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I'm a woman and what i learned is that it hurts to love...for both he and she... and that it helps not to demand or create expectations but to get to know the precious soul in front of you...and love...and love...and leave behind expectations or previous training...for...that soul in front of you is God's, made by Him, and having qualities precious to Him...and our job is to be the most sweet girl we can, and give and give and learn who that often mysterious yet special man is. It means letting go of a lot... forgetting one's own needs..and only to love. Our lives here are not the main focus, at least as far as I understand, so please forgive me to give an opinion, since I don't know you personally, but our lives are but for God, and our focus might not be His yet, because we are here, with a limited view...and so.. the thing to do is forget about oneself and to love the other... and see what happens then..the same with your children...how utterly unconditionally you love them... and then apply that to the other soul, your man in front of you. Anyway, I'm an older person, but that is my two cents, even though I know that it may sound a bit idealistic.

I would skip therapy. Often, a third party can complicate things... so my opinion, as a complete stranger, is for you and he to decide to trust each other and put others second in line, except for God. There is nothing wrong with having a long distance relationship, where you live apart but talk. I wouldn't feel you need to do more than that to consider marriage a success. I know that sounds weird. Most try to express the idea of progress. But consider that the only progress is to God... for all of us here..to be with Him. And that you are doing very well, you love each other and then just stop beating yourselves up... and if that is the case, it's okay not to have to feel you need to meet someone else's expecations. Only God is important. You love each other. Focus on that and don't worry about the externals in this world. ❤️

Looking forward to the forum. I'm new here. : ) I'm not LDS but I know a couple of people who are, over the years, and I have two friends currently who are. I'm christian and enjoy to talk to other Christians without arguing and fighting, just learning and exchanging what we understand. I met one LDS friend on a different evangelical forum, which is a contentious place, and he suggested I try here. Another person I am friends with on FB, a lovely girl who lives in Indiana. When I was a young thing, I was friends with a woman who I know is still LDS though we are seriously out of touch for decades. About me. I retired from it now but I worked as a prof for a long time and wearied of philosophy and theology, when all God wants is a soul, not a robot genius . : ) I'm an older woman who mostly now reads scripture and does not attend any congregation. I've had experiences with God and I met Him and my whole life belongs to Him. I look forward to the opportunity to chat once mods approve my posts. Thank you.

I think that sometimes someone wants things, but then once they are safer, and under the contract, then a problem starts, because it's too easy to ignore the whole picture. I'm female, but I think that often females do not want to ruled by their husband and therefore, a long term battle ensues. It could be the husband is not loving or caring and rules badly, or, that he really tries, and the woman wants to be in charge. But all this is the carnal rearing up.... The male, assuming he is listening to God, must rule the family. And that's it. If there is an oppressive situation, then that's something that of course has to be resolved. Too bad though that both sides enter into an agreement, but hide from the other anything that could be an impediment later. The main thing is that 1) female must submit to male authority, and that 2) both must be submitting to God. If those two conditions are true, then it's okay and anything can be resolvable.

I'm a woman and I wish women were sweet and could drop feminism and didn't have to worry about being out there.

the glory of male is indeed female. I'll post more on this, all three points.