Junior

Please I don't let women boss me around 😂. Actually, I do all the time but I don't think my wife will appreciate me standing up to her.

yeah but for my wife me loving her is being with her and not going to church, because she needs me to drive her to her grandparents and help her with our daughter so she can rest on Sunday.

I'm not with her 24/7 I work Monday - Saturday for 10/12 hours. So my girlfriend wants me to be with her and the baby on Sunday. I feel bad that I am away from them for so long every day but I do want to go to church so I don't know what to do.

But she doesn't want to be part of it . I don't think my wife is petty.

We're only 20 lol. Did you ever resolve your disagreements about her going to church ?

Sorry man that's the impression I got

I think it does mean that. My wife does love and respect me, but she doesn't like the church. It isn't a personal thing against me

His marriage failed, I don't want my marriage to fail. I do have faith that God will make a way for me to return to church soon

That is a whole other issue, my wife has her own church that she is a part of and we haven't spoken about what church we will raise our daughter in but given my wife's dislike of the church I am not holding my breath. I have tried to explain that to her before but well it is hard for her to understand how I will be a better husband and father by spending less time with them.

I was mainly waiting for my wife to be more settled as a mom and her to be feeling better. Yeah I want to go to church so much. I really don't want to upset my wife though

Did it make you dislike the church even more, because you felt like the church was taking her away from you ?

We've only been married 6 weeks it's not like we got married and magically the next day we were the perfect family. We're still figuring it out but I love and respect my wife

I just turned 20, I am trying to be an adult but I'm quite mature anyway because since my parents divorced I've had to help my mom care for my younger siblings. I really don't want to hurt my wife and if I choose to go to church over taking her to her grandparents or even if I take her and then go to church it will hurt her that I'm choosing church instead of spending time with her and our daughter. I really don't want to upset her and she is still quite hormonal and she is vulnerable right now. She is still trying to find her feet as a mom, it hasn't been easy for her. I know God is more important to me than my wife but I don't want my wife to feel that way. It's not necessarily just about me being able to do what I want it's about her emotions. Don't get me wrong I want to go to church and I will try explaining that to my wife, but I can't just say I'm doing this whether you like it or not.

I have a testimony that the church is true. I do try to put the church first

Well my wife didn't want me to go and see my mom once a week but I convinced her without having to tell her I'm going to do it and I don't care about her opinion.

I want to put God first but I can't let my wife know that because she wants me to put her and our baby first

Okay change the word argue to upset, I don't want to upset my wife.

Yeah I know my baby can be away from my wife for a few hours but it would probably clash with her feeding time. Ok maybe I am making excuses but it's not because I don't want to go to church it's because I don't want to argue with my wife. Also, she is still not fully healed and I do need to drive her around still including to her grandparents on Sunday.

And you would say as much to your wife ?

But I was going to church really frequently until the baby was born, so I'm sure she knew that I would go back to church again soon. Unfortunately, my wife had an emergency c section. The Doctor told us 6-8 weeks until she can drive but my wife still doesn't feel ready and she hasn't fully recovered. Also, if she's driving up front and the baby is fussing in the back it will be extra hassle for her to pull over and tend to our daughter. I think it's best if I drive her. I don't think she is using medical reasons to control me, because it's a lot more frustrating to her that she can't drive whilst I'm at work. I do know a ward near her grandparents house but I think it will cause an argument if I go to church. I don't want to argue with her but I definitely don't want to argue with her infront of her grandparents.

I don't think she will appreciate me telling her what I am going to do. And she does need me to drive her to her grandparents on Sunday. I couldn't take the baby with me though because my wife is still feeding her. No my bishop isn't my uncle. I have an Uncle who is currently a bishop but he is in Tonga.

Honesyly, we got married very quickly. I think she knew that I would still go to church though. I did know before we got married that she didn't want me to go to church but I never agreed not to go. And really we mainly speak about the baby now, so I haven't had much of a chance to speak to her about it and I don't want to stress her out or upset her.

Yeah it would be 2 hours to be fair as it's an hour round trip for me to get to church. Which I still think isn't a big amount of time to be away from them. Yeah I'm not worried about impressing him anymore. He kind of annoyed me last time I saw him, I was telling him my wife was still a little unwell and he didn't seem to care.

I do want to give her and my daughter all my time but I feel like I could be a better husband and dad if I could just go to the sacrament meeting. I also feel a little guilty to put my family before church commitments. 14 weeks went so quickly, I feel like I could wake up tomorrow and my baby girl will be 6 months 😂

Hi, my name is Junior I have actually asked a question here before maybe 2 a while ago. Anyway, I got married 6 weeks ago and we have a 14 week old baby so I was struggling to make it to the sacrament meeting even before I was married because I barely slept when my daughter was first born and my girlfriend didn't want me to leave her with the baby in the morning. I want to go to church but my wife doesn't really want me to go to church and she says we have to go visit her grandparents on Sunday, she had a complication with the birth so she is unable to drive yet so I need to drive her. Last Wednesday evening I had a meeting with my bishop just like a catch up because he wanted to talk to me about church attendance and when I got home my wife was mad at me for going to see my bishop. The week before my mom wanted a lift to the temple so I took her and waited for her and my girlfriend got mad at me and said she doesn't mind if I see my mom but she doesn't want me to go to the temple. She really doesn't like me doing anything that involves the church 😕 What do you think I should do? I have only been married 6 weeks so I don't want to upset my wife but I really want to go to at least the sacrament meeting on Sunday. Side Note, my bishop wasn't very understanding of the fact that I can't make it to church because I need to help my wife with the baby. Why do you think that is ?