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There were so many times I rocked the boat with my girlfriend before we were married, like I moved out because I thought it was against the teachings of the church to live with her and she wanted me to stay living with her. It isn't like I am never bold I can be, especially if I think it is something against the teachings of the church

All I can say is I am a keeper of the peace

Hi, I feel like I haven't slept in 4 months . How do you sleep when your baby wakes up all throughout the night. sometimes for feeding and sometimes for no reason. My wife brings our daughter into our room and settles her then takes her back to the crib but about the second time the baby wakes my wife leaves her in our bed. I can't sleep with the baby in the bed because I am so aware she is there and I'm scared I may squash her. Also, I can't sleep through her cries, usually I just get 1 hour of sleep and by 1AM that's it. Also, three nights a week I work a night shift so I can go almost 40 hours with no sleep as I go straight to my day job. Please tell me how you sleep with a baby? Also, I feel kind of guilty because I drink so many cans of energy drinks every day and take some caffeine pills. Do you think it's bad? I feel like it is bad if I am addicted but I don't think I am addicted because if I could get enough sleep then I wouldn't drink them or take any pills. Although, I have realised I need to drink more and more to keep awake now than I did a couple of months ago.

My wife is a methodist and she wants to have our daughter baptised and confirmed into the methodist church. Obviously, I would rather that not happen, but I have no problems with Methodists. The country I am from Tonga is the only Methodist country in the world and I have lots of friends and family who are Methodist. I wish I could take my daughter to church with me but I am okay with her going to a Methodist church with my wife, and she doesn't know what is going on. Maybe when she is older my wife and I will discuss what church to raise her in, or both.

We did speak about that but because she doesn't like the church she doesn't want me to take the baby to church with me.

Well whatever but my wife wouldn't lie about her health she isn't a pyscho.

Well I'm not controlling, but I would want her to ask me can she go to this thing at church so we can plan around the baby and my work commitments accordingly. Also, my wife isn't controlling it's just I don't get much time off work during the week and Sunday is my only full day so she wants us to spend it as a family and she can get some rest because I can help her with the baby. It's hard being married with someone from another faith because time I spend at church is time I spend away from them. I am willing to sacrifice some time with my family for God of course but from my wife's perspective it seems I am choosing church over her and the baby

It's not funny

I am a caring husband, at least I try my best to be ... Anyway my wife said I can go to church for one hour on Sunday as long as she is well enough to look after the baby, I told her of course I won't leave her to go to church if she is unwell. And she said anything else to do with the church like, meeting my bishop, accepting a calling, paying tithe, taking my mom to the temple etc I need to run by her first. It seems reasonable to me. Plus I didn't have to hurt her feelings

Yeah I am going to ask her please can I go for 1 hour and for the rest of the day we can do anything that you want. I want her to know it's a sacrifice for me not to be with her and our daughter on our family time day but I think this is going to bless us. Then if she says no she doesn't want me to go well we can either talk about it or yeah it's up to her

I never acted that she was an abuser. I'm going to try and go to church on Sunday. I'm just going to kindly say to her that I have to go because I miss it, but I will come straight back and drive to her grandparents and we can spend the rest of the day together

No, whilst I am sure he mixes in a lot of satire I don't think he is lying in his documentaries I'm not American so I have no interest in the history of America but a friend of mine liked Michael Moore documentaries .

The man is a speaker of truth, the only American history I know is through him. And I know you loved the video

@Vort here is your history of America and guns https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lGYFRzf2Xww&frags=pl%2Cwn

How old is the USA ? You think it is a God given right to own a gun ?

History is history. Lots of present day countries have freedom of speech without having the right to own a firearm Clearly you're pro gun and I'm anti gun

Well I have tried to talk to her about church directly but she doesn't want to, she always says she is tired or she can't make a decision right now. I don't know if she is as tired as she says but when I get home from work it's quite late so maybe she is just tired. She does know church is important to me and she knows how hard I was trying before we got married to get a temple recommend. It does upset me that I can't go to church but I haven't told my wife that and I don't walk around sulking on Sundays so she may not know I am upset.

My wife doesn't abuse me at all, she is very caring towards me. When I say I am concerned about her or scared about her I mean the way she will react, she will take it personally and get really upset and she can over think things and get herself into some kind of state. But she would never hurt me.

I believe in free speech, but I don't believe owning a firearm helps you defend your right to free speech.

Yeah but you would hear a mom say (or at least you would hear my mom say) "If she breaks your heart I will go after her"

I wish firearms could just be banned already

Yeah my mom has told me before that I need to stand up for myself and not just do what people say but It's not my nature to push back and I think God made me this way so I would be a good son. No I don't think God is happy that I am not going to church but God knows where my heart is at. Sure I can tell her that but she will be so mad at me When I spoke to her last night she seemed to say I can go to church when she starts going back to her church. I pray for her all the time obviously I want her to come with me to church. I really want to go to church on Sunday but I am very concerned about her reaction

Well that's good for you. I can't just magic my wife to be like your husband. And I am trying to meet her needs, which is why I don't want to upset her by going to church. I spoke to her a bit last night about me having more time to do some other things apart from her and the baby and she said soon when she is feeling better and finding it easier with the baby I can see my friends, so I'm sure then I can go to church too. And she said she wants to go back to Methodist church so we will probably split on Sunday mornings so I'm sure soon I can go to church again.

I understand everything you are saying completely. The way I see it though is that my wife already dislikes the church, if I tell her I don't care about her opinion and go anyway. She will see it as a betrayal, like @JGarcia said he resented his wife going to church. I don't want her to resent me or the church, that's why I want to get her to accept it before I just start going. My wife doesn't like upsetting me, it's just that she thinks she knows best for our family, that's why she wants me to be with them. I believe it's best for our family if we all go to church together but I know that can't happen, because my wife has her own church and I'm sure at some point I will be able to start going back to church. I just need to decide the best time to raise it with her

2 Sundays ago I was offered some extra shift on Sunday evening but my wife didn't want me to do it because she wanted to spend time with me. It isn't all about working all the time and being away from your family. In the culture I come from it is that way men work and have nothing to with the home, but I don't see that as a good thing having grown up that away. I want to be with my wife and daughter as much as I can