Junior

I come for advice and you just ask oh why aren't you listenting to everything I say well maybe I disagree with you genius

Sometimes I think about it so I can go back to having time to myself but after a couple of days I think I will miss them. And it wouldn't be right to leave my wife alone with the baby

It isn't that I don't want to spend time with her, but after I have worked all day I just need to rest. But she wants all my attention even if we are watching TV and I look at my phone she gets mad at me and if she is talking to me and I look at my phone she gets mad at me. When I am tired and she talks to me I zone out and when she realises she gets upset and I just need her to be more understanding. Also, I will just try to have some small time to read scriptures she doesn't like it that I ignore her and the baby, so that's why I was asking some way I can include her

If I had a job that ended at a reasonable time this would be a good option I usually get home from work at 22:30 and I just want rest but my wife wants all my attention, she wouldn't even want to go out with her friends if I offered she just wants to spend time with me. On Thursdays I am allowed to see my mom and siblings so that's the time I get.

I finish work every day at 9/10 pm, usually by the time I am home the baby is settled, I would like to have 2 nights where I come home and just go do my own thing in the house, like read or play video games etc. My wife won't let me do that she wants me to spend time with her. I do want to spend time with my wife too and more time with my baby, but the only day I finish early is Thursday but I go see my mom and siblings. Do you think it is fair that after I get home from work at 22:30 I can't just relax ? I appreciate she is bored and lonely but what can I do ?

Yes when I get home I want to relax and do the things I want to but my wife always wants to eat with me and watch tv with me and talk etc Yes she has told me before that she finds it boring to look after the baby and she is lonely and I feel bad but I have to work everyday apart from Sunday and on Sunday after church I do give them all my attention. But she wants too much from me

I told her lots of times that I want to see my friends and have time on my own but well she gets upset that I don't want to spend time with her, that's why I was asking some way I can tell her please let's have some times apart but in a way that shows her I want to be with her. And I want some way she can do spiritual things with me

I shouldn't have said my wife hits me because it's not an accurate description, but she won't ever hurt me, she isn't violent.

read the post and look at the lines which end with a question mark 😂

It's still so much money, I did think about counselling but I looked at the cost and I will need to spend more money in one hour than I earn in one day. If we went one time a month do you need to pay upfront for x many months? No I can't ask him to because he already helped me a lot

she hasn't ever hurt me, we had times when I was frustrating her and she hit me but she wasn't trying to hurt me

Maybe if I sell a kidney I can afford to go to a counsellor, they are over $100 per hour. 😂

Hi, my name is Junior I have been married for 4 months and we have a daughter who is 6 months old now. I like being a family with them but my wife expects too much from me. She wants all my attention and I can't hang out with my friends or colleagues. When I am home with her she doesn't let me speak to my friends on the phone or via social media, even though she gets to see her friends during the day and she messages with them. If I say to her now I want to go and read or go to bed she gets mad and says she has been alone all day with the baby and now she wants to spend time with me, but I am tired and she even gets mad at me if I yawn. The only thing I can do without her is go and visit my mom, but if my mom phones me and I am home my wife lets me answer but I have to speak on speaker phone. I spoke to a couple I know at church and they said they spend most evenings together but sometimes they go out separately, but they said I should spend most of my spare time with my wife. Do you know some way I can tell my wife she has to let me do the things I want to more? She makes it hard for me to do the things I need to do spiritually, like she lets me go to church but she doesn't give me time to study scriptures and I am meant to have a calling but I can't fulfil it, and I finally got a temple recommend but I haven't been able to go, I really need some advice, so I can do these things and maybe some way that I can include my wife with them

My first date with my ex was back in Tonga when I was 16 and we went to the cinema with her parents. It was so awkward I think we were alone for about 90 seconds, was my worse date by far.

ooo that's cool I will buy it. I am not healthy right now I think I would be diagnosed with exhaustion

I hope it is 17 weeks 😂

I did suggest that to her once but she said she doesn't sleep well because she is always sort of listening out for the baby, so she is tired too. I do need some sleep soon though as I actually have had to stop driving my car on my own because I dozed off at the wheel for like 40 seconds, so now I ride my bike which tires me out more but is way safer.

The way I see it is I can't win. I can either tell my wife I am going to church and I will take my daughter and I don't care about my wife's thoughts or feelings and I am that kind of man I hate. Or I let my wife choose which church to raise our daughter in and leave teaching about God up to her and I am that kind of man who doesn't get involved with his kids who I hate just as much. Well I truly believe God did make me this way so I could care for my mom and be a comfort to her. I'm not using my daughter as an excuse. I've been to the sacramnet meeting 2 weeks in a row now and I am trying my best to follow Jesus

I already said my wife isn't abusive and I'm not abused. I am God's disciple. My wife won't want to hear about my faith, but I love methodists already. Anyway I think we can wait and discuss about raising the baby in what church until she is a lot older.

Okay but what do I do? I can't just put my foot down and take the baby to church against my wife's wishes. Sure we can have a talk and maybe compromise on something but I am not going to make any demands and force my wife to agree to something she isn't comfortable with and if that makes me a door mat fine. If your husband said he doesn't want you to take your daughter to church anymore then would you continue to take her against his wishes ?

I guess we still aren't 100 percent sure if our daughter has any health conditions. She has had 2 checkups and they have been fine but I think you never fully know the baby is 100 percent health wise.

I have a daughter. It's strange how looked down upon a family bed is in the USA. It's pretty normal in Tongan culture, I don't know if we will do it but I think it is fine once the child sleeps like the parents. I slept with my parents until my younger sister was born and then I had to leave so she wouldn't wake me up but once she slept through I went back. I don't think it's bad for the child.

My insides do not feel great

1) you're wrong 2) you have wasted your time because I won't read your answer 3) don't talk to me again

When do you think the baby will sleep through she is 17 weeks now. My mom said after 12 weeks all of her kids slept through the night. My wife says that our daughter sleeps well during the day but at night it's so bad.