of nothing, in terms of stores or anything. To buy anything you have to go into Richfield. Thanks for the replies. dc

I have also looked all over Idaho. Very nice, I'm just thinking it's too far north. One thing I have thoroughly enjoyed is the nice southern California weather. dc