I don't have a spouce, but I have a very special girlfriend. She is mentally challenged, and has significant difficulties with certain tasks. However, in her I sense a strong spirit. She comes from a long line of social workers, and she too has a special ability as it seems for nurtering. If she had not incurred any brain damage when she was born, she would have followed in her mother's footsteps for sure. She is quite a silly person, and she makes me laugh. She is quite loveable, and it's like being with a little child, yet with some adult attributes. I know that sounds gross, especially when I am romantically interested in her, but it's that inate child like quality, like humility, that gives her that character that I really enjoy being with.
Most other mentally challenged people I know have a tendancy to be quite self centred. Well that's normal considering they all have the intellectual capacity of a 5 year old. Well as any parent could attest to, some kids are self centred brats, and some are kind hearted and sweet and nurtering. With my girlfriend, that side of her was fortunatly not taken out like I think happens with so many people. What touched me the most lately, is that I found that she has been helping a friend of hers for several years. The boy cannot talk, and I think has some severe autistic tendancies(like the "potato bums"). My girlfriend has helped him out since they were in grade six. She has also looked after other kids in her class(all of them have special needs).
To put in blunt, I find women who like social work to be quite attractive. I suppose it goes with my desire to be a father. I have to be careful because society may not be comforatable with our relationship(she is also alot younger than me as well). I also have to make sure I don't tempt myself too much arround her.