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I was called to be the YW president in May and have absolutely loved the calling. I have stellar counselors, a great secretary, and wonderful advisers. WHen I was called, my bishop asked I call a sister from the former presidency to serve as an adviser, particularly because she was so upset about being released and that she is fluent in spanish (we have 2 beehives that speak spanish only). I agreed, knowing he knew her far better than I did. Since, she has been slow to communicate if at all, absent from many meetings without informing others, and most recently has displayed animosity toward me personally, not the presidency (Made that part painfully clear). At the beginning of July, the 2nd counselor with whom she works closest (they're over the beehive class together) expressed to me concern of this adviser not attending meetings, planning lessons, or assisting in planning activities. I said I would pray about it and see what actions we might want to take. I expressed in the group altogether that we needed to aim to support one another and that a big part of that is attending activities and Sunday meetings as often as possible. Everyone agreed during in the conversation. This week we had a combined activity during which we would be planning 3 separate events coming up that heavily involve all 3 classes. She was not in attendance. I texted in the group text to see if she was coming (I did not have her number saved separately, my mistake) and the second counselor said she had texted her privately before saying she would not be there. Totally fine. I responded "Okay - next time we have a combined activity let's text in the group if we will be absent so we can plan accordingly". Everyone else saw this as a reasonable request. She responded and said she would take into consideration my suggestion. I responded that it would only be fair to all of us to know who will be attending and assisting in combined activities. Again, no one else has had an issue with this. She responded cruelly saying she had to pray about this and said I was contradicting myself constantly and that I clearly do not value any one else's opinions. I asked her if we could take this conversation away from the group. I apologized very sincerely for upsetting her and any actions I've taken to make her feel any less than critical to the organization. She responded again extremely hatefully, saying she only had a problem with me and not the rest of the presidency and that I just am afraid of losing control so I don't listen to her. Again, I've had limited interaction with this sister outside of combined meetings and combined organizational meetings. I have, since the beginning, made it my goal to never focus on myself during this calling, but to only focus on the girls and their individual and group needs. I have emphasized the critical role each leader plays in the organization and in the girls' lives/spiritual journeys. I feel physically ill over this, mainly because she has spread this hateful energy to her daughter who serves as beehive president. I feel lost. I don't feel she can or should serve in the organization if she feels this way about the president, whether I was serving in that capacity or not. However, I do not want her to feel I released her out of retaliation and as a power move. I do not want this energy or dissension in the YW organization. I want a happy and healthy environment for my girls to thrive in. What do I do?!
Does anyone have any examples of how receiving recognition for completing Personal Progress helped them? As a leader, I'm really struggling to see the value in checking off the boxes and handing out the ribbons. I'm totally on board with doing the experiences and the value projects, since I see the value in those. I just don't see the benefit of YW in Excelllence Nights, etc.
We are currently living in Europe and do not speak the language in our ward. Almost all the adult members speak English, to a degree, but all the meetings are held in another language with translation offered to us. My husband and I both serve in the ward and we attend every Sunday. The problem is that our daughter is now old enough to attend Young Women. The girls her age do not speak English but are nice enough. She is already an introvert but the language issues make it worse. She does not want to go to the weekly activities or even to church on Sunday. This is having a major impact on her testimony and, in my opinion, she needs more interaction with English-speaking LDS girls and youth leaders. I have looked online for a Skype YW class or Skype Sunday School Youth class, but have found nothing. I know that our Farsi friends in our ward meet weekly on Skype for Sunday School, but I have not found anyone meeting in English. I have contacts in the U.S. I could ask for their YW and youth classes to Skype with our daughter, but then there would be time zone issues. Has anyone heard of an official (or unofficial) Skype class for expats? Or for YW who are home bound? Any ideas? Thanks in advance.
Hey everyone, I'm new here, but I've been feeling really lost and don't know what to do. I got called to be YW president back in early February, and as a 23 year old who basically just left being a young women, it's been a little overwhelming. One of the first things I did was talk to the laurels about how they needed to come to church more regularly because I had noticed they were sluffing a bunch, but I definitely approached it wrong since it came off like a lecture. They all loved me last year when I was just a camp leader, but now they all hate me. One of girls actually went home to her mom and cried about how I had singled her out in front of everyone and been a complete jerk, etc, to which her mom told her she didn't have to put up with it and to come to RS. So, that was super awesome and awkward. But now it is like the other YW don't trust me anymore and everyone at church talks about how awful I am. Anyway, I guess I'm sort of over that, but what I'm not over is the fact that my laurels aren't coming at all anymore. One was super active, and she just kind of stopped, but I guess that is partly due to the fact that she is 18 and graduating here in a couple of weeks, etc. Then another who is 17 (the pres) stopped coming to church and activities, though she still always makes it to BYC somehow, and she refuses to come to girls camp, laurel leadership, or youth conference this summer. I know it is hard for her because her two other best friends have stopped coming, but she still has another year of high school. Then there is the last laurel (active anyway) who comes every week and to everything but is always by herself. And I can tell she feels like there's nobody there with her and that makes her uncomfortable. Anyway, the laurel who does come has a mom in my presidency who basically hints at the fact that I'm an awful president and leader to her daughter all the time, if not straight out saying it which she did once. And I can't help but agree. I have no idea how to help the girls because honestly, I wasn't super interested in church and mutual at their age either. But I want to help them, and the fact that they aren't coming to anything just makes me feel like crap. Anyway, I guess I mostly just wondered if it was normal for this to happen at this time of year when school is getting out or with laurels, or is it really just me? Oh...and I'm pregnant...so I'm sure those hormones are totally helping.