Junior

In my opinion I am not proud. I am very ashamed of the person I used to be I am proud of myself for changing but I dont think that makes me a proud person.

Nothing I have done recently is a serious sin.

My girlfriend could do a lot better than me, but she loves me so I would be a good prize for her. I am going to be a good father and I can be a good provider for the baby and my girlfriend. I already have 2 jobs and I am planning my future career that will allow me to make more money.

I hope that my girlfriend will marry someone who loves the baby so they can live with 2 parents who love them. I will also marry with a woman who will love the baby. So the baby will have 4 parents who love them.

I have changed completely from the person I was. I stopped doing so many bad things and now I am just fed up with my bishop not seeing how much I have changed. I even thought about giving up on trying to be a better person because I felt like people will only ever see my past mistakes. Only because God has given me strength to keep trying to be better and he has given me faith that one day I will be like Christ that I continue to try. I know that God is going to bless me for trying and he is going to bless my son too. So even though you think I am in error I know that God knows my heart and my intentions.

I don't know why it says that because I am a male maybe I didn't change it to male.

No I don't except my mom but I spoke to her a lot and she always just says she doesn't know and I should speak to the Bishop, which is really unhelpful. I have an older brother but he is a missionary so we don't talk much and then I just have family in Tonga but my mom wouldn't want me to talk about it with them because she is ashamed that my girlfriend is going to have a baby. Yeah he has been harsh with me in that way too. He hasn't told me well done ever and I have changed so much from when I first spoke to him. I just want him to give me some indication I am doing better instead of always telling me what I did wrong . I just want some love from him because I cared about his opinion so much but he keeps making me feel like I am failing.

I don't think it is fair to say that my parents failed me because my older brother isn't like me and neither are my younger siblings. It was my own choice to do the things I did and to stop going to church. I did stop going to church because I blamed God about my parents divorce and my dad moving back to Tonga but now I realise that was stupid. So it is just my fault not my parents.

What hurt will the baby have? I will love the baby and so will my girlfriend.

I don't have mental health problems. I just meant that she is just as much to blame as me but I wont ever make her apologise to me because what is done is done. I don't have mental health problems at all.

Well all I can say that is with the help of Christ I have completely changed. My old life feels like a long time ago. Compared to my friends my age I am not immature I have 2 jobs and I am planning for the future by getting a career as a tennis coach so it is a more stable job and I can support the baby and my girlfriend forever. I will never do that.

Why does it matter when I break up with her? Also, you never know I may change my mind and want to marry her. I want to be a family with the baby but I don't see it working right now. I gave her lots of money too and bought her a car also I spent over $1000 on things for the baby and next month I have to spend even more money for things for the baby. Also, I am always going to visit her to make sure she is okay even though it isn't convenient for me. I know I have been forgiven but the bishop wont accept that it is possible for me to be forgiven if I don't marry my girlfriend which is unfair. Why would that happen to me? If she wants me to support her by being there at night to help with the baby then I will. I work nights anyway so it will be rare that I can stay over with her and the baby anyway.

If she doesn't owe me an apology then I don't see why I owe her one. I am 19 but I will be 20 a month after the baby is born. So I am not really young. I wasn't saying I am blameless because obviously I am not.

That isn't true I have 2 jobs and I bought my girlfriend a car and I spent lots of money on things for the baby. In the evening I work in a gas station and during the day I work as a janitor at a Tennis club and I am an Apprentice tennis coach. I just do the janitor job there because I don't get a lot of money as an apprentice until I qualify as a coach. I string rackets sometimes too. I will always be there for the child if they want to when they are older they can live with me. If my girlfriend lets me then I will take the baby to church with me. I know I am not going to only see the baby on weekends I will see them at least 3 days a week.

No I never slept with her when I moved in with her. She could have used protection too, it isn't my fault she got pregnant. I slept with her but she is the one who got pregnant. I am not going to go out partying! Yeah it is different but I was a different person then. Now I wouldn't do that. I am 19. I will apologise to her but she should apologise to me too. She was wrecked my life and she has never apologised to me.

I do want a temple marriage, which is a good thing to want.

because she hates it that I am a member of the church and she doesn't get on with my mom at all. Also, she is kind of controlling of me and I don't think I can put up with that forever.

I know and I don't want to hurt her because i care for her so much. I am thinking of moving back in with her once the baby is born to help her out especially at night to make sure she gets enough rest. I wouldn't fully move in but would just have a few things there so I can easily stay over to help her out with night times.

Okay I thought it was for a woman who had a child whose dad wasn't around at all. Well I do admit that I could have been more honest with her but I never treated her like a whore.

No she isn't a whore. We were together for a long time before she agreed to sleep with me and I know she would never sleep with lots of people. She didn't know that I wasn't always honest about my intentions towards her.

Because she is attractive and I wanted to have fun and I wasn't thinking about the future but now I am I know it wont be fun to be married to her because we have a lot of differences.

Explain why it is sinful? Well I would love to be with her but it wont work. Also, I will never leave her as a single mother I will help her completely and I will even have the baby to live with me as much as she wants.

Well I want to get back to being temple worthy because I want that for my child to have a dad who is temple worthy. So I am just trying to get there in the next few months.

Yeah I do. I don't think so. I haven't been the most discrete about it, when I moved out she asked me what was going on between us and I said we should stay together for now. So I am not making her promises I wont keep or anything.

I do think I have been very patient with my bishop. I honestly think he believes that unless I marry with my girlfriend I will never be temple worthy. It is like he doesn't accept my decision on not marrying her and now he picks on minor things to make me feel bad.