darthzilla99

I just wanted to get some perspective from member families with high travel jobs. Even better if I can hear from members who work in land or marine surveying. 1. Was it hard on the family? How did you get through it? 2. Did you have problems or temptations with coworkers wanting you to go to the bar with them? 3. Did any of you have high traveling jobs when you were single? If so, how did you meet your spouse? Thanks.

THAT'S FALSE DOCTRINE! LOL! Joking of course (or am I?) Pineapples belong on Pizza, burgers, and tacos.

Thanks for the advice Overwatch. Went to the Temple a few weeks ago. Got some spiritual clarification. Among the guidance from the Lord, stop overthinking things, work hard at your current job, fulfill your callings (I'm on the YSA activities council in my singles ward), keep going to as many network events as possible during the hours I'm not working (I got to my college Alumni networking group every Friday morning), and continually seek to expand my job skills through more college courses, certifications, ect... Also to continue saving money. I would like to also explain that my current part-time job is not some minimum wage fast food or retail job. I work as a Research Associate for a small start-up company and the work gives me relevant experience in my degree field. Some of the skills and experience I have gained and are gaining include Supply-chain management, R&D, microbiology lab work, warehouse machinery operations, forklift operation, using various simple tools and pallet jacks, soon boiler tank operations and maintenance, shipping and receiving documentation, and quality control work. I won't divulge the city I live in or school I went to in order to keep some confidentiality, but my degree is a Bachelor of Science type of degree. I am currently looking to work in one of the following fields as they can transfer between one another: Entry level postions in: Marine Surveying Land Surveying Environmental Technician/Investigator or Natural Resource Specialist Lab technician in the Oil and Gas Industry Lab Technician/Research Assistant in a research facility Entry Level GIS position Finally, one of the sisters in my ward who is a good friend of mine told me not to be so hard on myself as she has a masters degree (I forget the name of her degree but it's a law degree), still lives with her folks, and took her more than two years to get a decent job. So thank you everyone.

Everyone thanks for the advice. For those of you who decided to character assassinate my parents, you are more wrong about them than Napoléon Bonaparte was when he invaded Russia during winter. You can criticize me all you want and it's just water off a duck's back to me, but leave my family alone. They put me through college and my mission because they love me and so I do not have to go through unnecessary debt. Also, saying being required to move could you know mean get a career job that is located more than an hour plus drive from my current home. Also, they let me live at home rent free and other necessary expenses so that I can save money for my marriage and life. I also made it clear that even though my current job is only part time, I'm 1. Putting more than half my paychecks into my savings and 2. taking a little bit out of my paychecks for my dating funds and some fun for me (which might include the occasional nerd hobby). More of that amount in point 2 is for dating budget purposes. I should not have to explain this, but I already spend most of my non-work time looking for a full time career job. I go to networking events when my work schedule permits (which I found my current job through such an event BTW), I apply online during my off hours, and now recently my parents have now been called as the ward employment specialists. Not long ago I was going to a Saturday internship in addition to my current job. I also had another full time internship back in October which expired in November. On the days I do not have work, in addition to any networking events that day, I also go to the companies I applying to online in person as well to give them a physical copy of my resume and other info. This is how I have obtained job interviews. So let me ask, assuming I got a career job close to my current home (if some company offers me a position outside my 1 +hour driving range from home, I will move then) why should I move out before marriage just to pay rent and other expenses when if I stay with parents I can save that money towards a future house with my spouse one day? (I'm just throwing random numbers here), If say I gross earn $2400 a month, net pay is 1584.64, pay $240 in tithing, pay say $100 in fast offerings, why not save $900 to my savings account and give myself $344.64 to use for dates and personal fun? Out of that $344.64, $100 is given for my own personal fun and the other $244.64 is used for dates. Why should I move out just because society tells me to if it means less money overall into my savings account?

So I was not sure if this belongs here or on the general advice board or the interests board so if it needs to be moved go ahead and I do apologize for posting in the wrong area if so. Long story short, I am a 31 year old LDS guy with some childish hobbies and interests. I enjoy weightlifting, walks with family, spending time with family, eating healthier, learning languages ( currently learning Japanese), watching nerdy shows and movies, playing video games sometimes, and collecting action figures and other collectibles. Mostly I like collecting marvel select figures, Godzilla and other monster toys, and some japanese super hero figures. I recently got my bachelors degree last year and living at home with my parents until I find my eternal spouse or a career job that requires me to move. I currently work part time at the moment while still seeking full time employment. During my time in college, dating was not so successful for me and in general have not found my spouse. During my time while I was 30, I dreaded being kicked out of the YSA ward. My bishop felt it was best for me to stay and I have a calling and everything still. Also, there are a few SA a year or two older than me that my bishop lets stay. I am trying out dating again. I have some self-confidence issues I'm still over coming. My big fear is that women think I am just another typical immature irresponsible man-child nerd who lives in his parents basement and that wont move on in life. Some of this stems from stories and comments from my family members before. When I once talked about wanting to try this one miniatures board game, my Sister-in-law overheard and commented "Girls are not impressed with your action figure collection". I also often hear stories from some of my married friends about their wives making them give up some of their collections (one had to give up his comic book collection and another had to give up his 70s and 80s movie poster collection). Because of this, and hearing the horror stories sisters in the church share about their boyfriends and husbands being addicted to video games or just not have mature conversations beyond family, church, video games, and movies, I am very afraid of telling my interests to dates beyond telling them I like walks, weight lifting, learning japanese, and family. On the other hand, when I start talking to non-member girls, they are supportive of my hobbies and get really shocked when I mention my stories above. 1. Am I wrong to have these hobbies? Should I give up a big chunk of my hobbies that, while not breaking commandments, are a little bit looked down upon in the church (video games and not sure if toy collecting as an adult is looked down upon in the church)? I don't expect my spouse to be into everything I'm into and I won't force her to be into it. I also won't put my collections in the master bedroom or anything like that. 2. Is it wrong to collect some female fictional characters? I'm wanting to collect a few marvel legends spiderman and xmen characters. I of course don't get anything breaking the law Chasity. I grew up with the 90s xmen cartoon and my favorite x-men characters include Wolverine, Cyclops, Storm, Jean Grey, Rogue, beast, and gambit. 3. I welcome any advice in general as I am scared of being myself in general. I hope my post does not seem too petty. I should also mention I have no student debt, and I put more than half my pay checks into savings. I give myself a little money for dating/fun in general. My parents are letting me live at home very lovingly. I am an RM, and eagle scout. I hold a temple recommend. It took me extra time to finish college as some classes were really difficult for me. I also try not to be too distracted with life and be responsible. My married brothers jokingly pick on me for the fact that I spend less time on video games than they do even though I am single still.